to be embarrassed but to go anyway?

[harriet247]

Dps best friend from primary has distributed his wedding invites today. Silly me thought I was invited dp and I have been together 2 years and have 1 yr old dd.
All the other girlfriends/fiances have been invited but im not on the invite,not even as a plus one :/
I understand obviously money may be a factor or they dont want children there but nothing has been said.
Its 5 hours away and in a big posh hotel, we were both looking forward ro our first night away, with dd staying with lovely gp's.
Im thinking of just going anyway, nice spa during the day then get dressed up and go and join in the evening do.
But part of me is worried that I would be kindof embarrassing myself and them too? I cant jelp but think they dont wnt me there for some reason butI dont know either of them very well so I'm positive they don't hate me etc..
Aibu to go anyway?

UPDATE UP!

Funniest thread in ages!

Place marking.....I'll admit it.

Oh dear. Too much delay. They're flapping... I think Harriet might need to start cobwebbing that wedding dress...

I love the fact that my wedding wasn't pretentious and was just full of everyone I loved. Best friend bought her scummy partner but he was most welcome as she would want him there. I wanted my guests to have fun celebrating with us. (Best friend now has lovely partner after realising the other was a sh*t)

Are you sure you haven't got form (suspicious) were you planning to go dressed as miss haversham and set fire to something?

Hmmmm was the text definitely delivered???

Any news?

Been chuckling away at this thread and need to know the outcome now!

Me too! Update please! (Psst: they're insane if you weren't invited.)

You're great. If I have a wedding you can be guest of honour.

I'm planning on getting married just so I can invite the OP. I am planning a jumping-out-of-the-cake moment for her

Any news?

I'm worried about the lack of update. Do you think the bride and groom have solved the problem by uninviting the OPs partner

Hope the op is invited now! Surely they have replied to his message.

Hope you get a response soon but unfortunately sounds like you're not invited if they haven't responded already (& in that circumstance, you definitely shouldn't go!)

Marking

Marking place for the update.

FWIW I think it is rude to only invite one half of a couple.

Glad to see your DP wouldn't go without you.

Still no news?

Just wondering the same lanbro

Marking my spot

Still no reply?????

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Shall we have a go at the Chicken Dance whilst we are waiting?

This is better than Eastenders... Please update soon.

arghh read the whole thing and no update

come back op!

I was reading this hoping there'd be an update bustle end. I can't believe they haven't replied yet

OP has only posted in the evening, so maybe she doesn't get the chance to earlier. She might be back this evening to update.

YABVU!
An invite is something you accept or decline. You do not negotiate or put the hosts under an obligation to invite you.
If you have to pay for the room anyway by all means go along and enjoy the spa during the day and the breakfast buffet the next morning! If your presence/planned presence is discussed to then be gracious and make it clear you are looking forward to a delightful night of movies away from dd in a lovely bed someone else has to make and that you were thrilled for the excuse to get away. Chances are, once they realise you will be there they will ask you along to the evening do (bring a dress!), but if they don't, give them the benefit of the doubt and accept that there was a reason (other than them not liking you...don't overthink it!), most likely the fact that they don't really know you very well and they had to make numbers cuts. I'm sure you are disappointed, but weddings are about the couple and sometimes they are dealing with constraints you are not aware of, and other times they simply make mistakes...their wedding is a time to be the bigger person and put them first and not make them feel guilty or pressured.