AIBU to take offence at being called a slut for parking in the paremt and child bit at Tesco?

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I am a parent. With a child. So it was reasonable to park in the designated area for us types. Man and, I assume, his mother pull up in a pick up to park in bay next to me. I asked if he had a child with him and he said it was none of my business. I said he probably shouldn't have parked there. He said 'who are you?'. I shrugged and left it. He then says 'you know what your problem is? You're a slut'.

I went a bit mental at him and may have called him a 'silly little bastard' and 'how dare you'. They wandered off then came back and said they were calling the police and reporting me for assault.

I was this close to hitting him, and I am not a violent person. I spoke to the lady who explained that they were picking up his son and that he suffered from depression. Oh that's alright then. I said there was no need for him to call me a slut and she apologised.

Who knows - if the police come round, what do I do?

Yanbu to think people without children shouldn't park there but yabu in the way you dealt with it. Next time take the reg number to customer services. I've done that to cars parked there without a car seat inside, they tend to call the number over the tannoy and get them to move. Far more satisfying!

you do know bobot that there are times children can legally travel in a car without a car seat, don't you?

Actually, as long as you weren't rude, I don't think you were being unreasonable to confront him in the first place. He was very rude back, and totally unnecessary. I don't blame you for losing it. They guy was a totally misogonistic tosser, although you probably shouldn't have lowered yourself to his level, I don't blame you.

I'm very surprised you have been given such a hard time on here OP. Parent and child spaces are there for a purpose. I think we should be able to confront people who are basically being rude lazy miserable gits.

What about those who bring their babies into the supermarket in the car seats?

but missymarmite the other driver was entitled to be in the parent & child spot too. don't you think you'd feel a little PO'd if someone else who was already parked challenged your right to park somewhere? It's officious, to say the least!

Then he just needed to say so, he didn't need to be offensive!

"Parent and child spaces are there for a purpose. I think we should be able to confront people who are basically being rude lazy miserable gits."

You did read the bit where he was picking up his child?

OP: "excuse me, don't you know this space it
A reserved to parents and children?"

Man: "we, yes, actually, I'm picking my son up".

Would that be so hard?

Alternatively the OP could stop judging people and get on with her life.

OP never said 'excuse me' or anything similar. She simply demanded to know if he had a child.

She was pretty rude to start with and didn't back down when told it was none of her business.

The other driver had every right to be there and owed the OP no kind of explanation for his being there.

I asked if he had a child with him and he said it was none of my business. I said he probably shouldn't have parked there. He said 'who are you?'. I shrugged and left it. He then says 'you know what your problem is? You're a slut'.

Sorry, I don't really see how the OP was rude, or how she deserved being called such a disgusting thing.

When you park in a space reserved for specific people you should be prepared to justify yourself to whoever the landowner oppoints to enforce their parking rules. You do not have to justify youself to randoms who think they're specials in the parking police. When I get challenged, which happens way too frequently because young(ish) people can't possibly be disabled, the shutters come down and I ignore.

YA both BU.
You should have mentioned it to someone in the store.

oppoints? It would appear that excessive creme egg consumption makes one illiterate.

I don't think anyone has suggested she 'deserved' to be called a slut.

I think most people think she was BU by demanding to know if he had the right to park there. If I am parking in P&C and a complete stranger demands to know if I have a child with me I would find it rude too. It would be none of their business and I would be sorely tempted to tell them that, just as this gentleman did.

he should not have called you a slut but you abu with everything else

it's nothing to do with you where people park

I have to say I think you are getting a hard time on here.

I don't think YABU.

You probably did overreact but if I had been having a bad day I might have too.

It's never ok to call someone a "slut". A horrible misogynistic derogatory work. If someone called me that on a bad day I might respond in a similar way!

Bullshit. I reckon.

Maybe it was his mum, and he's just a very very advanced 3 year old?

brokenhearted55a
"have people really got so lazy they cant be arsed to walk across a car park to the shop."

You do know that this is a parent and child parking thread?

oohdaddypig
"It's never ok to call someone a "slut". A horrible misogynistic derogatory work."

Has anyone said that it is?

bobot I usually take my baby in to the supermarket in her car seat (it attaches to the pram).
I would be highly annoyed if you a busybody reported my car to customer services just because you can't see a car seat in my car.