to think the morbidly obese woman at work should stop telling people they are losing too much weight?

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There is a woman at work who is seriously morbidly obese. She is trying to lose weight. She has managed 1/2 stone since January. There are quite a few people at work who want to lose weight and have started to go running together. 3 of them have lost a significant amount of weight and now fall into the normal BMI.

We have a staff kitchen and sitting area and she has been talking to the people who have lost weight one by one and advising them not to lose any more weight and that they didn't need to lose any weight anyway.

Another guy has done the fasting diet and lost a amazing 4 stone. She has told him it is seriously unhealthy and he will get brain damage.

AIBU to think she should just shut up and focus on herself?

If I was at work with her and was on a mission to lose 12/13 stones. Can you imagine her jealousy then?

Just look, smile and do not engage!!!

Jealousy is the operative word, I don't get involved, just heard too many of her concerned conversations with the weight loss people.

I have a 500ml bottle of sparkling water most days. She has criticised me saying God, how many of those do you have a day?

Usually said while she is munching crisps, endless cereal bars and chocolate buns

She needs to mind her own health than to lecture others of theirs.

I wish she would!

Why shouldn't the OP name change if she wants to? (If she/he did, if in fact they are new and just stirring it then yes they can be hung, drawn and quartered as appropriate). I name change all the time, never for sinister reasons just paranoid ones in case anyone recognises me . I'm still totally baffled by the reporting. This is utterly tame in comparison to many threads.

It was felt that it was fat shaming and offensive, somebody else said it was bitchy

SoloSource felt it wasn't offensive as a 24 stone woman

I think anyone, over-, under- or perfect weight who feels it appropriate to comment on others' weight deserves whatever reaction they get.

I've been fat and had people offer to diet with me.

I've been very underweight due to depression and had a colleague comment almost every day how jealous she was that I had such willpower.

I am now pretty healthy and exercise daily and STILL people feel it's ok to pass comment.

If you're fat and tell people how to eat you deserve short shrift. Not because you're overweight, though I can think of many who like to play the victim card and bleat they are being discriminated against because of their weight.

But because personal remarks are odious. This woman sounds as ill-bred as she is ill-informed and I suggest you ignore whatever she has to say.

It doesn't matter whether she is fat, or thin. She shouldn't be cornering
anybody and doling out advice unless its been asked for. Or is there a reason why its particularly acceptable for her to do so? I wouldn't get involved if I heard her doing this to others, even though overhearing would be slightly annoying. But if said direct to me Id tell her thanks, but no thanks re. advice. Not interested.

Next time she says it I word just say, no, they look great and healthy, well done.

It is best that she doesn't advise people. Not appropriate to give dietary advice in the workplace