AIBU in asking can she go elsewhere

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I feel bad in that I would like my friend to leave our house now. Few months ago she was admitted to mental health ward. Previous to this she would turn up at my house numerous times with the police bringing her here in a state. Issues with dp and their children,social services involvement. In short she has problems with alcohol and other addictions and has mental health issues. As do I and I'm on meds at the moment. Whilst going through my own personal issues.
We have been friends for years but lost touch I. The past 6/7 years only waving at each other in passing. She has now been released from hospital and asked me if she could stay here for a couple of days as she is homeless. That was fine with me as I wouldn't want to see anybody out on the street. We are now three weeks in and she is still here on the sofa. Arguing with her family,partner, shouting, crying on the phone and falling into a heap on the floor. This is a regular occurance morning and through the evening. Talking to other patients who tell her they are going to kill themselves, then going into hysterics at me telling me and what should she do.I have a ds who now stays up in his room to avoid this and it's not fair on him as he shouldn't have to see this. It is changing our relationship as I don't spend anytime with him because of supporting her. I must sound like a shallow friend but I am finding it draining,AIBU in asking her if she could find somewhere else to go. Please don't flame me just want some advice

just read the whole thread...well done for getting her out.

How is DS tonight? I would get a film and popcorn and snuggle on sofa tomorrow...

Yes, she took the piss out if you. But that's because she knew you're good person who tries to see the best in people and who's natural reaction is to help.
Be proud of how you've handled things today. Break contact with mutual friends, it'll do you the world of good.
You've shown yourself how strong you can be, youwill get through these hard times and create a lovely future for you and DS.

Well done. I know that you would prefer not to have to redecorate, but I'm sure that anger helped you to to muster up the courage to make her leave. If she had gone a different manipulative route, you would have found it much harder and it probably would have stressed you out more in the long run.
At least now you can relax, know that you've been strong and handled the situation well, and you can repaper later on, when you've got a bit of time.

Well done you! See, you are stronger than you thought!

Ds was okay tonight and glad she has gone. We are defiantly doing snuggle on the sofa friday tomorrow as we used to do, now that she is no longer sleeping on it.
You have all made me think about how I should gain some confidence and I have taken this on board thank you lovely mumsnetters.

So glad you've had a good outcome OP (apart from the wallpaper damage). May I suggest you block her umber, and her DP's, and leave them to it, at least for the next couple of weeks?

I'm glad you're having snuggly Friday tonight. Don't let her back in (as a friend) will you? She's a taker - she couldn't or wouldn't offer friendship because of her illness or selfishness, but she's not your problem. Hold on to that firmness.

I would seriously block all contact with her DP. He has a vested interest in you carrying on being a soft touch.

Stay strong. You did the right thing.

So pleased she is out of your house and you have shown your inner strength. Well done you! Have a wonderful sofa Friday with your DS.

"Her dp says I shouldn't be to hard on her as she's got problems!"
Her DP is not entitled to say that to you ! You've said of him "It's the arguing on the phone between her and her dp and the getting me involved in their arguments as she passes the phone telling him to talk to me that gets on my nerves." He is one of her problems!! And can just fuck off!!

"She hopes we can be friends again when I have calmed down!"
Therefore implying that the whole problem is you not being calm; rather than her unreasonable, selfish, destructive behaviour towards you, your son and your home? She can take her 'hopes' and shove them where the sun don't shine. Maybe you could be friends again when she cleans up her act, stays sober for years a while and gives you one mega-grovelling apology, but frankly you are well shot of her, her DP and their chaos. You have done the right thing by getting shot of her. You were kind and she spat on it. She deserves none of your time and none of your evident kindness.

Hope you enoyed your snuggly sofa evening...and have received no more contact from her or her Dp