to think that if you drop a child off at their home you wait to see if they've got in the front door?

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

It's only coutreoud isn't it?

Someone was due to drop off DD3 at 7.30pm, bit decided to come apporx 30 mins earlier.

And just dropped and drive off.

We were all in the back garden so couldn't hear the door bring knocked.

Ever the resourceful one, after knocking for a while, she climbed over the dude gate and joined us. To our looks of wtaf have you just come from?

Ffs.

Should I say anything or leave it? Im inclined to leave it btw as am quite non confrontational. But am saddened that she could've been hanging around on the drive fir 30mins.

[BalloonSlayer]

I do it with adults, not just kids!

On the way home from a night out I waited outside for ages until a light came on. Other friend I hadn't dropped off yet asked me why I was hanging about. I said "Well she's a bit pissed and what if she falls over in the garden and freezes to death?" (It was v v cold.) Friend v. amused but you never know. It didn't inconvenience me, sitting in my nice warm car for an extra minute just to be sure.

[leedsgirl231]

When I get dropped off they wait till I go in the door, it's common courtesy.

[Bunbaker]

Oh go on then. OH is away.

[HolidayCriminal]

I dunno, even with an adult friend, I'd prefer to see them going thru door before I drove off. It does just feel like basic courtesy.

I wouldn't worry about safety issues with a 10yo, more like faff issues.

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

Oh bum.

A quick snuggly hug then?

[Bunbaker]

Yes actually

[Bunbaker]

I am open to offers

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

I LOVE you Bunbakee. Are you married?

[Bunbaker]

"Lots of children of 9,10,11 wlak themselves home from school! Why do we insist on infantilising our children?"

You are completely missing the point. DD comes home from school on her own. She has a key and can let herself in. She knows which days there will be someone at home and which days there won't.

The parents in question just dropped the girl off, half an hour early, and just assumed there would be someone at home. You are assuming that all 11 year olds have their own key and are mature and sensible.

There are too many assumptions on this thread (and in this post )

[AskBasil]

Yes, but it just made me laugh.

[sassysally]

An 11 year old isn't an infant!!

[AskBasil]

LOL if you can't infantilise children, who can you infantilise?

[sassysally]

she's 11!!!! I thought you must be talking about a 6 yr old! 2 cars in the drive they would have assumed you were in.I am sure an 11 yr old should be capable of coping with this situation.Lots of children of 9,10,11 wlak themselves home from school! Why do we insist on infantilising our children?

[Bunbaker]

"I would be expecting an 11 year old to be getting themself home from visiting friends without a lift."

You are making a lot of assumptions there. Only one of DD's friends lives within walking distance and the others don't live on a bus route, so it's a lift or nothing. We live rurally BTW.

[Nocomet]

Very difficult at our house as the doors riund the corner.

I have found a 12y DD2 on the doorstep (fortunately only for 10 minutes), because DD1 had headphones on and didn't hear the bell.

[ZingWatermelon]

math

definitely.
again, common courtesy and just a normal caring attitude

[SlimJiminy]

I also wait for an adult or child to get in the house before driving off.

[mathanxiety]

If I were dropping a child off earlier than arranged I would call to make sure someone would be home. Same goes for running late.

[AskBasil]

I think there's a difference between an 11 year old in last year of primary and an 11 year old who has been at secondary for a couple of terms.

Also I'd never "assume" an 11 year old had a key, I'd ask.

[BoomBoomsCousin]

At 11 I would have presumed she had a key. And assuming she was averagely competent and savvy for her age I wouldn't think dropping and running was bad unless there was some question about whether or not she could get in - and I would expect her to voice that.

I dislike it when people who drop me wait for me to go in the house. Feels like I'm being scrutinized and checked up on, especially with taxi drivers and ILs!

[Ludways]

I make sure adults get I the house before I drive off, lol. I'd certainly never drive off without checking with a child.

YANBU

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

Cheers, dude.

[ZingWatermelon]

Chaos

&

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

Where did I say she was visiting friends?

She doesn't have a key because she dorsn't need one.

Great big Sigh

[ikeaismylocal]

I would be expecting an 11 year old to be getting themself home from visiting friends without a lift.

What is the worst that could happen, an 11 year sitting on the doorstep waiting for her parents. I don't think thats something to worry about.

I would think it's time for a key if your concerned.