to ask what things you have been judged for?

[manicinsomniac]

Yes, it's a thread about a thread (thing I can be judged for number 1!) but I feel so bad about my looooong and horrendous list of things I judge that I feel the need to punish myself and see what I have been judged over. Some of the things I posted I even do so judging myself as well as other people doing it for me! Anyone else?

So far, for me, it's:

1. Ugg boots (they're so comfortable )
2. Shop bought cakes (not as nice but such a time saver!)
3. Drinking in pubs and ignoring my kids running around (they're having fun I think!)
4. Driving too fast/too slowly/tailgating/middle lane driving (don't do any of these regularly but have been guilty of them all)
5. Adults who like boybands/Disney (some of the songs are catchy!)
6. Little girls wearing makeup (my children are in competitive dance/gym)
7. saying 'boys will be boys' to justify my stupid sexist opinions
8. Judgey people (never openly but so much privately)
9. Looking in other people's trolleys
10. Food shopping with the whole family (single parent)
11. Not following through with threatened sanctions
12. People who stick with their religion despite its atrocities (I can't turn my belief on and off like a tap)
13. People who are late (not often but it happens)
14. Affected incompetence
15. People who leave their washing on the line overnight
16. People who swear around children
17. People who swear
18. hypocrites
19. People who use the word kids
20. Drivers who cannot parallel park
21. People who drive a walkable distance without good reason
22. People who make no attempt to breastfeed
23. People who are actively religious
24. Women with two functioning hands who can't change a plug
25. Babies and toddlers being farmed out to nursery
26. People who say scone to rhyme with gone
27. People who don't teach their children to swim
28. People who swear on mumsnet
29. Adults who don't like a whole range of foods and pull faces like children
30. Boarding school (I work in one)
31. teachers who can't spell or use grammar properly (I'm very good at both but I'm not perfect)
32. People who drive to the gym (it is 10 miles away though!)
33. Taking cocaine (not anymore but within my older children's lifetimes)
34. People who don't like Jeremy Kyle or Real Housewives
35. Filthy nailed people (they need cleaning (badly!) every night, I really don't know how it happens)

Phew, I think I've been judged slightly more than I've judged. Feel slightly better!

Having an opinion.
Working/not working.
Serving up anything I haven't cooked myself from scratch including growing the potatoes/parsnips/hand rearing the meat myself.
Smiling.
Not being telepathic.
Eating (anything at all)
My inability to keep a 4 bed house clean with no visible effort.
Not doing what I'm told.

Oh good lord, the amount of things you can be judged for....shocking. I must have been in RL as I:

Smoke
Drink (and have on occasion been drunk around DCs)
Have Tattoos (small, discreet)
Size 16
Wear Uggs
Wear Bootcut Jeans (didn't realise this caused judgement?)
Own a Staffie (rescued)
Live on a council estate

Allow my DS15 to live with XH (since he was 13)
Love Mcdonalds

Not judged on MN yet though as I'm new....

Not bathing daily.

Except I don't know really if I'm judged in RL as I don't seem to have any mates.....

I never realised I was being judged for calling my kids kids.

Fucking judgey fuckers.

not loathing myself in that way that some women use as a bonding exercise- oh i hate my thighs! oh i hate my mummy tummy!

Marrying an older man
Wearing leopard print (it looks great on me fyi)
Smoking
Drinking
Swearing
My face - "look like a snooty bitch" etc

Umm...there's probably loads more but I don't pay attention enough. The only one I've been judged to my face for is erm...my face but having read the "what do you judge people for" thread, I'd imagine I've been silently judged for the other things too.

Cooking food from scratch
Saying kids
Swearing but not in front of the kids
Choosing a c section
Following Gina Ford
Not being religious
Limiting screen time and junk food
Hating Christmas
Drinking too much alcohol

feeding toddler greggs and fruitshoots
and letting him play with a tablet
and weaning him with baby jars
having a fish tank (chavvy supposedly)
being an adult who cant drive

Being overweight and eating pizza.

(it was yummy, btw)

Things I feel judged on BF DS2 (he's 3) and DS1 having special needs. People are so quick to offer their unsolicited opinions on how I'm getting it wrong as a parent.

For everything.

Co sleeping.
Having blonde hair.
Believing in God.
My children's names (Samuel and Margaret)
Being American
Reading a lot
Reading the "wrong" stuff
Being fat
Being thin
Working when I had kids
Staying at home when I had kids

And on and on and onnnnn...

1. Not breastfeeding
2. Having children too old
3. Being too thin (I had cancer at the time)
4. Being too fat (had just given birth)
5. Being too posh
6. Going to public school
7. Going to Oxford
8. Having a grandfather who was an aristocrat
9. Being a left-wing republican despite 6,7,8

10. Not wanting a son after having two DD 11. Not caring about the fact that my DH was technically still married to his first wife when we got together 12. Having an affair with my lecturer whilst at University (see 11.) 13. Not having a relationship with my step-children who are only 2 and 5 years older than me and not caring (they get on fine with their dad btw) 14. Spending more money on my clothes that my DDs clothes 15. Working too much 16. Working away from my family for 3 months 17. Driving a sports car 18. Not enjoying the company of children other than my own (and only then when they are behaving) 19. Having a happy, contented marriage 20. Having too much money 21. Going on holiday several times a year 22. Having 3 dogs and treating them like the part of my family they are 23. Refusing to give money to cancer research or take part in those idiotic run things because I don't like the charity even though I had cancer 24. Refusing to join in with all this annoying fighting talk over cancer. I had a disease. It might have killed me. I got treatment. I got cured. I had very little to do with it other than turn up for the treatment. 25. Apparently, it seems, wearing bootcut trousers.....

And, I almost forgot, for not giving my children "proper" names: they are Summer and Malin wtf is wrong with that?

Not mentioned in the other thread but I always feel judged if I'm looking at my phone in a public place, people often post about how everyone is 'zombied' by looking at phones and I hate it. I'm learning Italian on mine. Bugger off.

For having shared custardy of children with ex- out of choice as it's what's best for my DC
For being friends with my ex
Judged as my DH is friends with ex
Because both DC have tv's in rooms along with consoles &/or tablets
For being a cleaner
Because my car is falling to bits
Because my DH lost his job
For not keep my dog on a lead
For wearing the rating clothes
For "looking good"
For not worrying what I look like
Because I got married on a budget
Because I say what I think even in the playground
As I told the teacher exactly what I thought of her
Because I'm not scared to complain, especially to big companies
For having very very dear friends over the age of 70 I'm in my 20's
For not studying

I think in rl I have been judged for being a single parent and for not being in a relationship with dds father at the time of her conception.

On mn I have been judged for smacking dd once (felt awful and never did it again)

I also love Gina Ford and secretly think she could sort out most of the sleep issue threads

Did cc

Weaned dd at 17 weeks

Blimey - do you think there is any hope for her?

What excatly do you mean by being judged.
Do you mean people openly sneering and commenting on your situation because quite frankly some of these are bonkers.
Judged for having a contented marriage ...really?
Judged for a DH losing a job.

Who by for fucks sake?
The one I said about my kids going to PGL when they were seven, people openly criticized me t my face so I know that was true. Alot of the other things on this thread seem quite normal.

For my examples for judged I mean people have openly made nasty comments. I can't speak for anyone else though. Being judged for losing a job doesn't surprise me though. I've known people to claim those who are made redundant must be lazy, workshy, bad at their job etc.

Lots already mentioned (religion in particular).

The child-related ones that I've been most frothily criticised for were:

• Covering up while breastfeeding ("what are you DOING? You are setting the breastfeeding movement back a hundred YEARS! You should be PROUD to show yourself, not hiding under a scarf!" My choice, surely?)

And most of all - Look and Say. When DD pointed at a word and said 'that says 'birthday' it kind of went from there. From the way some parents (and people on here) talk about Look and Say, I'd have been better piercing her nose with a rusty nail as a baby.