to ask what things you have been judged for?

[manicinsomniac]

Yes, it's a thread about a thread (thing I can be judged for number 1!) but I feel so bad about my looooong and horrendous list of things I judge that I feel the need to punish myself and see what I have been judged over. Some of the things I posted I even do so judging myself as well as other people doing it for me! Anyone else?

So far, for me, it's:

1. Ugg boots (they're so comfortable )
2. Shop bought cakes (not as nice but such a time saver!)
3. Drinking in pubs and ignoring my kids running around (they're having fun I think!)
4. Driving too fast/too slowly/tailgating/middle lane driving (don't do any of these regularly but have been guilty of them all)
5. Adults who like boybands/Disney (some of the songs are catchy!)
6. Little girls wearing makeup (my children are in competitive dance/gym)
7. saying 'boys will be boys' to justify my stupid sexist opinions
8. Judgey people (never openly but so much privately)
9. Looking in other people's trolleys
10. Food shopping with the whole family (single parent)
11. Not following through with threatened sanctions
12. People who stick with their religion despite its atrocities (I can't turn my belief on and off like a tap)
13. People who are late (not often but it happens)
14. Affected incompetence
15. People who leave their washing on the line overnight
16. People who swear around children
17. People who swear
18. hypocrites
19. People who use the word kids
20. Drivers who cannot parallel park
21. People who drive a walkable distance without good reason
22. People who make no attempt to breastfeed
23. People who are actively religious
24. Women with two functioning hands who can't change a plug
25. Babies and toddlers being farmed out to nursery
26. People who say scone to rhyme with gone
27. People who don't teach their children to swim
28. People who swear on mumsnet
29. Adults who don't like a whole range of foods and pull faces like children
30. Boarding school (I work in one)
31. teachers who can't spell or use grammar properly (I'm very good at both but I'm not perfect)
32. People who drive to the gym (it is 10 miles away though!)
33. Taking cocaine (not anymore but within my older children's lifetimes)
34. People who don't like Jeremy Kyle or Real Housewives
35. Filthy nailed people (they need cleaning (badly!) every night, I really don't know how it happens)

Phew, I think I've been judged slightly more than I've judged. Feel slightly better!

gosh, the lists really are never ending aren't they!

I must stop judging others - this is going to become my daily mantra.

But, just to prove that mumsnet is actually quite nice - these are other things I've been judged on in real life that I don't think most mners do judge

• Being a single parent
• Being a teen mum (I was only 5 months off 20 when oldest daughter was born though so it barely counts right??! Plus, I was at a Russell Group uni at the time so I was a naice teen mum )
• Having children despite having anorexia
• Being a teacher despite having anorexia
• Having anorexia despite being a Christian
• Not aborting my second child despite the pregnancy being due to rape
• Not being a 'good' Christian

Teenage mother of a mixed race baby.
Single mother
Enjoys a fag and a drink
Have joint custody with XH of DS. Crime of the fucking century to some people as is spending money on myself. Makes me selfish according to the mummy martyrs.
Laughing at gender neutral parenting.
Going out clubbing
Working full time and putting DS into nursery.

I'm just an awful awful awful person

Being a woman
Being a woman married to a man.
Being married to a man who works away
Being a woman who has sway.
Being a person with a sticky out ear
Being a woman who has her own career
Being public school educated
Being that person who sounds public school educated
Being blonde
Being slightly less than fashion fond.
Being a woman with average sized breasts.
Being a woman who may well be someone's second best.
Being a woman who is not petite
Being a woman eats 'real-eat'
Being a woman who has 'horse-rider's thighs'
Being a woman who often sighs.
Being a woman who rides horses.
Being a woman who likes several courses.
Being a non-follower of fashion.
Whilst at the same time, follows political action.
Being a woman who is slim
Being a woman who is carrying a few extra kilos.
Being a woman who is having a shit moment with their child
Being a woman who is having a great moment with their child.
Just being.

People judge. Get over it.

I think the silliest thing I've been judged for was when some family members said that my DCs would be under-stimulated because I didn't buy them enough toys. The DC seem to be happy with what they have, so the judgement seems silly to me

Never limited screen time
Sometimes buy readymeals
Love make-up
DC have telly in rooms since they were about 11
Also Xbox and PlayStation in respective rooms
Like Macdonalds
Like Jeremy Kyle
Like Corrie, Eastenders and Emmerdale
Love a good drink

I don't know who's judging me for what but I noticed bootcut jeans on someone's list.

That's pretty much all I wear so no doubt I've been judged at some point by some weirdo who cares about that stuff

Terrortree that's fab! I might print it out and stick it to the fridge.

Not wanting to be part of any clique.

Having a holiday each year with just DS ( he spends a lot of time helping with DD who has SN and I think he deserves a little bit of special 1:1 time)

Not breast feeding DS ( this was a stranger who didn't know my tiny baby was actually being fostered by us).

Being a TA rather than wanting to train to be a teacher ( I like being a TA and I don't want to go to uni at 48!).

Not really caring what I look like.

Being a bit untidy.

Having pets.

Prolific fb posting.

I have a tattoo (i regret it deeply though)
Dd was weaned at 3 months (she was/is huge and was refluxy/sicky- it helped immensely!)
I was a smoker (secretly miss it, but could never go back)
I have taken cocaine (though years ago)
I was a Piss - head(no longer drink)
I have been arrested (shock ! horror! ) - years ago
I swear too much
I am left wing but went to a prestigious uni (the other pupils were Tories through and through)
My Grammer is awful (despite the above )
I have been known to boast on fb (cringe)
I love asda
I wear false tan
I love make up
Dd was formula fed (I had no milk)

Finally: i care too much what others think (hence the need to explain all my prior sins ^^^^)

I shop in Iceland sometimes
Never had a stairgate
Never bothered with potties
Hate Facebook

I have learnt not to give too much thought to what I think other people think . I am usually wrong if I do.

It's usually projection any ways.

I'm a SAHM.

I can't drive.

I Home Educated for a while.

I started weaning before 6 months.

I breastfeed a toddler.

I refuse to divide foods into "good foods" and "bad foods".

I'm fat.

Most of my facebook updates are about my children.

The chromosome.
Carrying DD on my shoulders when little, and banging her head on a shop doorway. The woman who tutted at me later killed her partner.
Forgetting my outdoor accent and talking like a posh cunt.
Eating the second eclair in the box.

I worked as a nanny. I also look younger than I am (22).

The number of times I received judgy looks and comments when out and about with my charge, simply for appearing to be an teenage mother, still annoys me.

Oooh, and on MN I'm judged because I prefer to shave my fanjo area. Shock horror! It turns out I'm oppressed and brainwashed by porn, rather than just preferring it. I wear makeup too!

Weaning ds at 5.5months (by another mum at baby group - she was was horrified and told me I needed to wait till 6m)
Letting toddler ds eat sugar lump in a cafe
Giving 2yr old ds drink other than water or milk
Refusing a yoghurt for my ds. He was about 8months old at the time. We were at a service station late at night and I was still breast feeding DS who at the time had bad dairy/egg/soya intolerance. After a quick shufty round to see what there was I could eat that didn't contain any egg or dairy I ended up having scampi and chips (literally the only thing I could have). Despite having already eaten his tea (toasty fingers and banana) and having just had a long breast feed in the car park ds was very interested in my chips so was sam

Sampl

Oops! Sampling a few. The nice cafe lady looked very concerned thinking this was all he was having for tea and offered me a free yoghurt for him. I didn't have the energy to explain so just said no thanks, I'm sure she thought we were junk food addicts feeding our baby exclusively on chips.

I am overweight. People assume I am lazy and thick.

I ended my marriage and took my ex husband to court to get him removed from the family home ( he was a nasty piece of work).

My dc are quite happy at home and don't have lots of sporty/academic hobbies and other parents are horrified and think my kids are damaged for life because of it.

I hate musicals/plays/opera and love a trip to the cinema to watch a blockbuster movie apparently that makes me educationally stunted.

I don't believe that gcse exams are the be all and end all. Life still goes on even if you don't get all a-c grades.

I smoke
I'm Pagan. Apparently this means I am both too woo to speak to and a devil worshipper. Both way out..
Didn't bf.
Or BLW.
DC's have tv's in their rooms.
DS has an xbox in his room, DD is getting one for her birthday.
DD2 can use the ipad better than me. She's 2 YO.
DH has a hobby that uses up quite a few weekends and evenings. This bothers me not and I have no intention of LTB.
I sometimes quite a lot give the family tea out of the freezer.
I cook amd wash for everyone in the family rather than making them do their own.
I buy socks and undies for family as and when they need it.

I got judged on here yesterday because my 7mo DS sleeps in my v pillow in his cot.

In my defence, it started when he had a cold and he's never let us take it away, I think he just likes being all snuggley

Ahem..
DD1 is getting an xbox, she's 8. The toddler isn' getting one!

My ds has a tv in his room. Is that a big no no!?

smartypants we must be the same person (except that I still home educate).

I really really couldn't give a flying fuck.

I find the judgy bitches, especially over parenting styles, and ours is very laid back, are so busy judging everyone else they forget to see whats really happening in their own lives and to their own kids.

The really strict ones are the funniest, no junk food, no tv, no mixed sleepovers.

yes let's just ban and not teach as that works well for the teens!!

I'm evil personified apparently :(.

I live in a council house (entitled, stupid,scrounging scum)
I'm not a high rate tax payer (lazy, stupid, scrounger and worthless to society)
Lost consciousness during childbirth (didn't love dad enough)
2 emergency sections (didn't like love dad enough to do it properly)
Being raped (deserved it)
Not having a 9-5 job (lazy, scrounger, waste of space)
Struggling to establish breast feeding (don't love DC enough)
Being on antidepressants (weak, psychotic unsafe to be a Mum)
Not wearing makeup (don't care about hygiene apparently)