to ask what things you have been judged for?

[manicinsomniac]

Yes, it's a thread about a thread (thing I can be judged for number 1!) but I feel so bad about my looooong and horrendous list of things I judge that I feel the need to punish myself and see what I have been judged over. Some of the things I posted I even do so judging myself as well as other people doing it for me! Anyone else?

So far, for me, it's:

1. Ugg boots (they're so comfortable )
2. Shop bought cakes (not as nice but such a time saver!)
3. Drinking in pubs and ignoring my kids running around (they're having fun I think!)
4. Driving too fast/too slowly/tailgating/middle lane driving (don't do any of these regularly but have been guilty of them all)
5. Adults who like boybands/Disney (some of the songs are catchy!)
6. Little girls wearing makeup (my children are in competitive dance/gym)
7. saying 'boys will be boys' to justify my stupid sexist opinions
8. Judgey people (never openly but so much privately)
9. Looking in other people's trolleys
10. Food shopping with the whole family (single parent)
11. Not following through with threatened sanctions
12. People who stick with their religion despite its atrocities (I can't turn my belief on and off like a tap)
13. People who are late (not often but it happens)
14. Affected incompetence
15. People who leave their washing on the line overnight
16. People who swear around children
17. People who swear
18. hypocrites
19. People who use the word kids
20. Drivers who cannot parallel park
21. People who drive a walkable distance without good reason
22. People who make no attempt to breastfeed
23. People who are actively religious
24. Women with two functioning hands who can't change a plug
25. Babies and toddlers being farmed out to nursery
26. People who say scone to rhyme with gone
27. People who don't teach their children to swim
28. People who swear on mumsnet
29. Adults who don't like a whole range of foods and pull faces like children
30. Boarding school (I work in one)
31. teachers who can't spell or use grammar properly (I'm very good at both but I'm not perfect)
32. People who drive to the gym (it is 10 miles away though!)
33. Taking cocaine (not anymore but within my older children's lifetimes)
34. People who don't like Jeremy Kyle or Real Housewives
35. Filthy nailed people (they need cleaning (badly!) every night, I really don't know how it happens)

Phew, I think I've been judged slightly more than I've judged. Feel slightly better!

God I smoke, drink, work, love Gina ford because she allows me to do the above, and my 7 yr old is out with the gang playing/fighting somewhere on the estate at the moment....

I use Big Bang theory as a sitter

1. Being "thin". Obviously this must mean I have an eating disorder.
2. Going to university (yes, really)
3. Then going to the "wrong" university
4. Wanting to do things alone sometimes.
5. Wanting to stay in on a Friday night rather than go out and get "pissed"
6. Playing sports (again, really)

Driving a people carrier (I actually judge myself about this more than anyone else)
Having 5 dc.
Being a working mother.

My three DDs all had a severe speech delay. If only I'd talked to them they'd obviously have talked earlier.... I guess I shouldn't have locked them up in the cupboard under the stairs a la Harry Potter.

Actually, it wasn't the people judging me that upset me, but the people who judged my DDs, and made assumptions about their intelligence.

Oh, I've had the thin one too

I must have an eating disorder so I'm a bad role model for my kids and straight men won't fancy me. Apparently.

Waiting until 11yr old DD wanted to walk to school on her own and I thought she was ready, rather than pushing her to do it.
Letting DD go to church when she wanted to
Letting DD stop going to church when she wanted to
Letting DD go to bed at 8pm or later at weekends
Letting DD watch CBeebies
Being taken in by all the 5/7/10 a day Malarky
Having big boobs (apparently I was flaunting them, I wasn't, I was just standing there in a done up lab coat).
Not cooking food from scratch
Cooking food from scratch (can't win)
Not drinking alcohol
Having the wrong fruit on my breakfast cereal
Not caring that much about elbows on the table

Damn, I forgot the biggy, Not being able to drive!

FiveExclamations

Hi Five

I'm not judging you in any way. However, I am surprised at anyone not learning to drive nowadays. Unlike twenty years ago, I would say that being able to drive is a necessity nowadays.

Oh I have tried, I have had lessons, spent more money than I can afford and I'm still shit. At the moment I haven't got the spare money to try again, when I do it will be in an automatic, my sister has recently passed in one aged 61 (I'm 44).

Dreadful driving runs in the family, my mum ended her driving career upside down in a ditch in one of those invalid carriage things.

Hi Five

Yes, when I pressed the 'send' button I called myself a 'dick head'. I don't have a clue how much the lessons are nowadays. I'm 51 next month and passed my test in 1982 (first time of course). Stick at it.l SIL, although passed her test ion 1981, never drove from the day she passed her test. Her husband recently left her, so she got herself an automatic and is now mobile. Perhaps that is the way for you to go.

However, having said that, would you mind awfully if I judged you?

Judge away, I shall blow raspberries at you in return I manage to hold down a job (very part time, but still) get where I want to go and all without being a burden on my friends so nah.

Oh, I get judged for being fat, and for having tattoos. I've lost count of the number of fucks I fail to give.

This thread just proves people just like to judge about everything that is different to them. I find it intriguing that a lot of posters have said they have been judged for mcdonalds/microwaves/Gregg's/fruit shoots because I get extremely judged by friends and family and made to feel like shit because I don't give ds anything bad and we don't own a microwave. I also get judged for being a young mum.

Having 2 c sections
Not breast feeding
Letting my DC drink fizzy drinks when out for lunch
We go to Mc Donald's
I went back to work when they were 4 months old
DC go to bed at 9 or 10
They watch tv and play video games
I got my DDs ears pierced when she was 6 weeks old
My DC go to a private school
I weaned my DC on jarred food (they wouldn't eat what I made)
I sometimes buy ready meals
Co sleeping
Not putting my DC in their own rooms when they were only a few months old

There are probably a lot more.

I was judged on here for liking scousers once.

Being fat.
Being cheerful and making jokes about the loss of my mother a month ago [She died - she didn't do it to spite me. She was old and ill and wanted to be free from suffering, and now she is. Death is part of living. We both believe in God. Yes, sometimes I miss her, like when dgd was pronounced 'ready for school' and I wanted to talk about that with my mum, but she was 79, had no dignity or quality of life left and needed out, so I'm not sad. I did what I could in the circumstances.]
An 'underclass' man deciding he cared about me.
Being incompetent at work. Like I care. Honestly, its gone from me.

What's wrong with bootcut jeans?

I forgot I have 6 tattoos.

One is a delightful tramp stamp
One is quote written in a foreign language.....incorrectly.

Ahhh to be young and carefree again

Bottlefeeding
Giving the baby a dummy (4 out of 5 wanted one, and sucked them for varying lengths of time)
Wearing leggings in the cold and 3/4 linen trousers in the warm in public
Having cankles
Being fat
Having tattoos
Swearing
Drinking in front of the children
Taking the children to the pub (to play and have something to eat)
Homeschooling no2 son (and would do it again if I felt it was necessary for one of my younger DCs)
Having been married three times
Having five children
Not being able to drive
Being poor
Being a SAHM
Lots of people do assume I'm thick too - must be the tattoos and the eyebrow piercing and the being fat...

How do you do it fryone? Not give a fuck I mean. I'd love to be able to not give a fuck but the judgy comments really upset me, sometimes to the point of self harm. I just long to be a proper, decent human being and every time someone gets judgy it's a reminder that I never will be and I find that upsetting.

Having my first child at 24. Apparently it was the new "teenage mum" age. A fair few of same judgemental friends now having fertility problems btw.

My son's speech delay (yes, despite the fact his sister got into the second top selective school in our state).

Having church-going parents who, of course, made me attend when I was young. Automatically made me a hick apparently despite the fact I did not enjoy it myself. Took years to get over that one.

Not being religiously observant myself. Judgement from the churchies side.

People thinking I'm poor and on benefits because of my darkish 'European peasant' look. I am neither but am of peasant stock of course.

Not being able to bake a successful cake. Never have been able to. Always buy them now.

My musical tastes (European peasant again -heheh).

-being a bloody forriner
-having 6 children
-being pg with #7
-not teaching my kids my mother tongue
-being honest instead of polite
-staying up late and waking up late
-not getting dinner ready for DH
-putting suncream on kids in the summer
-wanting kids to have lunch time nap
-not caring about when they are finally out if nappies
-not drinking alcohol
-not liking to drive at night

and many, many more