To wonder where all the normal, single men are?

[Needsmorecake]

because, sure as hell, they are not within a 50 mile radius of me.

This comes off the back of being let down again. I was meant to have a date tomorrow, now i do not.

Lovely man, 40, deputy head of an ' outstanding school' Not only did he send me the most 'penisey' photo, where even in jogging bottoms his cock felt the need to make its presence known, but, after some internet reasearch, i found he had two facebook accounts, one of which he is only friends with very young, very naked, eastern women.

I cancelled the date, clearly he is nuts. However, this seems to be the case more often than not, and its so very very tiring.

Ive been single for 5.5 years, i dont want to remarry, but id just like someone, it seems so impossible.

and OP you know me, this is a new name :)

Add me to the FB group (it's AB)

If your fit and willing to try new things you could try rock climbing. The men are pretty much all fit although different types of bodies from very muscular to lean athletic builds, varying heights and ages also. There are a good number of women that climb but there are more men than women involved in the sport so the odds are in your favour.

And it is so easy to just go up to someone and have a chat, unlike the gym where most of the men are focused on their workouts and really don't want to socialise.

To be fair men have the same problems when looking for a partner that they want long term.

Persevere OP :-)

I bloody hate rock climbing.

Someone just asked after my date today, told them what had happened and they are aghast. Because its just not something thats normal.

Then they asked what on earth i was doing, then i showed them his profile and they said ' but he looks normal' and i said yeah, i know.

see, people havent a clue.

having just been shouted at in the street by a driver that hit my parked car, and then mocked and laughed at when i said i was on my own, i really do wish i wasnt on my own.

oh, and birds, no, you are not asking too much.

Id be really offended if he said that in front of me, its just rude. And, no, its not to much to ask someone to like you for you, thats all i want too.

Birds that's exactly the same as me! I am nearing 40, a mother, I have a pretty impressive CV, I am well travelled, I am cultured, I own my own home but they still can't focus on that, it's still "cor blimey darling you've got a sexy arse and crackin' tips. " I am worth so much more than my looks but men don't see it and I'm still just a walking blow up doll to them. I take care of myself, I am the same size I was 20 years ago (well usually, not with the bump at the moment!!) and I frequently get ID'd, and it's nice to be told I have pretty eyes or a beautiful smile, but as soon as they say something about a sexual feature or even just a normal body part but in a sexy way it really turns me off. I dont thunk men know how to pay a comoliment though. One guy last year (he was a personal trainer & gym manager) said I had fantastic core strength and amazing muscle tone (wow lovely compliment & made me feel great) which was very unusual for my age and having had kids (and any compliment immediately dies with the addition of "for your age" or "considering" or "for a mother") and that he'd noticed when we were "fucking" (and the compliment is dead and buried forever).

*tits. Stupid auto correct.

ah, yeah.

thats shit when that happens.

and pretty damn offensive.

but again, is just part of the sexual stuff they do. I cant stand it anymore, i really cant.

They are OBSESSED with sex. I want someone who wants me for my mind, my personality, my morals, my kindness, my conversation, for how much fun I am, for my company, not the least important or relevant part of me.

(She says whilst moaning they're all bald, short, fat, ugly and dress like tramps - the irony is not lost on me)

The best compliment I've had from a man in the last few years was being told what an incredibly lovely and nice person I am, and how interesting and intelligent he found me :)

Meant a lot more than the ones who said you're stunning/gorgeous/fit/beautiful/other shallow, meaningless compliment then followed it up by saying how good I'd look sucking their cock. Ewwww.

Oh, I want someone who wants me for my looks.

I just don't want someone who ONLY wants me for that.

Because then frankly I might as well be a sex doll.

Brighton you say? pricks up ears

Oh that was to Scarletohello !

ah, the fabled ' you would look so good moaning at the end of my cock'

jesus wept.

Reading this thread is a bit of an eye opener. I have just started to dip my toe into online dating after ending a relationship which was a bit dysfunctional. I am getting my fair share of weird messages or guys who just seem very boring writing "hi" and can't hold a conversation but a couple seem promising... Been messed around a bit already by one. Would be interested in the FB group!

Ugh what is it with men who spout that crap! Do they seriously think it's a turn on?? I'm going to start getting really hard now. I've usually been too polite and carried on with the evening till the end, now I'm just going to grimace and walk out there and then.

I'm not a prude, I like sex and I'm not the vanilla missionary only lights off under a sheet no noise type, but the way men talk about it now makes me want to turn nun. It's all fucking and sucking and arses and wanting to act out porn. It's things like YouPorn which one of these A-holes was obsessed with - free hardcore porn 24/7 anyone can access it, no credit cards needed just click "yes I'm over 18" and there you go - it's conditioned them to think this is normal. I guess it's the same way that rom coms, Disney and period dramas have conditioned women to want true love with a wonderful man who respects us. Neither is realistic.

Mincing, ah, sorry if we have ruined anything for you, but if you have had some weird messages and have been messed around already...

I think its better to have something realistic than something that isnt, least then you know it isnt just you.

random, i dont think wanting someone wonderful who respects us is unrealistic, and i dont think its from disney nor period dramas since i dont watch stuff like that and am not really girly in that respect. Its just basic human manner and wanting to be treated like a person, not a blow up doll.

I pull men up all the time, if they are rude, i say so, if im offended, i say so, if they just vanish or stand me up, i tell them to learn some manners. Doesnt change the outcome of course, but does make me feel slightly less passive in the whole situation.

Well none of us have found it and in fact no one I know has it either - I know a lot of women putting up with men who aren't good enough for social, financial or self esteem issues, but I don't know one real life couple who had found it.

I know a few.
I also know what im worth, so im not going to settle.

I know lots of women in RL with great, supportive partners.

However, almost all of them met in their teens/early 20s though, at school/uni/work/through friends and none via OD.

Those couples in relationships which aren't too great tend (in my experience/circle) to be the ones who have met in the last few years, after the breakup of a previous marriage/long relationship etc.

To be honest I think my Wife landed lucky.

pinkyredrose pricks up ears

Is that quite the phrase you want?

Stalking me? Andrewofgg