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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be embarrassed but to go anyway?

357 replies

harriet247 · 20/04/2014 21:30

Dps best friend from primary has distributed his wedding invites today. Silly me thought I was invited Blush dp and I have been together 2 years and have 1 yr old dd.
All the other girlfriends/fiances have been invited but im not on the invite,not even as a plus one :/
I understand obviously money may be a factor or they dont want children there but nothing has been said.
Its 5 hours away and in a big posh hotel, we were both looking forward ro our first night away, with dd staying with lovely gp's.
Im thinking of just going anyway, nice spa during the day then get dressed up and go and join in the evening do.
But part of me is worried that I would be kindof embarrassing myself and them too? I cant jelp but think they dont wnt me there for some reason butI dont know either of them very well so I'm positive they don't hate me etc..
Aibu to go anyway?

OP posts:
EverythingCounts · 21/04/2014 21:18

Dreaming " Personally I think it's really rude asking people to come and celebrate your relationship while ignoring theirs" Totally agree! Certainly when it's a living-together/married/have child together relationship.

Any response yet OP?

LuluJakey1 · 21/04/2014 21:28

Do they know you? Are you good friends? Seems a bit odd to not ask you if they know you. Could it just be a mistake?

But I think everyone is right,ypu can't just go. IMO DP should ask them if they realise you weren't on the invitation (could be a mistake) or not go himself and take you away for a night somewhere nice.

EasterBunnyFuntStoleAllTheEggs · 21/04/2014 22:22

If it does turn out that you're not invited OP, if you're anywhere near Lincolnshire you can come to my evening do at the end of October Easter Smile we're having a disco and karaoke Easter Grin

EasterBunnyFuntStoleAllTheEggs · 21/04/2014 22:24

You could duet Livin' On A Prayer with my brother, Bon Jovi fan Easter Grin

anniepanniepears · 21/04/2014 22:32

hope its a mistake and you are invited

UnderthePalms · 21/04/2014 22:39

What did your dp write in the text?

wolfofwestfieled · 21/04/2014 22:45

soooo??

UnderthePalms · 22/04/2014 10:09

Did you hear back?

Chimchar · 22/04/2014 10:18

Just read through the whole thread....no answer yet?

I'm on the edge of my seat!!!

Greenkit · 22/04/2014 10:28

So, did you go???????????

mylittlesunshine · 22/04/2014 12:03

I really hope it's just been a mistake, we forgot to invite one of our friends daughter as I couldn't remember if they spelt her name with a 'y' or an 'ie' so put it aside for later and then forgot and posted it with just her and her partners name. Thankfully she text me to ask, I was so embarrassed and felt dreadful as she really worked herself up as she didn't know if she should ask or not incase it was a child free wedding.

AWombWithoutARoof · 22/04/2014 17:14

Oi! What's was the reply OP?

UnderthePalms · 22/04/2014 17:49

Maybe the OP is out shopping for a beautiful white gown to wear to the wedding so she can upstage the bride. Grin

Original poster
harriet247 · 22/04/2014 17:51

Still no reply!!!!I am dying of cringeyness!!!!!!!

OP posts:
UnderthePalms · 22/04/2014 17:58

What did your dp write in the text?

Lambzig · 22/04/2014 18:09

Oh no reply definitely means they are embarrassed to reply and working on it. Sounds like you weren't invited, sorry OP.

How spectacularly ill mannered of them though.

Onlysteelheals · 22/04/2014 18:13

Aah I so hope it's a yes. It's surely an oversight especially for an evening do.

Redmasseyinmydrive · 22/04/2014 18:14

What did he say in the text?

KitKat1985 · 22/04/2014 18:21

It's a bit odd that you haven't been invited, given that you are best friends' partner, but no, I don't think you should just turn up. Possibly they are just very limited on space or money, (and you do yourself acknowledge that you don't know them very well) , so possibly you just didn't make the cut.

Lilaclily · 22/04/2014 18:23

Most people are getting home from work about now
So no reply will just mean groom is waiting to get home to bride to discuss text

sillymillyb · 22/04/2014 18:23

Your dp must of heard back by now? I'm desperate to find out what happens!

KeepOnKeepingOnAndOnAndOnAndOn · 22/04/2014 18:25

Surely to God you do not invite a fella without his misses ...
How utterly crass!
OP do not lower yourself and go...

KitKat1985 · 22/04/2014 18:29

Oh, and I should add, I think it's very rude of them to invite your DP and not you when you are in a long term committed relationship. If you'd only been dating casually for a little while than that would be different, but after a 2 year relationship where you have a daughter together, then that's just rude.

Only1scoop · 22/04/2014 18:29

Harriet....the suspense is killing me.... Got your outfit sorted I hope!

DownstairsMixUp · 22/04/2014 18:29

Aww OP I really hope you get invited!!