To be depressed at what I would apparently like for Mother's Day

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Shopping in Sainsburys I came across the Mother's Day gift display. Because I have squeezed some kids out of my chuff I now desire nothing more than something pointless and pastel, preferably decorated with pictures of cupcakes. Or an emetic film, a Love Songs CD, or chocolates in the shape of a shoe. How depressing to see a whole aisle of this shit and think that this is what marketing types have identified as What Women Want. I suppose come Father's Day the same aisle will be full of amusing golf mugs and ties with cars on. It's just so fucking dull.

We had a lovely Day out at the HP studio tour, DDs birthday/early Mother's day.

My pretty much house bound DM will get a big bunch of Next flowers, because she would never ever get them for herself and loves them.

(Next send really nice flowers that last, to a far flung corner of the country so I'm sticking with them).

The thing is, it's not compulsory to buy stuff off these displays - all normal things are available too!

My mum is getting a glass polar bear from the charity shop (yes I know, but she mentioned seeing it and is an absolute pita to buy for so I jumped on it pronto would probably love the 'Diana' film though, must add that to birthday list)

Knowing DH I will probably get sweet fa a card, in spite of me mentioning a couple of things to DD!

The simple answer is not to buy anything off the displays and they will stop doing it. Shops do what works and makes them money. It obviously works for them. It is like Halloween, it is now big business with aisles full of stuff, but it never used to be like that. It works. Boycott it.

What I really want for Mothering Sunday/Mother's Day (delete as preferred?)

A big packet of fudge. A downmarket magazine. 40 minutes to consume same, with a cup of tea and no lecture from DH about how I shouldn't eat all the fudge in one go. That would be lovely.

I would happily settle for slurpy kisses from DH and the DC though.

I'd love to have Mithering Sunday, where we all send passive aggressive cards to family setting out what's annoyed us from/about them all year, complain about everything all day and then buy ourselves presents.

I've just had this conversation with a colleague. There's no card saying " I love you but you're hard work". They're all about being the "Best Mum Ever" and my mum would just laugh in my face if I gave her that!

kenadams thankyou so much for the tip about Scribbler

Just bought my best friend a birthday card from there - it's perfect!

Oh Precious, I am sorry. Could you not make a suitable card yourself with coloured paper and some glue while you rest up on the sofa (I hope you can get some rest)?

I know I'm getting a salt and pepper set (coz OH stupidly asked me to look at one his emails for some info and didnt realise the top one was a confimation email)

I'm dead chuffed as I've wanted this set for ages and he even got the right colour....but I know that had I told the women I work with they would of thought as I hadn't got the obligatory flowers, chocs or pink shit that it was a duff present

Don't know if it helps anyone but I saw a Mothering Sunday card in Waterstone's. looked very restrained.

some coffee shop chain needs to market a mothers day voucher - which comprises a voucher for mum to treat herself, and a SEPARATE dads and kids breakfast on mothers day - then we could all have the peace and lie ins we crave!

Last year my DS bought me a cheapo electric drill- I loved it & stil use it plenty- much more practical then the wine/flowers/chocs my DD's bought me!
My own DM loves a practical gift too, so Im giving her a IOU for my help in wallpapering and painting ! shes 76 and gets up those ladders no prob but I hate the thought of her doing it, so Im gonna do it this time! better than pink/flowery/gardening book my DB will give her!!

I was once commissioned to make a card that said "it's father's day" on the- front and "you were a crap dad but I'm socially obliged to get you a card anyway" inside.

I suspect if I made those and the mother's day/mothering sunday ones commercially available I'd make a fortune

(won't be getting anything for my mother, she can have a present or a phone call as I can't afford both)

Happy mothers day, now go clean the loo

Might be late to the party but you can get free printable Mother's Day cards off t'internet, for example here

Really, Lastname. Anyone who buys bleach as a gift deserves to fucking drink it.

Anything pink and shite from the seasonal tat aisle just screams 'here's some shite I feel obliged to buy you'. Just like valentines, Easter, Christmas etc.

I hate it all and ignore it as much as possible.

I bought my mom's card from here: www.notonthehighstreet.com/mothers-day/express-mothers-day-cards-wrap - she doesn't get "worlds best mum" bollocks from me.

I must admit I don't think YABU when it comes to Mother's Day gift displays but I'm lucky with my DC's they always get me lovely perfume and something superhero branded. I'm a geek

YANBU. I despise the fact that I'm expected to make a fuss of the bitch who almost destroyed me. On a separate note, I bought a beautiful victorian pink frame, a box of favourite chocolates, a mug for making favourite instant gravy in as the old ones handle fell off, a keyring (as I love keyrings and my friends and family know that its thoughtful as I love the bloody things) and I bought a vase, decorated it and hunted down a lovely artificial flower to match living room all for MIL, who needs a medal for being related to me, albeit via marriage.

I warned DH not to even get me a card from our DS as the whole day makes me vom.

DH asked me what I wanted from the kids for Mother's Day and I have said hunger games 2 on Blu ray. I'd rather get a punch in the face than a cupcake gift set or a "mummys make the world go round" barf-fest plaque. More than anything I wouldn't want to contribute to their sales stats.

I think the most depressing thing I've seen as a "gift" was in asda, it was an oven glove and matching tea towels saying "mums kitchen" on them. I bet Emmeline Pankhurst is so pleased she got trampled by a horse so that almost 100 years later women are still seen as having their little place in the kitchen, even on a day dedicated to them as mothers.

I also think we should start a campaign to stop men buying women perfume gift sets for Mother's Day/birthday/Christmas. Who tells them we want that crap?! Don't spend £45 on my favourite perfume gift set so that I can have a loofah and exfoliator and shower gel which smells nothing like my favourite perfume, and a paltry 30ml bottle of the perfume. Just spend the money on a bigger perfume bottle you loon!!

DS is 7 with no other monies than the £1.60 the tooth faery left last night. So he's going to make me a card. And I'm going to make my mum a card and we're going to do it together. IIRC she likes that sort of stuff and I haven't done it in ages (it's been over 30 years since I last made her a card).

I'm not good at this stuff so I'm hoping DS will direct help me.

Dunno what to buy her though.

MyNameisKen I LOVE Scribbler. Its the only place I buy cards

My brother last year due to hungover and clueless panic buying managed to get our mum a card which said "You're like a mother to me"