To not want people to poo in my downstairs toilet?!

[Scornedwoman67]

I will start by saying I am a fairly relaxed person when it comes to the house. I like tidy, but am not obsessed about cleaning etc.
A few years ago, after my divorce, I bougt my current house & had a downstairs toilet installed. Because of space constraints, it is off the kitchen. I have a rule that basically it's only for No.1's. I sort of assumed that most people would realise that anyway, firstly because it is near the kitchen, and secondly because it isn't exactly soundproof
Anyway, a friend & her DH visited yesterday. I will add that he has history - he has on at least one previous occasion taken himslef upstairs & sat in that loo for a 'session' ( apologies if you're eating ) but yesterday he excelled himself. We were sitting in the lounge chatting & he disappeared out of the room. I went in to the kitchen a few minutes later & he shouted through the door to announce where he was. His DW rather nervously reminded him about my rule ( knowing what he is like, I suspect) to which he replied 'oh dear'.

Whilst I can see the funny side of it, I do think it is rude....or AIBU?!

I'm thinking of putting a bloody great big sign on the door now!!!!

How long ago did you put it in? It probably doesn't comply with regs you know.

anyway ...

I agree that it's bad manners to take a dump at someone else's house, unless absolutely necessary, but then I am in the 'won't poo at work' camp also.

But a sign would be going a bit far.

Not any more whois, they changed the regs a while back.

Could you put a lock on it for when you have vistitors. explain its broken if queried?

Thanks for thay whois. Rancid. What a lovely word. - it was done because that was the only place it could go. I live in a small house.
No the regs have been relaxed.
As previously explained, I needed an extra loo as I have two teenagers.

my flat is like a 100 years old.. the toielt has allways been in the same place... its council to..well was.. its ha now...

i wonder if i could use its unhyginic issue so i could exchange house... ... hmm ponders if i should phone ha and complaine

Is there actually a door in the kitchen to the toilet? As others have said I don't think that would conform to building regulations.

Anyway, I can see why you wouldn't want anyone to do a poo in there but I don't think that everyone thinks about that kind of thing. Also I suppose that sometimes the poo may be a surprise! I hope you have a good extractor fan.

You're probably right about the regs but I'm sure if there's no window you should have a powered vent in there.

I'd be quite surprised if an adult guest took a shit in our downstairs loo.

Visiting kids do it, fair enough. But I don't think an adult has ever - maybe we're lucky!

YABU and weird. It sounds like that League of Gentlemen sketch where the poor young bloke has come to stay with his aunt and uncle and they show him a particular loo: 'Into which we do NOT pass solids.'

Then again, your guest was being a bit weird announcing to you all where he was.

Looking at this exchange: 'DW rather nervously reminded him about my rule to which he replied 'oh dear'; the soundproofing can't be that bad, can it, or you'd have heard him taking a crap?

I'd recommend you get some air freshener and a grip.

YABU. Get an extractor fan and an air freshener.

Oh well, looks like 50% of us are 'weird' and 'need to get a grip'
They will be the 50% that I let use my downstairs loo.

OP, 50% of this thread haven't agreed with you, if that's what you think?You need to count up properly!

Yabu.

However I thought that building regs dictate you can't have a loo opening directly into a kitchen. As it were?

Oh god. Must read whole thread.

Bad manners to take a dump at someone else's house unless it's necessary?

Surely the very nature of needing the toilet is that it's necessary? It's nit something people do for fun

And I speak as someone who has 'issues' in that department and finds it quite upsetting to need to go anywhere other than at home. Which is particularly stressful as I have bowel problems. And threads like this tend to make upsetting reading because if I go to a friend's house and find myself struggling and needing the toilet, it makes a horrible situation worse to think that I might be silently judged for my poor toilet etiquette.

Didn't India Knight recommend Hissop's poo drops which completely eliminate the smell. I would be inclined to be practical about it and just have it in the loo with a detailed explanation how to use it.

YANBU to not want people to poo in the downstairs toilet. YABU and rude to actually try and enforce it.

I agree with you OP but accept that I'm in the minority. Got flamed on another forum for starting a similar thread!

Replace the toilet with a urinal. Job done

Maybe 50 % think yanbu not to like it but hardly anyone thinks it would be reasonable to enforce this with visitors

I'm sorry, I'm too busy laughing at your OP to post a proper reply!

Yanbu.

I would have thought most people would use downstairs for wee unless there was a poo emergency.

I always understood it to be the law that there had to be 2 doors between the kitchen and the loo, but apparently building regs have now changed and as long as there's a closable door and a sink in the loo, there only needs to be one door.

But yes, you're being unreasonable. A loo's a loo!

treaclesoda...I have IBS. I'd better not go to your house, otherwise I may end up pooing in my pants.

thanks macocious - I did start this as a semi-lighthearted discussion - but I was genuinely interested in the general consensus
I amazes me how angry people get on some of these threads though
I've been called 'precious', 'weird', 'uptight' and 'controlling'

Very strange indeed