About Ds Teacher wanting to call him something else ?

[CrazyHhas5kitties]

So Ds 5 has come home from school a little bit upset & after asking bribing him to tell me what's wrong I'm unsure how to deal/react to it .

Right so for the sake of keeping my anonimity (sp) I have changed the names .

So Ds is called Tom & has a class mate called Thomas from what I can gather Thomas' mum has told their Teacher that Thomas must now be called Tom so the Teacher has told Ds that he must be called Thomas so everybody doesn't get confused

Ds said 'but that's not my name' but apparently that's how it has to be because everybody can't be confused by two children with the same name , even though Tom is what's on my Ds birth certificate not Thomas

So if I haven't lost/confused you all what should I do about this ?

I will be seeing the Teacher Monday so I will say something I'm just unsure of what to say

Marcipex - that's insane!

Marcipex - I would have said 'Fine, you can call ds what you want to call him - and I assume it will be fine for ds and I to call you MrsSmellyKnickers - because he already knows a Mrs Smith, and we want her to feel as special as your son!'

what is wrong with Tom A and Tom B, that is what teachers have always done?
silly person.

DS had a group of 3 girls with the same name and another two with the same name in his class last year, and this is a tiny school of 120 DCs. He also rhymes with another boy (only first letter is different). Teacher just, you know, copes without having any class re-christening. YANBU

It wasn't quite random, she suggested using his other given name! Yes, I was too staggered to say much. I couldn't really sympathise when she explained that her child was upset. It's a very ordinary name, lots of them about.

Yes, he was her PFB come to think if it :)

My dh used to work in a company with a call centre attached. The call centre liked to be "friendly" so they never used surnames. If you started with a name already "used" you had to think up a new one. So you had Sarah, SarahknownasLucy, LucyknownasMia etc. What made it really hilarious was when people moved out of the call centre. Quite reasonably they'd start using their real name and no one would know who they were.

Although some people chose more glamorous than their own and stayed with them even after moving teams. One of dh's colleagues actually went out with "Marianne" for weeks before he discover that Marianne was really called Gill!

Deffo agree with Tom A/B

DS is only known by the shortened version of his name and has never been backward at telling unwitting supply teachers that

Such bullshit. I once taught a class with 5 Rachels in it. It was so funny the first day I took the roll, we all had a good laugh. I quickly learned their surnames but found I didn't really need to use them. Tell that teacher to cop on!!!!

Having students with the same name in the class is one of the challenges of being a teacher! I have one class with 3 Amy's 2 Emilys, 2 Toms in - all are called the same - generally the direction I am looking gives the game away! In my first year of teaching I had 3 Bethany's in one class and all requested they wanted to be called a different version which made life very tricky!

I will admit when I am having an off day with names - sometimes the brain fails I do resort to Bob! I am secondary and the students always know I am joking!

I love that story mumoftwo.

Hahaha- at primary we had two boys with exactly the same name, so we just had Lee Greaves 1 and Lee Greaves 2

Thankfully they were polar opposites in appearance! Could have been a nightmare for the teachers.

We had that at secondary school too - a girl whose full name was Katie but a teacher insisted she must be called Katherine. So weird.

YADNBU. There are four other children in DS's class of 24 with the same name as him (we thought we were being so original ). They all get called FirstnameSurname. It's not confusing in the slightest. DS refers to himself as FirstnameSurname, and signs all cards etc as such. It's very cute .

On a similar note, his teacher refused to accept that his surname had an 'S' on the end of it, although it's as common with an s as without. I had to go in and have a word after she reduced him to tears by telling him he was wrong and she was right .

Wow really I'm dd has 4 Evie's in her class are just known by Evie W or Evie J etc.

Mess this request from the teacher or is it the other parent with the issue? If she wanted her son to be the only one then she should of called him spike or something

Cherry - did she apologise to him when you told her he was right and she was wrong? I certainly hope she did!

I had 4 with the same name in my class. All long versions. I just called each one by their full name and even the other children did. All 4 loved it. I don't see what problem the teacher should have. It's not difficult.

That's crazy. There are 4 of us Anne's at work and everyone manages fine as they use our surnames! Have a word with the teacher, but I like the suggestion of pretending it's a misunderstanding as no one could be that stupid.

'How difficult for you. May I suggest that the most appropriate solution might be to call both boys what is on their birth certificates, as that appears to be different?' :)

I've taught many classes with 2 of the same name. We either do Tom F and Tom P or I sometimes do nicknames (which I do for lots of the kids in my class) as long as they don't mind obviously. I would never dream of telling a child they have to have a different name because it's confusing! Weird

Ds2 has another child with his name in class, as others have said they are just known as missmapp b and missmapp a. it sticks so much that my ds signs every card like this- even to us!!

I have taught many classes with multiple names, it really isn't an issue. Cant see any reason for changing names!! Could it have been said in jest???

I don't think I've ever had a year when I haven't had at least two children with the same name. It's really not such a big deal. Although the year I had a Braydon, Brandon, Brendon, Kayden, Hayden, Jayden and Jaydee in the class was a pretty interesting one.

My child is one of 6 Jessicas. Her teacher told me she likes to be called Jessie. Er, not according to my daughter she doesn't.

I once had two Tom Jones's in my class. I currently had 3 Bens.

see the teacher and insist he is known by his name. if that is impossible, change schools.

i'm not joking. giving children 'covenient' names went out with the ark. or in the sixties. it isn't on. at all.

This reminds me of a teacher at school, first lesson we had with her, we all had to introduce ourselves and say a sentence about ourselves or something (senior school). One boy says his name 'Ben' and starts the next part, teacher cuts him off and says 'Ben? Is that your christian name, I doubt it's Ben on your birth cert' etc etc. He is adamant that his name is Ben but teacher shouts him down and says 'no, you are Benjamin in this class'

She was a cow, not just because of this, she came out with some corkers, her.

The problem with Tom A/B is that some parents will tale offense at it, "why is my son B and not A?"

I once had "simon A" and "Simon 1"