to ask what things you have been judged for?

[manicinsomniac]

Yes, it's a thread about a thread (thing I can be judged for number 1!) but I feel so bad about my looooong and horrendous list of things I judge that I feel the need to punish myself and see what I have been judged over. Some of the things I posted I even do so judging myself as well as other people doing it for me! Anyone else?

So far, for me, it's:

1. Ugg boots (they're so comfortable )
2. Shop bought cakes (not as nice but such a time saver!)
3. Drinking in pubs and ignoring my kids running around (they're having fun I think!)
4. Driving too fast/too slowly/tailgating/middle lane driving (don't do any of these regularly but have been guilty of them all)
5. Adults who like boybands/Disney (some of the songs are catchy!)
6. Little girls wearing makeup (my children are in competitive dance/gym)
7. saying 'boys will be boys' to justify my stupid sexist opinions
8. Judgey people (never openly but so much privately)
9. Looking in other people's trolleys
10. Food shopping with the whole family (single parent)
11. Not following through with threatened sanctions
12. People who stick with their religion despite its atrocities (I can't turn my belief on and off like a tap)
13. People who are late (not often but it happens)
14. Affected incompetence
15. People who leave their washing on the line overnight
16. People who swear around children
17. People who swear
18. hypocrites
19. People who use the word kids
20. Drivers who cannot parallel park
21. People who drive a walkable distance without good reason
22. People who make no attempt to breastfeed
23. People who are actively religious
24. Women with two functioning hands who can't change a plug
25. Babies and toddlers being farmed out to nursery
26. People who say scone to rhyme with gone
27. People who don't teach their children to swim
28. People who swear on mumsnet
29. Adults who don't like a whole range of foods and pull faces like children
30. Boarding school (I work in one)
31. teachers who can't spell or use grammar properly (I'm very good at both but I'm not perfect)
32. People who drive to the gym (it is 10 miles away though!)
33. Taking cocaine (not anymore but within my older children's lifetimes)
34. People who don't like Jeremy Kyle or Real Housewives
35. Filthy nailed people (they need cleaning (badly!) every night, I really don't know how it happens)

Phew, I think I've been judged slightly more than I've judged. Feel slightly better!

Having 3 kids by2 different dads

Living in a council house

Living in a CH when we could afford to rent / buy, but don't want to

Going on holiday with dh without kids (leaving then with my mum)

Putting my kids in designer clothes

Not bf'ing any of my dc ever (my tits my rules! )

Choosing c sections

Having semi permanent make up

Having been the OW and now married to him (yes I've created a vacancy, yawn)

Letting my kids eat greggs / mc's / KFC

Eldest dcs have TVs in their rooms

Having a house full of laminate, LOVE signs, feature walls, leather corner sofa, candies, twigs

Saying "kids"

Oh there's prob loads more

Tonnes. I only remember the RL things that they were right to dislike me for & I'm not eejit enough to share any of that here.

For not breast feeding my Ds
For being fat
For being good at my job
For speaking out
For having a tv in my son's room because I didn't want it in my bedroom anymore (and hilariously neither my son or daughter watch the bloody thing)
Not restricting screen time or tv time (it has the opposite effect oh strict mums... But you are way to scared to try that out)
Rescuing a big hairy mutt instead of a small one (I like big dogs and i cannot lie)
Growing up poor on a council estate (from some of my work colleagues)
Caring about the disadvantaged and oppressed
For not caring what I look like on the morning school run
For shopping at Iceland (is that really a thing?)
For sometimes eating a pasty, pizza slice, whatever... in the actual open air
For swearing
For telling the truth about childbirth, labour, those first few weeks, the sleeplessness, the boredom, the skivvying, the guilt, the frustration, the overwhelming love. I will not sugarcoat parenting and that pisses some people off.
For not tutoring my children
For my children not being interested in after school activities or organised sports and for me not forcing them to do something.
For the contents of my trolley
For not entering into the school place hysteria with mums and getting wound up over a couple of points difference in the local schools - all of which are actually really, really good.
Fo caring about old people who love the homes they have lived in for many years.
For not having a shower every day (a whore's bath is very effective you know ;) )

And for not having books on prominent display in my house. I read all the time. But you'd never know it. They are all hidden away inside the under stairs cupboard. I never realised people would be judging me for lack of books as decorative objects.

Sending DS1 on a PGL holiday by himself when he was 7.
The school gate mums loved to chatter about that one!
Meanwhile DS loved it and asked when could he go again when we picked him up!

balenciaga, 'my tits my rules!' really made me giggle.

For eating a kit kat in an unauthorised manner

Four, go on then, what's the authorised manner?

Not breastfeeding (I tried to, though)
Being a single mum who's a daughter of a single mum
Shopping at the cheapest places I can find
Living in a council flat
Being okay about McDonald's
Having a cat
Full time working mother
Where I was born (I've been judged repeatedly, and I don't get why)

Ooh, forgot the major one! Totally judged by many people for going to Las Vegas with DH for 10 days, leaving DCs aged 3yo and 17mo with their grandparents. Lots of "How can you do that? I couldn't even leave mine overnight.", "They'll miss you terribly", etc, etc.

A few years later, they don't appear to be bearing any psychological scars.

of Vegas, MsV!

Yes same mrs v, we went to California in 2011 for 10 days then last year went to NYC for 7. I'd love to go to Vegas, well jel of that, that's our next kid free destination, hopefully

Sans dcs, loads of judging even from supposed friends

Dcs loved it though, several days with grandparents being spoiled rotten, not exactly scarred. in fact they were annoyed when we were back also we always take dcs away too on a family holiday, ours are not at their expense

Yes, I have been judged because DD2 won't eat DFs really nice cooking.

FFS she knows DD2 is impossible, why doesn't she just do driven pizza.

Frozen

Just the other day I got judged for once visiting Disneyland Paris as an adult without my children. Apparently it was very cruel behaviour towards my imaginary children.

Loads of things

Being a mum who works in an office full time because I like it, not because I have to

Being fat

Being too clever and having a degree

Not being clever enough and only getting a 2:2

Having an only child

Loads of things

• not cutting off my hair when I reached a certain age
• wearing makeup/eye lash extensions/getting my nails done/using fake tan/wearing heels/shaving various parts of my body
• tattoos
• liking clothes and fashion
• eating in McDonalds
• owning a dog
• letting my DD choose her own clothes/wear the odd bit of make up/dye her hair
• my alcohol consumption (I was at a music festival without the kids at the time)
• breast feeding/not breast feeding
• buying my DD2 a pair of Lelli Kelly shoes
• having family photos on my living room wall

To name but a few

Yes, Vegas was absolutely amazing! I'm not a gambler, and don't drink much (although we did go mad and had a couple of cocktails mid afternoon every day) but the shows, the exhibitions and the restaurants were fabulous. It was 4 years ago and cost a fortune; we don't have that sort of money now, but I'm saving up for Disneyworld Florida. Oh God, more judging. Although nobody I know IRL has ever, ever judged people for going to Disney.

I'll just tell you lot I've gone camping.

at camping.

only, apparently you can only eat them by snapping one bar off at a time, running a nail down the foil first. not by unwrapping the whole thing and munching big chunks through (gasp!) more than one bar at a time

Ah, thanks!

I do prefer one bar at a time, I have to say. Running a nail down the foil is SO lovely.

There is something thrillingly chunky about biting through more than one bar though.

let your inner rebel out

IRL for letting my Dd 22 months still have bottles in the night.

IRL not trying hard enough to bf and smoking.

On here, no idea but don't care!

I will! Any excuse to go KitKat shopping

Of those already mentioned by others:

• Being a Christian (I'm a progressive, people don't tend to realize we're not all the same!)
• Boarding school (I went to one)
• My eldest son has a TV in his room
• Wearing bootcut jeans
• Horse-riding while pregnant

Not already mentioned (unless I missed it):

• Raising my children on a vegetarian diet

I've been judged on all in RL, and here on MN, but mainly in RL!