To not want people to poo in my downstairs toilet?!

[Scornedwoman67]

I will start by saying I am a fairly relaxed person when it comes to the house. I like tidy, but am not obsessed about cleaning etc.
A few years ago, after my divorce, I bougt my current house & had a downstairs toilet installed. Because of space constraints, it is off the kitchen. I have a rule that basically it's only for No.1's. I sort of assumed that most people would realise that anyway, firstly because it is near the kitchen, and secondly because it isn't exactly soundproof
Anyway, a friend & her DH visited yesterday. I will add that he has history - he has on at least one previous occasion taken himslef upstairs & sat in that loo for a 'session' ( apologies if you're eating ) but yesterday he excelled himself. We were sitting in the lounge chatting & he disappeared out of the room. I went in to the kitchen a few minutes later & he shouted through the door to announce where he was. His DW rather nervously reminded him about my rule ( knowing what he is like, I suspect) to which he replied 'oh dear'.

Whilst I can see the funny side of it, I do think it is rude....or AIBU?!

I'm thinking of putting a bloody great big sign on the door now!!!!

Sorry OP, I should have clarified - I meant it was weird to imagine people would automatically think they shouldn't poo in your toilet.

Personally I would avoid your downstairs loo and go upstairs if I was visiting you and needed a dump, but that would be my specific choice and not something I would think of as 'mandatory'. And if I got caught short, well then, I wouldn't be racing upstairs with my knickers around my ankles.

It also would never occur to me that someone would have a toilet without ventilation - I would automatically assume that they had an inbuilt fan somewhere. I would sort that out, in fairness.

I cannot believe I have just spent so much time thinking about a stranger's downstairs toilet.

Yanbu! Shitting in the near vicinity of a kitchen and living room with folk in is gross. End of story.

You should go round to his house and take a shit on his living room floor, that'll show him!

YABU of course.

My mum and I are like the OP. If someone were to come to our front door, which is next to the toilet, I don't want them smelling shit in my house. And I think the OP is thinking of the kitchen and the fact it could be off putting when eating/preparing food?

My mum is ott when it comes to cleanliness though and she's grilled it into me. I assumed most home owners would have a similar attitude to toilets by the front door/kitchen though.

I'm killing myself laughing at this thread.
My bathroom is off my kitchen btw, but it's been there for a billion years so don't know about regulations.

OP I completely agree with you
Both of us ABU

Frankie, that's the exact reason I won't allow it.
Could you just imagine if someone had to come over and all they can smell is festering turds.

Seriously don't put the sign put up

I shared a house with the owner who had a don't poo in the guest loo rule (also off the kitchen, are you my old housemate?). I broke that rule often as sometimes I don't know about the number two until I've started the number one.

Like her, YABVU.

So you have a visitor come round and they need the loo.
Visitor: "Can I use your toilet?"
You: "Did you want a wee or a poo?"

Alternatively, you put a (very tasteful) sign up, and as your visitor approaches the downstairs toilet door, they realise that they now have to announce, by way of turning round and heading upstairs, that they need to poo.

No, that wouldn't embarrass your guests at all!!

Get some air freshener.

Toilets are for shitting and pissing in. Noone likes poo smell but it dissipates eventually, even without a window to crack. Yes, YABU (and possibly have ishoos).

Box of matches in the loo?

ohh dear.. my toilet is right next to the front door AND next to the kitchien...

its allso oppersit the kids room..

im fucking doomed arnt i?

Perhaps I will install a bell in there - that way if they go in for a No.1 and it looks like it's going to be a 'surprise' No.2, they can let me know & I can run in with the air freshener.

And before anyone shouts - I am joking

And sirzy nobody shits in the sink now - I put a note on that as well

Building regs used to be that you had to have a door inbetween a loo and a kitchen, but no longer. We ummed and ahhed about having a loo put in downstairs, but, unless we do some serious converting, straight off the kitchen would be the only place for it. Ewwwww. OP YANBU, gross next to the kitchen!

YABU and a bit wierd.

this is unbelievable.

a toilet is the place for bodily wastes. Not everyone is able to predict or control which type will be emitted in said toilet.

provide some kind of scent and a box of matches, a toilet brush and perhaps some disinfectant spray so people can leave it as they would wish to find it.

if the place is a little 'fragrant' after use- well, that's real life for you!!

alternatively..

www.amazon.co.uk/No-Shitting-In-The-Toilet/dp/0553817361

This is the whole reason I do not want an ensuite...if u take a poo then your bedroom will stink! I shame my friends at the moment house hunting when ppl show off the ensuite as though it is something to be desired! It is not desirable that my bedroom smells of crap!

I actually see your point - it's gross to have the stink downstairs and I hate it! I hate downstairs loos for this reason and wouldn't have one but ours came with the house...

But I wouldn't dictate what people did on the loo.

Looks like lots of us are then Grennie
Thanks

what do people in bungalows do

It constantly amazes me on here the threads where people try to make rules about what a toilet should be used for.

Toilets are for poos and wees. Shit in it if you want to. What a silly rule.

Apologies as not read the thread (being a bit of an open and shut case, IMO), but if you don't want people to shit near your kitchen, don't install a toilet off your kitchen.

I may try to desist as I wouldn't enjoy poo smells coming into a food preparation area, but even so, sometimes I've been taken by surprise by a crap.

Most men would probably think afterwards that perhaps it wasn't the greatest thing they could have done, but they tend to be rather one-track (focused, some might say) in thought. Like my DH, despite having a first class maths degree, is apparently not able to drive AND look at street signs to determine where he needs to be.

Personally I think it's rancid you put in a toilet off your kitchen and it's not got a window in it.

I thought you had to have 2 doors between kitchen and toilet for uk building regs?

If it bothers you that much I would strongly suggest you just tell people the flush is awkward. And direct them upstairs