AIBU to take offence at being called a slut for parking in the paremt and child bit at Tesco?

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I am a parent. With a child. So it was reasonable to park in the designated area for us types. Man and, I assume, his mother pull up in a pick up to park in bay next to me. I asked if he had a child with him and he said it was none of my business. I said he probably shouldn't have parked there. He said 'who are you?'. I shrugged and left it. He then says 'you know what your problem is? You're a slut'.

I went a bit mental at him and may have called him a 'silly little bastard' and 'how dare you'. They wandered off then came back and said they were calling the police and reporting me for assault.

I was this close to hitting him, and I am not a violent person. I spoke to the lady who explained that they were picking up his son and that he suffered from depression. Oh that's alright then. I said there was no need for him to call me a slut and she apologised.

Who knows - if the police come round, what do I do?

So the children weren't there were tucked up in the car and couldn't hear the swearing match going on huh?

Did you follow him into the shop or something? Because I'm having a hard time imagining the shouting and bawling going on, and the children not hearing it. unless they weren't there, in which case why were you in the P and C place?

Posy - said what I think but much better!

If your child wasn't there why were you parking the the P&C spaces?

Yes but he had every right to park there. He was picking up a child. If we all go around 'challenging' people we think are being inconsiderate we would be constantly in situations like the gobby op.

How many times have we seen on mn, someone has a hidden disability, and comes out of a disabled toilet to tuts or huffs, having to explain themselves.

Just to clarify - said arguement was not in front of DC. In car and out of sight.

You said he pulled up next to you?

If someone called me a slut during the course of an everyday exchange I think I'd probably burst out laughing.

Posy, a world of difference between pulling someone up about their antisocial behaviour, and stooping to their level and engaging in it yourself.

Yeah, your kid could hear you screaming like a banshee

He was unreasonable, when challenged by another unreasonable person.

If someone called me a slut during the course of an everyday exchange I think I'd probably burst out laughing.

Actually I think I would too.

Vivi I was thinking the same. Maybe I'm less sensitive but it certainly wouldn't have wound me up to the point of almost or even wanting to hit someone

YABVU

Parent and child spaces are not a legal right - i.e anyone can park in them but probably shouldn't as a common courtesy - so by telling them off, you were actually in the wrong in the first place!

If someone called me a slut during the course of an everyday exchange I think I'd probably burst out laughing

Same. It's just so random and ridiculous!

I went a bit mental at him

What do you mean by the above? Did the red mist descend? Did you threaten him?

The escalation of this incident is interesting: we go from telling someone not to park in a P&C space (none of your business in my opinion as he wasn't preventing you from parking) to him calling you a slut and then you going 'a bit mental'. I think that because you were so angry, you said a lot more to him but you've forgotten what you actually said because your OP doesn't read like a proper conversation, heated or otherwise.

I think calling you a slut was unreasonable and a little odd to be honest but from what you've told us, I don't think your meltdown was necessary.

I think calling someone a slut in this context is a bit like calling someone a lampshade. Yes, it's more offensive but random.

Vivi Me too I think.

I'd almost be slightly pleased. If I look slutty then that means I don't look exhausted and sleep deprived and covered in baby sick and gloopy glue and a hand print of raspberry jam on my bum with a bit of a hint of a mummy tummy but like someone who has sex. A lot. Ie shagable. preens

Or maybe he thinks all women who have sex ever are sluts. Well - with two sprogs in the back (and the aforementioned mummy tummy proving that they are not adopted) I can hardly claim to be a virgin!

Just such a weird insult!

insert the word 'still'' inbetween but and random.

Calling you a slut was extremely rude. He should have called you a busybody

That did make me laugh

Why did you stick your nose in anyway op? You are not the parking warden and it wasn't your job to say anything. If you are that bothered I suggest you just tell a member of staff and if they see fit to move him on they will.
You get people's backs up then they will get narked and then you act all hard done by when it really wasn't any of your business.

I can't believe everyone thinks it's the OP who was BU.

I think they both were. The man was rude, the OP was verbally abusive and unnecessarily angry to the point where she was on the verge of hitting him.

I went a bit mental at him and may have called him a 'silly little bastard'

YWBU and so was he.

YABVVVVVVVU

The fact that the gentleman was there to pick up his son proves that you were being a totally judgemental, sanctimonious, interfering busybody.

FFS you challenge a complete stranger about his right to park somewhere and verbally abuse him. You need to learn to stay out of other folks' lives and take a long hard look at your own behaviour. You complain this man called you a slut. Which is offensive, yes. But frankly considering your own self-confessed attitude and behaviour I think you are lucky that is all you were called. Poor bugger and his mother were only trying to collect his kid.

Wind your neck in next time. If you spent half as much time worrying about your your own behaviour as you have his, you'd be on the road to some much needed self-improvement!

Because she went barging in like the with no reason whatsoever to approach this guy other than her own inflated sense of Head Prefect manquée.

I'm with Sad Dad.

She was a gobshite.