To not want people to poo in my downstairs toilet?!

[Scornedwoman67]

I will start by saying I am a fairly relaxed person when it comes to the house. I like tidy, but am not obsessed about cleaning etc.
A few years ago, after my divorce, I bougt my current house & had a downstairs toilet installed. Because of space constraints, it is off the kitchen. I have a rule that basically it's only for No.1's. I sort of assumed that most people would realise that anyway, firstly because it is near the kitchen, and secondly because it isn't exactly soundproof
Anyway, a friend & her DH visited yesterday. I will add that he has history - he has on at least one previous occasion taken himslef upstairs & sat in that loo for a 'session' ( apologies if you're eating ) but yesterday he excelled himself. We were sitting in the lounge chatting & he disappeared out of the room. I went in to the kitchen a few minutes later & he shouted through the door to announce where he was. His DW rather nervously reminded him about my rule ( knowing what he is like, I suspect) to which he replied 'oh dear'.

Whilst I can see the funny side of it, I do think it is rude....or AIBU?!

I'm thinking of putting a bloody great big sign on the door now!!!!

I don't really understand how I am embarrassing my guests? I'm asking a genuine question on an anonymous forum
As I went out to the kitchen, he shouted through the door to me to announce the fact that he was on the loo - presumably because he was aware that the soundproofing wasn't up to much.

I could understand if he was an acquaintance, but he is a family friend we've known for years, and he often goes upstairs to the loo. So it isn't a question of him not knowing he could go upstairs.

Oh well, clearly a joky sign on the door is needed!

YABU, and weird. If you don't want people shitting in the toilet, turn it into a shoe cabinet or something. Ridiculous.

YABU

im going to take along shot here and say your toielt insint IN your kitchien .. that there is actually a wall seperating it.. and an acytually door to the bathroom.....

do you think germs are going to magically get through the wall or something ?

i dont get it?

Does the loo open directly off the kitchen? Are you sure that's legal? When we had an extension to our kitchen put in, we were told that the loo would have to be in a separate room within the extension so that it wasn't directly next door to the kitchen because it would conflict with building regulations or something. I can see the logic of it, it isn't really very hygienic otherwise.

We only have one loo.
I think people should poo in the garden.

I thought building regs stated you had to have 2 doors between a kitchen and a loo.

But YABU anyway.

Yanbu to dislike it, Yabu to think it's rude!!

I would never poo in someone else's house, actually struggle to go in public loos! Would rather leave if I really had too. However I wouldn't worry if someone else did.

If I knew this guy well I prob would have shouted through "oi, poo boy. Upstairs"

Don't think men get embarrassed by no 2's!

Must have been put in quite awhile ago, there needs to be a sort of airlock affair between loo and kitchen nowadays IIRC

Yes put in an autofan* to A cover sounds B remove smells.

*one that comes on as the door is opened

my toilet is right next to my kitchien in my flat. .. how is it unhygienic?

YANBU. I'd never do a poo in a loo that everyone else would have to walk past.

Scornedwoman67 Mon 24-Mar-14 17:34:50
I don't really understand how I am embarrassing my guests? I'm asking a genuine question on an anonymous forum

Because if they need a shit, they would need to go upstairs and thats really rather obvious too. Even more so if they have to ask for the location of the shitting toilet as they are unfamiliar with your house. Even if someone does smelly turds, they don't really wish to advertise the fact prior to the event and normally would have an expectation that their host would have the manners and wouldn't comment on their floral tones if thats what they did.

Yabu, it's a toilet!. Toilets were invented to pee & shit in, nothing more, nothing less. Fwiw I can't manage a no two in anyone's loo but my own so I suppose I would be your ideal guest

Turn it into a Harry Potter style bedroom instead, then hopefully no shit will be left there

Person shits in loo.

Because people shit, and that's what loos are expressly designed for.

All the other clauses and sub clauses you've introduced as to their use are baffling to me. I don't think it's fair to complain about someone using the loo for the reason it was invented.

I would think a sign saying no number twos would be pretty weird unless you make up an excuse about the plumbing. can understand and I wouldn't poo in someone elses house unless totally unavoidable but yabu.

in someone elses toilet rather than their house that is!

Sorry but YABU A loo is a loo.

I don't want people to shit in toilet full stop except for people that live here, I don't know if its mainly because I envy those that can just shit anywhere, so you can imagine how much I wanted to kill the workman that took a dump in my upstairs loo and didn't even wash his hands after before venturing in every room touching stuff, I tell you i needed to pour myself a very large vodka after he finally left! Twat supposed to use the downstairs cold loo

You need an extractor fan :)

We can't flush tampons/towels down our loo, they have to go in the bin. I assume visitors don't flush theirs either. If they do and the sewer blocks again, we deal with it. I can't face the embarrassment of asking people not to!

red he's always gone upstairs in the past. That's why I was annoyed.
I've of course never commented on him using the loo before.

rabbit If it's weird to not want a waft in my kitchen, then maybe I am.
I just wanted to court opinion - I wouldn't go in somebodys downstairs loo but clearly that's just me. And apparently that makes me 'controlling' ?!

Clauses & subclauses?? Nope, just poo upstairs!

And whoever asked if I listen at the door for farts? I have a teenage son. If I did that I'd be there all day.

The design is legal, but not ideal. And because of that, nobody has ever done it before.... oh well, I guess I'll have to put a sign up.

YANBU, we have the same rule in our downstairs loo, though that is just for us that live here, I think you are being a bit U to impose same rules on visitors but maybe it depends on what sort of relationship you have with them IYKWIM?

Brings back our family folklore of when I once did an "accidental poo" in my parents caravan toilet which had a similar rule!

I was going to say the same as nennypops about the legality of a bathroom opening straight to the kitchen.

Either way yabu. It's a toilet, he isn't shitting in the sink

Thank goodness I'm not the only one who hates people crapping in my downstairs loo.
Although that rule is only for family, and friends that I can break wind in front of (there are only 2).

My bathroom is directly off the kitchen and it's our only one (although it does have windows and an extractor fan.) Should we be pooing somewhere else for "hygiene" reasons wondering?