To be depressed at what I would apparently like for Mother's Day

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Shopping in Sainsburys I came across the Mother's Day gift display. Because I have squeezed some kids out of my chuff I now desire nothing more than something pointless and pastel, preferably decorated with pictures of cupcakes. Or an emetic film, a Love Songs CD, or chocolates in the shape of a shoe. How depressing to see a whole aisle of this shit and think that this is what marketing types have identified as What Women Want. I suppose come Father's Day the same aisle will be full of amusing golf mugs and ties with cars on. It's just so fucking dull.

Unfortunately people must buy it or they wouldn't produce it. I manage to get a perfectly reasonable card and bypass the suggestions, as do my children.

Every year we get this thread.

My DS6 drew me a card with Steve from minecraft on it and wrote I love you mummy with no prompting from anyone. He gave it to me two weeks ago when I was poorly and I'm not bothered about mothers day now as nothing can top how it made me feel.

There will be lots of threads next Sunday, LordPalmerston, it is a date that causes no end of angst!

This is my first year as a mum so have taken a bit more notice of it this year however I normally get my mum a card and a token gift. This year I got her a soft toy Moomin (because I call her Moomins....).no idea what I'll get from 5mo pfb!

I can understand those wanting a slightly less gushing and over emotional card though. My problem comes with Father's Day. I love my dad but he left me and my mum for my now step mum when I was 18 months old and although I forgive him and we all get along, buying a card saying 'worlds greatest dad' just doesn't seem right!

There's nothing wrong with pastels, there's only a problem with assuming everyone likes them. And I linked to nice ones

I've bought my Mum some body lotions etc as she likes and uses the stuff, I'll get her a plain card as I don't like the fancy ones.

My DH will get me a card and sign our boys name in, I'll happily take the boys (2 under4) to a cafe for hot chocolate and cake, which we'll all enjoy.

In my local shopping centre they were promoting a hair removal voucher as a mothers day present. I would have something to say if that's what I got...

I really can't be arsed with it all. Went to tesco yesterday me and whilst I was in the loo dh put loads of glittery shittery (thanks op) in it. When I'm came back he just went "oh you've spoiled the surprise" and cracked out laughing.
Many years ago dp gave small ds a fiver to get me something. Come the day he said "what did you get?" "A crunchie" looks [puzzled] goes upstairs to ds divvying out big pile of chocolate bars. I get a crunchie every year now.

If you you don't like the pink frilly stuff and your DC gets you this stuff, take it as an opportunity to educate your nearest and dearest for the rest of the year as to who you are as a person and your likes and dislikes. Just because pink stuff it there, doesn't mean people have to buy it.

Couple of the best presents I ever got was a shed and a wheelbarrow. Perfect for my hobby and not found in an isle of the supermarket.

My DD has been trained on gift giving when we've been buying for other people. She's says she likes something and I remind her it about pleasing the the person you are giving to so would they like it.

She also knows that generally now, I don't like 'things' so much and would much rather make memories and feel extra special occasionally. So what makes me happy is being spoilt.

unfortunately, there is nowhere that can sell me what I would like on mothers day. no flowers, chocolate, vomit inducing films, pastel, cupcakes.

Sainsburys take note - you need to start selling 'lie-ins'.

I'll be happy with a long walk, someone else to cook my lunch and a small bunch of tulips.

( I've put this here because I know how DH likes to read 'Threads I'm On' )

In my Sainsburys, in the Mother's Day aisle there was some (but not a lot) of the usual tat, but also horror films, comedies, and a wide selection on the cd section, all stickered up with Mother's Day marketing.
There was a baking section and then a section with stuff for the car.
As even though i don't actually want anything for Mother's Day except maybe a home made card, I thought it was about time :)

Most mums love all that cute stuff in Sainsburys and Sainsburys have to go with the majority. Where did this idea come from? Mothers? Or men who have one brain cell between them? Are you listening supermarkets?

I love Mother's Day Are you American? It's proper name is Mothering Sunday. for the commercialisation of such a day.

....But shops clearly make money off stuff like that dire pillow that Truffle linked earlier or they wouldn't do this year after year. Could it be that they do it year after year because no one bought it last year so they just display it again?

Supermarkets do what makes a profit. People buy it. They do not use pink chocolates from last year, they have gone out of date. They put the chocolates in pink boxes because they sell.

I hate all the pink cup cake twee stuff too, I simply don't believe that this is what most mums love, not a single person that I know has this sort of stuff in their house apart from the odd thing lovingly bought by young DCs which sticks out like a sore thumb in their generally un-pink houses.

Having said that, I absolutely loved twee things when I was a little girl (china figurines of ballet dancers, or made of sea shells etc), so it's not unreasonable that your tastes change as you grow older and that DCs are buying something that they think is so beautiful they cannot possibly imagine their mum not liking it, I'm sure I did.

I won't be impressed if I get anti-wrinkle cream though, have spotted that in a few Mother's Day displays this week. I'll buy my own thanks.

I'm not girly at all but I don't care what card I get as it will have been chosen by my DC and if they like it and their happy with it then who cares what it looks like? Generally they make them and I still make my mum one as it's so much nicer and she loves it......my sister thinks it's slightly odd as she goes way over the top but as long as my mum is happy that's all that matters
Get your DC to make you one! We are the minority so card makers wouldn't sell enough to justify making them but the pretty pink ones are loved by millions........
I hope whatever you do get you love and you have a fab day

I want breakfast in bed and to be left in peace for the day.
(And wouldn't mind the new Elbow CD)

YANBU. I spotted a floral sewing kit and a Downton Abby lip gloss set on the M&S mothers day display. Who buys this shit ?

It's Mothering Sunday, not Mother's Day. It was originally a church festival as part of Lent. Now its an excuse for retailers to sell your dh/dp tat.

When my dc were small, they used to make me a card and then bring me breakfast in bed. We'd go to Church and all the women ( whether or not they were mums) would get a little posy of flowers. And that was it. We never did lunch out, just a normal Sunday lunch cooked by me.

This year, as the dc are teenagers, its doubtful that they will put in an appearance before lunchtime, so no breakfast in bed, although dh might bring me a cuppa. I don't suppose I'll get any cards but will get a posy of flowers at Church. And that will be just fine. I personally don't like the hijacking/commercialisation of what is supposed to be a simple Chuch celebration wanders off back to the 19th century

Doesn't anyone still think that a bunch of daffs is enough??

Well seeing as the Christian Church latched on to Pagan/Spiritual/Godess/Universal festivals and renamed then Christmas/Easter etc, I think those of us that want to re-brand Mothering Sunday as Mother's Day, can do so.

You all must be limited in what's in your local shops.

Even the discount shops in my area have everything in Pink/Pastals and Blue/Green, other colours.

Spirits are on offer and Mother's Day classes with "Gardening Events" so there is a range of stuff on cut price savings.

I don't do cards because I'm opposed to the environmental impact of such, but it's nice to get the odd key ring or plaque from your adult children telling you how proud they are to have had you as a Mum.

I know that what my DD's gets me, has been searched for and read, if they don't get me anything such like they tell me that there's was nothing that meant anything to them available.

I have had to drum it into my eldest that I like Girly/Pink/Birds/Butterfly's, so I have the opposite problem to most on here.