to think the morbidly obese woman at work should stop telling people they are losing too much weight?

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There is a woman at work who is seriously morbidly obese. She is trying to lose weight. She has managed 1/2 stone since January. There are quite a few people at work who want to lose weight and have started to go running together. 3 of them have lost a significant amount of weight and now fall into the normal BMI.

We have a staff kitchen and sitting area and she has been talking to the people who have lost weight one by one and advising them not to lose any more weight and that they didn't need to lose any weight anyway.

Another guy has done the fasting diet and lost a amazing 4 stone. She has told him it is seriously unhealthy and he will get brain damage.

AIBU to think she should just shut up and focus on herself?

She definitely shouldn't be discouraging people who are losing weight and telling them they'll get brain damage! Is she a doctor?! I'm on 5:2 and it would really annoy me if the colleague said that. It's really rude and unprofessional.

I don't think the op was tactless to suggest swimming, she obviously gets on wirh the woman and the other woman seems happy to discuss things with her. All shapes and sizes go swinming, nobody cares, , it's just taking the first step to overcome her self confidence.

OP, since you are so interested in weight and weight loss, if you educated yourself better, perhaps by reading Escape the Diet Trap by Dr John Briffa or Why we get fat by Gary Taubes, both of which are both compassionate and scientific, you would realise exercise makes minimal difference in weight loss, along with calorie restriction. You might tell your colleague something that might help her.

I assume people have reported the thread as it appears to be meant to be inflammatory.

She told me she can't run because of her enormous breasts

Sports bras are great for holding even the biggest boobs in place!

But unless asked nobody should pass comment on anyone else's lifestyle choices whether that is their choice of diet or their lack of activity. If that person asks, or it is a general conversation (not aimed at one person in particular) that's one thing but otherwise it's not needed and won't help anyone.

so because this woman is fat you meant fat didnt you she cant talk about dieting because she isn't losing weight quick enough, IMO she is right fasting is a ridiculous way to lose weight and i would tell somebody that , are you always so bitchy about fat people

Interesting first post, OP.

Why on earth can't you run in the rain?! Not heard that gem before

I don't see anything wrong with the OP. There is an obesity epidemic, we do need to talk about diet and some people do try to sabotage others.

I have been dieting since January. I have lost 26 pounds. That is a healthy weight loss of 2 pounds a week. It would be annoying and demoralising if somebody kept claiming I was too thin.

I haven't dieted before. It helps me a lot when others discuss healthy eating and exercise.

I am a healthy BMI but I haven't stopped dieting because I enjoy the healthy food more than sugary snacks now, and I do not want to be at the top of my BMI.

People addicted to sugar don't seem to get that this is not some form of punishing diet. I really don't want a slice of cake etc.

I am not on 5:2 but many people do it for health without wanting weight loss. There is nothing wrong with being a size 8 and doing it.

Why on earth can't you run in the rain?! Not heard that gem before

As a glasses wearer I struggle, I still do it though just means I can't see where I am going very well!

Fat people are allowed opinions too you know. They're just not allowed ALL the biscuits.

Smokers are allowed opinions too. I'd not be happy if I was trying to give up smoking and somebody kept telling me to start again.

sirzy I'm a glasses wearing runner too.... A running cap works well. I love running in the rain. It's refreshing

Yanbu.

She should concentrate on her own weight-loss efforts and stop giving her ill-informed advice to others.

Look, it's normal for people on diets to be insufferable about it! They're always dishing out unsolicited advice & commenting on other people's bodies. Doesn't matter what size they are, it's just a curse of our times. The only sane response is to nod, smile, and forget.

It's funny that people are reporting the thread just because they don't like
I think you should all just get on with your work and stay out if the work kitchen

YANBU. I can't believe the amount of fat excusing/defending on here! And 7lbs in 3 months is a poor rate of weight loss for someone who starts out morbidly obese.

Any loss is a good loss though. To critisise someone for not losing enough when they are losing is unfair too IMO. It isn't easy to lose weight for everyone so any loss should be praised.

dp just lost weight and is almost normsl bmi

someone at work told him he looked too thin

tbh i think most of us have lost a sense of what 'normal weight' looks like

When you are used to seeing someone overweight they can look too thin when they have lost a lot, it's a sort of optical illusion iyswim!

Merci - I have lost 4.5 stone and I am just overweight now yet I get people telling me I am too thin, I think ikick has it right though that people get so used to seeing you fat that when you lose weight it looks more because you look so different

I think you should all just get on with your work and stay out if the work kitchen

Our work like a lot of places provides a kitchen and place to eat lunch so we should not use it because one person is telling people not to lose any more weight because they a getting too skinny

We don't have to get on with our work when it is our lunch hour

The best way to deal with this is this:

"Thank you for your advice. Would you like some more cake?"

and offer the cake.

yes, maybe that is it.

Well done Sirzy, 4 1/2 stone wow

to the supportive posters

for all those who have reported this post