to ask what things you have been judged for?

[manicinsomniac]

Yes, it's a thread about a thread (thing I can be judged for number 1!) but I feel so bad about my looooong and horrendous list of things I judge that I feel the need to punish myself and see what I have been judged over. Some of the things I posted I even do so judging myself as well as other people doing it for me! Anyone else?

So far, for me, it's:

1. Ugg boots (they're so comfortable )
2. Shop bought cakes (not as nice but such a time saver!)
3. Drinking in pubs and ignoring my kids running around (they're having fun I think!)
4. Driving too fast/too slowly/tailgating/middle lane driving (don't do any of these regularly but have been guilty of them all)
5. Adults who like boybands/Disney (some of the songs are catchy!)
6. Little girls wearing makeup (my children are in competitive dance/gym)
7. saying 'boys will be boys' to justify my stupid sexist opinions
8. Judgey people (never openly but so much privately)
9. Looking in other people's trolleys
10. Food shopping with the whole family (single parent)
11. Not following through with threatened sanctions
12. People who stick with their religion despite its atrocities (I can't turn my belief on and off like a tap)
13. People who are late (not often but it happens)
14. Affected incompetence
15. People who leave their washing on the line overnight
16. People who swear around children
17. People who swear
18. hypocrites
19. People who use the word kids
20. Drivers who cannot parallel park
21. People who drive a walkable distance without good reason
22. People who make no attempt to breastfeed
23. People who are actively religious
24. Women with two functioning hands who can't change a plug
25. Babies and toddlers being farmed out to nursery
26. People who say scone to rhyme with gone
27. People who don't teach their children to swim
28. People who swear on mumsnet
29. Adults who don't like a whole range of foods and pull faces like children
30. Boarding school (I work in one)
31. teachers who can't spell or use grammar properly (I'm very good at both but I'm not perfect)
32. People who drive to the gym (it is 10 miles away though!)
33. Taking cocaine (not anymore but within my older children's lifetimes)
34. People who don't like Jeremy Kyle or Real Housewives
35. Filthy nailed people (they need cleaning (badly!) every night, I really don't know how it happens)

Phew, I think I've been judged slightly more than I've judged. Feel slightly better!

I get judged for my dog. He's a rescue and a bit big so people think it's okay to make nasty comments. I got my neighbour telling me he was "vicious looking." Her dog is bigger, but he's a purebred so that's okay apparently.

Also: my car, my job and where I live. Being in debt, renting, having cats, being vegetarian. I've been veggie for sixteen years but according to family it's 'just a phase.'

In RL

My accent
My approach to housework
Not phoning relatives enough
Ending my marriage
Buying my kids lots at Christmas

On here
Having tattoos
Enjoying wine most nights
Having labradoodles
Dropping my teen ds's iPad in the sink during a row (I replaced it)
Not agreeing that prom is a rite of passage
Having a loo brush
Not washing towels after each use
Giving my dcs jarred food
Giving my dcs McDonalds
Not agreeing that having an affair is the worst thing a person can do

The list is endless...

Not neutering my male dogs.
Children playing with toy guns.
Smoking when my children drive me mad.

Breathing
Having an equally quirky DD who dares to breath
Both 'crimes' mitigated slightly by having a very 'normal' DD2

BFing DD2 forever
Not forcing (as if that were possible) DD2 to do the 11+

And all the minor stuff.
Not wearing make up, allowing DDs to wear make up, eating in MacDonald's. Giving DD2 squash as a toddler
Having DDs in the front sea of the car, co-sleeping, using a forward facing pushchair.

Letting DDs have unlimited and pretty much in monitored Internet access. TV I turn off periodically because it gets on my nerves.

Not being able to spell and failing to proof my MN posts!

Ooh I've bottle fed have two dds with pierced ears and use a buggy for my 4 year old . She has severe autism . That is why she will be seen with my phone when re are out

pollyanna I also don't phone home often enough. My parents aren't in good health, my DSIS is pissed off with work, phoning is just depressing.

At least these sorts of threads prove that the Human Race doesn't need Religion to judge and hate each other, that was just a validating excuse for disgusting behaviour.

I hope all of those judging find Budhisim and allow yourself some positivity and Mental Peace.

Or just educate themselves and learn to question and think.

I would hate to live in their heads.

1. Being a teenage young parent.
2. Having DDs ears pierced (very normal in my culture. Had no idea it was even "wrong" until MN.)
3. Swearing around children.
4. Eating McDonalds whilst being bigger than a size 10.
5. Being bigger than a size 10.
6. Not giving a shit about being bigger than a size 10 (ie. no diets/joining gym. I clearly do give a shit about being judged about it..)
7. Sending DD to nursery at 17MOs
8. Being a swearer.
9. Growing up (and still living) on a council estate.

10. Liking Beyonce 11. Occasional SPaG slips despite being a teacher. 12. Still going clubbing every now and then while DM babysits.

Leaving the bastard
Not leaving the bastard
Working
Not working
Owning a car
Not owning a car
Being fat
Being thin
Not spending enough time away from DS
Going out without DS too often
Being too nice to my nightmare mother
Being mean to my nightmare mother

You can't 'win', people will always judge and have opinions. It is something I have to work on as I'm naturally an overthinker and people pleaser but the last couple of years have definitely helped that!

Smoking
4 year old with pierced ears
Swearing
3 kids at 25
Doing my degree (obviously my children will suffer )
Working
Not working enough
Buying the DCs too much
Being in debt
McDonald's
Not breastfeeding

There's loads more. I no longer give a fuck tbh.

Having too many people at the christening (35 people is apparently too much although they were all family and a few close friends)
Going back to work full time
Not being a stepford wife despite working full time
Having a bit of a messy house (there are better things to do on a weekend like playing with DS than cleaning)
Weaning at 4 months (prem baby and was advised to do so)
Going to McDonalds occasionally
Letting DS eat BBQ beef flavour hula hoops
Letting DS have a mini roll for breakfast (he'd not eaten for 6 days after a bout of croup - I was just happy he wanted to eat again)
Letting DS eat chips and sausages

I'm sure there are many more but in all honestly, I don't really care - my family and we do what makes us happy

notfrom 35 is too many?! Where my family come from you'd be weird not to invite your cousin's-neighbour's-nieces-and-nephews-who-you've-never-met to a christening

IHave I know I thought it was a very small christening - but apparently not according to my mother!

there'll be no end to the judging I guess. One person will always judge for the opposite of the other.

1. Staying at home with the kids when my husband lost his job.
2. Breastfeeding kids old enough to discuss the theme of an 'Arthur' episode.
3. Saying 'kids'.
4. Kids watching 'Arthur'.
5. Missing a rent payment once.
6. Not vaccinating.
7. Choosing not to have smears.
8. Regularly giving the kids sweets for breakfast.
9. Eating lots and lots of Gregg's sausage rolls and pasties.

10. Letting the kid's sit inside the shopping bit of the supermarket trolly and wait for it... hang off the sides if they want 11. Being a size 14. 12. Not saving. 13. Letting the kids run around naked or without shoes.

IRL I'm judged for so much more; I feel quite acceptable on mn

Being a full time WOHM (by my ex colleagues). Why did I bother having them if I wasn't going to look after them myself.
Becoming a SAHM (by my ex colleagues, not the same ones, obviously). Lucky you, lady of leisure, ooh, I couldn't not work, my brain would shrivel up, aren't you bored? (To the last question, yes, but TBF, I was bored at work sometimes!)

Living by myself for 16 years. Most people thought I was a weirdo. Fortunately I'm now living the dream (married, 2 DCs) so I'm not weird anymore.

Having a DC who's a picky eater. Yes. it drives me nuts, but I don't need to be told it's my fault for weaning him on jars . Even though they may be right .

Oh my, I'm judged for all manner of things.

1. I'm dyslexic so obviously pee off all those spelling pedants who hate SEN.

1. I'm new money so obviously pee off all those who hate people actually eanring their way to wealth.

1. I'm a pushy parent so obvioulsy pee off all those who think revision equals robbing a child of their childhood.

Probably a bit unfair to say that most people thought I was a weirdo for living by myself for so long. They just thought I was a bit odd or there must be something wrong with me if I couldn't persuade anybody to co-habit even though I had two marriage proposals from boyfriends in that time.

Some time ago on here, I got judged for saying that I don't thank car drivers when I cross a zebra crossing

In RL, off the top of my head:
working too much
working 'part-time', although in actual fact I often work weekends, evenings and bank holidays on top of 'normal' hours
being too thin
eating too much
not eating enough
being posh (I am categorically not)
liking films that are about sad or difficult subjects
liking Lauren Laverne
not being available if someone invites me to do something at the last minute (as in dinner that day, or coffee in two hours, or a weekend break at three days' notice)
booking theatre tickets etc in advance
shopping in Waitrose
shopping at a street market
getting things dry-cleaned

Some mixed messages there. Good job I don't care, really.

14. Having 3 picky eaters - all blw'ed fyi MsVestibule

I eat white bread and so do my children.

(It's fortified with vitamins which are actually easier to absorb for children as their immature digestive systems struggle with breaking down brown bread effectively. So fuck you judgey trolley bitchezzz)