AIBU to take offence at being called a slut for parking in the paremt and child bit at Tesco?

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I am a parent. With a child. So it was reasonable to park in the designated area for us types. Man and, I assume, his mother pull up in a pick up to park in bay next to me. I asked if he had a child with him and he said it was none of my business. I said he probably shouldn't have parked there. He said 'who are you?'. I shrugged and left it. He then says 'you know what your problem is? You're a slut'.

I went a bit mental at him and may have called him a 'silly little bastard' and 'how dare you'. They wandered off then came back and said they were calling the police and reporting me for assault.

I was this close to hitting him, and I am not a violent person. I spoke to the lady who explained that they were picking up his son and that he suffered from depression. Oh that's alright then. I said there was no need for him to call me a slut and she apologised.

Who knows - if the police come round, what do I do?

A fishwife is referring to a historical occupation whereby the women selling fish had to shout loudly to get their fish sold before they perished. They were notoriously loud and foul mouthed.

Well, dur. How's it used now?

Who was it who shared the greatest insult ever? She had a crappy old riding coat on and the van driver said sonething like fuck off and buy a new coat. Much more intelligent than going a bit mental,

Well, dur. How's it used now?

Well, aren't you lovely?

It is used as a direct description. If you are loud and foul mouthed and female you are directly comparable to a fishwife who was a loud and foul mouthed female.

I don't see why I can't ask someone a question and not expect a barrage of abuse in return. In a car park or on MN

You really don't see this?

'A question?'

You had no reason whatsoever to ask if he had kids. It had no impact on you and you were behaving like a self-righteous berk.

Just don't ask any more questions, stop interfering where you have no right to, don't look for validation from strangers and try meditation. You sound as though there is a lack of inner peace in your life.

Only on Mn would people attack the OP as being nosy and not the guy who called her a slut

So we should all support her right to behave like a mad, dangerous nutter. He shouldn't have called her a slut, no, he should have realised an insane, shouty, potentially violent nutter was abusing him over something that was not her business and he should have tried to calm her down until she was tasered. She was lucky to have walked away and next time she might meet another nutter like herself. I agree with the poster above who suggested medication.

She isn't the only one who meeds to calm down

Op, why on earth did you feel the need to ask someone why they were parking where they were? You don't work for the store and they were not doing anything wrong. Most people don't care about p and c places. If someone questioned me I would have also told them to mind their own business. Had you then further had a go I would have become annoyed with you. However, I don't swear at people, as you do, so wouldn't have called you names.
I would have thought you to be rather odd though and confrontational.

It was none of your business who parked where!

Should have loitered and egged his car when he was out of sight instead of being verbally aggresive. We accept that here on MN y'know! Or maybe it's only acceptable if it's a van, I forget

FanjoForTheMammaries you said Only on Mn would people attack the OP as being nosy and not the guy who called her a slut

If you have time you should read the actual thread. There are loads of posts about how wrong that was.

Yes. I know.

Mine is another one

Only on Mn would people attack the OP as being nosy and not the guy who called her a slut

I would so it in real life too because of my experience with nosy, interfering, busy bodies who have previously accused me (OP style) of misusing disabled spaces. I don't see why I should go around offering explanations to nosy, interfering busy bodies. I wouldn't have called her a slut though, but I would have been tempted to tell her to mind her own fucking business.

You sound charming, OP. Keep your nose out of other people's business next time. Lesson learnt eh?

I avoid situations that involve confronting strangers when I have children with me, unless it's absolutely necessary. So far it hasn't been.

You have no idea of that person before you start telling them off.

Why run the risk of having your child witness a possible angry (or violent) reaction?

"You can be fined however, as you are not following the contract you agreed to when parking there"

wrong. the parking company can't "fine" you, they can send you a ridiculous parking "charge" but you don't legally have to pay it.

The title of this thread is misleading. I was expecting OP to have been called a slut simply for having a child. I don't understand why if it was an issue if you already had a parking space. I would never pick fights with a man driving a pick up truck IYKWIM

I don't think you were being unreasonable for questioning why he was appearing to park in in a parent and child space but your reaction after that point was totally OTT and if you were shouting, you could be in trouble for assault as he and his mother may have feared that you were going to hurt them.

I don't understand why he called you a slut but I also don't understand and couldn't condone why you responded in the way that you did.

Bliimey I don't notice or care who parks in the parent and child bays. I never bothered with them when mine were small. I

Seems at times they are more hassle than they are worth.

You got to love the amount of rage generated on MN over things that simply do not matter!

I was asked where my child was when alone in the P and C section, I grinned and said he was bringing up the rear with his Dad and we both commented on how annoying it was when white van man, sports car superstar nicks these spots out of huge entitlement.

I can't for the life of me imagine why I would call anyone a slut for asking this question unless I was a massive sexist arse who thought no woman should dare challenge me. Actually we don't need to know our place, can challenge poor behaviour where it is seen whether it is thoughtless parking, not picking up dog poo, spitting in the street etc. you answered him in kind, not great but his insults were similarly unjustifiable.

I have started parking in p&c, my children are 6 & 9...do I qualify?? I also use p&c space if I'm tired & it's late, I'm pregnant & getting fat & often struggle out of the door because there's not enough space, do I qualify then? .... It's not nice being called any name however people that butt there noses in where not necessary often do get called names!!

Real outrage is that we can never get a disabled space at beach as tossers going to gym who have no blue badge park in them.

Watched one go back to his car yesterday. Should orobably have said something but he was big

I just can't get upset about parking.

No matter how hard I try I can't work a head of steam up.

It's because it doesn't affect you badly.

It affects my daughter when she is excited to ho to beach then cant go.

Hence I get angry.