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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think my neighbour has overreacted?

260 replies

Spottyandstripped · 28/03/2014 18:27

My MIL has a bit of a mouth on her, and yesterday, shouted at our neighbour who accused her of driving too fast into our close as she was putting her kids in the car. MIL shouldn't have said what she did so I went round to try and smooth things over as MIL was really upset.
I spoke to the neighbour and pointed out that MIL was so upset and that she would never hurt a child, but the woman was still very angry about it as it was in front of her children and she was on her own drive. I said I didn't want to argue and she said she didn't care as she had called the police! Wtf! I told her if she did that I'd tell them she didn't supervise her kids properly as I've seen them run out into the road.
I thought she was bluffing but there was a police car there just now! AIBU to think it's a waste of police time if she's just having a moan about my MIL?

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FrigginRexManningDay · 28/03/2014 18:52

Having to slam on the brakes implies that your MIL was speeding and then to turn around and verbally abuse your neighbour is really bang out of order. If your MIL is so wound up and potty mouthed then I would not be inviting her round until she can act like a reasonable adult and not a tearaway hooligan.

formerbabe · 28/03/2014 18:53

I think this post is a wind up?!

If its real, then op, is your mil usually so aggressive and unpleasant?

NellysKnickers · 28/03/2014 18:54

You need to take a step back and look at this properly. Your mil is very much in the wrong. Your poor neighbour.

Elllimam · 28/03/2014 18:55

Awful behaviour from your MIL. Cannot believe anyone would defend this behaviour much less threaten their neighbour!? Poor woman I hope the police help her.

alemci · 28/03/2014 18:56

I did feel some sympathy for your mum in law initially but after reading about the abusive language and arrogance towards her neighbour, I think she should be ashamed.

isn't she meant to be setting a good example to the younger generationHmm

defineme · 28/03/2014 18:56

I would call the police if that happened to me-101 not 999.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 28/03/2014 18:56

So, so unreasonable.

BrunoBrookesDinedAlone · 28/03/2014 18:57

The only thing I can confirm for you is that your MIL isn't a nice woman at all. Another one on the side of your neighbour alas.

Lottiedoubtie · 28/03/2014 18:57

If this is real then OP you need to realise that your MIL was in the wrong.

If your neighbour had called the police over something that wasn't a police matter then they wouldn't have bothered coming out. The fact they did should tell you that MIL is very firmly in the wrong.

Original poster
Spottyandstripped · 28/03/2014 18:58

Look MIL shouldn't have said that, I know. She took the corner a bit wide as the neighbour parks one of their cars just inside the close. If that car hadn't been there then it wouldn't have mattered how fast she was going really as she wouldn't have been near the end of her drive. I left a note in the car last night to that effect but they still parked there today.

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Brabra · 28/03/2014 18:58

Is this a reverse AIBU? Of course the 'neighbour' did the right thing by calling the police.

VivaLeBeaver · 28/03/2014 18:59

Wow, maybe if your MIL is prosecuted for being a foul mouthed, bad tempered fish wife it will make her think about her short fuse.

Have you thought about buying her anger management classes for Mother's Day?

ENormaSnob · 28/03/2014 18:59

Jeremy kyle could sort all this out for you op.

Lottiedoubtie · 28/03/2014 19:00

Is the neighbours car parked illegally?

VivaLeBeaver · 28/03/2014 19:00

Well I'm sure if that car is illegally parked the police will deal with it while they're there.

Maybe your MIL needs to anticipate and be able to get round obstacles at a sensible speed like most people.

hercules1 · 28/03/2014 19:00

The thing is you don't get how awful your mil was. You are adding to the harassment of your poor neighbour by doing the note and going to see them. Hope for your sake you don't rent. I too would complain to your landlord.

FutTheShuckUp · 28/03/2014 19:00

You keep making excuses. It really doesn't matter who parks their car where ffs, driving too fast can kill or seriously injure children why are you trying to minimise this? As for the rest of it, good god you sound like the neighbours from hell.

DebbieOfMaddox · 28/03/2014 19:00

If you have to take a corner "a bit wide" then all the more reason to slow right down. Surely that's obvious?

Original poster
Spottyandstripped · 28/03/2014 19:01

Well no technically it isn't.

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formerbabe · 28/03/2014 19:01

Ha ha...it justs get better!

Surely a wind up?!

FrigginRexManningDay · 28/03/2014 19:01

Nope no matter how much you post neither you nor your MIL are resonable. If you are not going to accept that 99% of the posters on this thread have said as much then why did you pist on AIBU?

And also is usualsuspectt different to usualsuspect?

MidniteScribbler · 28/03/2014 19:01

What a classy woman your MIL is. I'm sure glad someone like that isn't around my children.

gordyslovesheep · 28/03/2014 19:02

If that car hadn't been there then it wouldn't have mattered how fast she was going really oh right so it's your neighbours fault for parking on the road - making it more difficult for MIL to drive too fast - how selfish of them

Original poster
Spottyandstripped · 28/03/2014 19:02

We own our own house thanks very much, they rent.

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VivaLeBeaver · 28/03/2014 19:02

So the car's legally parked. I'd be pissed off if you left a note moaning about my legal parking. Especially after being given a mouthful by your MIL after she was speeding going too fast for the road.