To be so sick of all of these "mums work 24 hours a day and get no pay" comments

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Just had a link to this on my FB news feed:

www.okcfox.com/Story/25244962/job-applicants-for-worlds-toughest-job-get-a-big-shock

Having had the last 6 years filled with such posts and comments from parents that they are cook, cleaner, psychologist, nurse etc etc and get either £0 or £20.80 per week for their 24 hour a day work - I'm SO bored of it now.

Anybody else??

Aww sorry to hear that owllady. You continue to do what's best for yourr family.

If I looked after my neighbour's two children (and she mine) it would be considered a job. In fact it might well be subsidised by the tax payer through tax credits. The role and day-to-day responsibilities would be the same. Why is assumed that looking after my own children has no economic value?

Looking after my own child, who is disabled, has huge economic value. The problem is society, generally, does not recognise the value of it and how much money it saves the economy.

If I only had my two other children, one who has slight issues, I would be working and contributing I. A tax monetary sense, but if you compare what is saved by having me as a carer vs me putting my disabled child in care, I save the economy money you would not think though, reading some of the posts on here and elsewhere

Also the carers act (which I think was 2005) was brought into place so carers were legally supported to work
The reality is they are not. It costs TOO MUCH MONEY to take their caring responsibilities off them

Owllady and mummywithsmiles I think you are both amazing.

Owllady and mummywithsmiles25 I agree that you are both saving the taxpayer an absolute heap of money, not to mention probably doing a far better - more responsive, more complete - job by caring for your children rather than handing that care over to others. I actually think that the amount of money that carers get is nothing short of scandalous.

YES. its the carers that deserve the "big up" could not agree more

What annoys me ,or us I get letters off my council regarding my daughter's transport to school, or this that and the other and the specifically point out that we have to understand this action as THEY the Council are saving taxpayers money as if carers aren't and in a society which is educated and financially able enough to support the most extremely vulnerable within that, WHY remind us
God it makes me so cross and I am most probably making no sense
Anyway, I complained and received a sort if apology, which is unheard of

Also, how about these scenarios -

stahp 1- does house work daily , cooks meals from scratch , plays and interacts with children , bed time stories etc

working parent 1 .. Works intensivly at work , long hours puts everything she has in to it.goes home does dinner and bed time stories etc

working parent 2...lazy ,avoids duties ... Slow etc. Goes home puts a ready meal in , you get the point

and working parent 1 stahm 1 probably equal.

It is endless. I do all that sahp 1 does for 5 children plus a stepson while running a small holding and to me it just does not feel like work . When I go to work as a teacher that feels like work and I get tired. So for me sahp 1 is having a much easier life than the working parent described:

Owllady, that must be infuriating - they'd soon notice the difference to public coffers if you and all the other carers out there stopped doing what you're doing.

Owllady..no one unless they go through it will understand.

i am 22 yrs old ..worked from 16 , went to uni.

fell pregnant and my world changed forever, i may only have 5 years with my daughter but i will stay by her side and care for her as that's my JOB as a parent ,, a job that although is hard , lonely and stressful is also rewarding and amazing.. I don't get a lot of dla ,carers as she is under 3 , mine actually hasn't come through yet x

I'm not gonna lie ,being a SAHM to me is probably easier than when I worked fulltime. I have two kids ,one 3 and the other 8 months old ,and whilst the mornings (breakfast ,getting dressed etc...) and the bedtime routine can be hectic ,the time in between is actually pretty chilled. That's with having all the housework done ,keeping my kids entertained and whatnot. But I do also appreciate that some women do have it harder than me. I have a partner who's very hands on with kids and have also had the kids in a strict bedtime routine since birth so have near enough even guaranteed a kid free evening.

Well isn't this a nice thread? Just full of warmth, wit and pleasant opinions. What a great bunch of people using the internet tonight.

I hate the video. It is twee and a load of shit. I also hate some of the attitudes on here. I really don't understand why people need to pit themselves against one another.
I am a SAHM to 4 dc. I have worked part time and full time. It is not financially viable for me to work at the moment which also suits me as I am happy to stay at home and take the lion's share of domestic responsibilities. This Is a choice we have made. I don't expect someone to come along and give me a pat on the back. I also don't expect to come on here and feel belittled for the choice I have made by those who have chosen a different path.

Well isn't this a nice thread? Just full of warmth, wit and pleasant opinions. What a great bunch of people using the internet tonight

i nearly posted the same, but at 3pm!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

may i say...LOLZZZZ

This whole debate is a stupid, pointless waste of time. Do whatever works for YOU and your family. If your finances are such that your family can afford the luxury of a SAHP (and someone wants to do that), do it. If you both want to work outside the home, go for it.

Also, I get really REALLY fed up of all the SAHP bashing on these threads. It's completely nasty and needs to stop. It's horrible to read sentiments such as "stop whinging and get a job". Really? It works beautifully for my family. I LIKE looking after my children and household full-time. DH works long hours, travels and earns a good salary so we can afford it and it means that we all get to relax when we have down time together. We don't spend a lot of money on travel or fancy cars or other luxuries so we can afford to have a parent stay at home. It is absolutely not the hardest job once the kids are in school...lots of downtime is a major perk for sure, but that doesn't mean I forfeit the right to vent when I'm having a rough day or when the kids are acting up or what-have-you. How you organize your life and household is your own business but we're all parents at the end of the day, with plenty to commiserate about.

...And the video is idiotic and puerile .

i love to hear about a happy sahp, my sahp is depressed (I suspect) fucking hell ENJOY it i say, life is for living. feminism has ruined things a bit for the SAHMs I somethimes think. my sahm italian relatives are much happier !

still whinging .....