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To be depressed at what I would apparently like for Mother's Day

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Toospotty · 22/03/2014 23:34

Shopping in Sainsburys I came across the Mother's Day gift display. Because I have squeezed some kids out of my chuff I now desire nothing more than something pointless and pastel, preferably decorated with pictures of cupcakes. Or an emetic film, a Love Songs CD, or chocolates in the shape of a shoe. How depressing to see a whole aisle of this shit and think that this is what marketing types have identified as What Women Want. I suppose come Father's Day the same aisle will be full of amusing golf mugs and ties with cars on. It's just so fucking dull.

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nickelbabe · 23/03/2014 00:03

Smegs - I'm just hoping our church is doing the posy of flowers tgey normally hand out.
they used to be handed out to all children for their mums (adult children included) and women, but in recent years they've been handed to everyone.

ToAvoidConversation · 23/03/2014 00:03

Thank you OP. Iv be having thiseca to same rant for two weeks. Just because a woman has given birth doesn't mean she needs pink and fucking love hearts. It's almost impossible to buy a card that has neither. Load of sexist bloody gumf.

littledrummergirl · 23/03/2014 00:04

Every mothers day I get breakfast in bed and much as I enjoy cold scrambled egg on toast, this year I would like to sleep until I wake myself up and have cold toast or cereal.
A calm quiet day would make it awesome.

MarvellousMabel · 23/03/2014 00:04

The cards. Ye gods the cards are fucking awful.

My mum likes a laugh. The jokey ones; well - They're all so tired and over used. I can't find a funny one anywhere.

And like nickelbabe says - it's Mothering Sunday. Not cunting Mother's Day.

MarvellousMabel · 23/03/2014 00:06

Although on a different note, I can recommend that lube.

DH is a pharmacist and brought home some out of date stuff.

It's nice.

NurseyWursey · 23/03/2014 00:06

Whatever happened to good old fashioned spit? Wine

Heehee..

Redcliff · 23/03/2014 00:08

AwfulMaureen - that is genuis! I have not laughed so hard in ages - good for boots.

EeeIcouldCrushAGrape · 23/03/2014 00:14

Am I the only one who would be absolutely grateful whatever my small children bought for me?
I wouldn't care if it was pink and glittery and shittery Hmm I'd just love the fact that they'd bought me something nice. I wouldn't care if it was more pink than kick ass.
Some people on this thread seem very ungrateful. You've only got yourselves to blame if you end up with a big fat NOTHING come Mother's Day.

NurseyWursey · 23/03/2014 00:15

eee you're missing the point. It's nothing to do with receiving it, I think everyone would be very grateful. It's the fact retailers assume this is what mums want.

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Toospotty · 23/03/2014 00:19

My children are tiny and will buy me nothing and I won't care. When they are older of course I'll be delighted if they want to buy or make me anything at all. But this is about the marketing of it all, not graspiness. This is about women wanting to buy their own mothers things that are a bit diverse. Surely 'women' could be catered for in a less stereotypical way? The women that love pink are very well catered for - what about the rest of us?

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Toospotty · 23/03/2014 00:20

Nursey said it better.

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EeeIcouldCrushAGrape · 23/03/2014 00:20

Quite a lot of mums DO want the pink shit though. Whether it be cupcake, cheesy tunes CD's or whatever.
So it stands to reason that's what the marketers are going to target their stuff towards.
If you're one of the ones who go against the grain though and like texas chain saw massacre type stuff, then what's to stop you shopping in that aisle?!
You'll still get the stuff you like. Just be prepared that there's a lot out there who don't like the stuff you do and therefore the Mothers Day marketers aren't going to cater for you. Doesn't make you any less of a mother. Just means you're less likely to find your genre and interests in a generic Mother's Day bunch. Smile

NurseyWursey · 23/03/2014 00:22

Quite a lot of mums DO want the pink shit though. Whether it be cupcake, cheesy tunes CD's or whatever

I honestly don't think they do. I think they coo over it and love it because it's from their children, but it's not something they'd pop on a wishlist of buy themselves

But I suppose it's difficult to cater to many different tastes so go with generic flowers and pink etc

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Toospotty · 23/03/2014 00:24

I don't know a single woman (mother) who wants any of it. Obviously they are out there, as you say, but I don't think I'm in a tiny minority feeling pretty alienated at what Sainsburys think I am. I think it's unimaginative and trite.

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squoosh · 23/03/2014 00:29

YABU to feel depressed by a generic Mother's Day display. By all means be depressed if you actually receive bath pearls or some other equally crappy nonsense but don't read so much into a Sainsbury's Mother's Day selection.

nickelbabe · 23/03/2014 00:29

I don't.
I like stuff that I find useful to me, not just something frilly and pink to look at and clutter up the house

actially, I would love to have someone to come in and clean the house. especially the kitchen.
and maybe lay some new vinyl/floor covering in there
it's got too much for me and dh and we need a third party to blitz it

fairylightsintheloft · 23/03/2014 00:30

ok here's one then. I actually DO want, specifically, the little tea cup measuring cups in Sainsburys. I wanted them last year and didn't get them so I am making damn sure I get them this year. My kitchen is full of retro 50s Cath Kidston shit, I like it. So ner. All the other stuff is still available and you can make any card you like online.

greenbananas · 23/03/2014 00:31

I'm hoping for breakfast in bed, cooked by my loving 5 year old, assisted by DH and our toddler.

The commercial side of it is just grim Sad

Blondieminx · 23/03/2014 00:39

I'm with Inertia- I have expressed a request for gin or naice plants for the garden.

Perhaps we all need to be more specific in nudging our DP's ... Maybe if all the retailers were left full of shelves of sappy DVD's/pink glittery shit, they might be a bit more imaginative with their offerings...?

morethanpotatoprints · 23/03/2014 00:44

I'm getting a lovely silver picture frame, one of those old fashioned type and a silver tea light holder to go in our soon to be decorated lounge.
They asked what I wanted and I told them.
I object to flowers and don't like them buying them. over priced and you can get twice as many the following week.

ChaosTrulyReigns · 23/03/2014 00:51

Inspired by Maureen's picture, I think I'm going to go to the supermarkettomo rrow and move some of the point of sale displays around.

Shall I put some by the gin? And Rescue Remedy? And Ben & Jerry's?

NurseyWursey · 23/03/2014 00:52

Tesco in particular is overpriced I think. £8.00 for some little chocolates and a mug?!

Jux · 23/03/2014 00:54

DD always makes me something. Last year it was a clay owl - absolutely beautiful it is.

Jux · 23/03/2014 00:55

Actually, there's a pic of it on my profile.

NurseyWursey · 23/03/2014 00:58

Aw jux that's awesome!