To be depressed at what I would apparently like for Mother's Day

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Shopping in Sainsburys I came across the Mother's Day gift display. Because I have squeezed some kids out of my chuff I now desire nothing more than something pointless and pastel, preferably decorated with pictures of cupcakes. Or an emetic film, a Love Songs CD, or chocolates in the shape of a shoe. How depressing to see a whole aisle of this shit and think that this is what marketing types have identified as What Women Want. I suppose come Father's Day the same aisle will be full of amusing golf mugs and ties with cars on. It's just so fucking dull.

I don't care what I get (or more likely wont get,I'm a single parent the youngest are to young to know what day it is the older ones can't go anywhere without a carer and the ones that can have spent years listening to me bang on about it being commercial nonsense so they think I don't care)

But I damn well resent the implication that all I want is a bastard orchid or a tea pot.

I'm pretty sure they do it not because they think we want it but because they know at 10pm you don't have much choice and they have been putting out this tat for so many years that the people buying it think we want it. (This makes perfect sense in my head!)

It's a conspiracy

But I damn well resent the implication that all I want is a bastard orchid or a tea pot

Hahhha!!

DH usually books me a massage. It's perfect. That DVD a homemade card and I'm set.

Of course it could be worse,they could put the bastard orchid in the tea pot!

Nickel, you can get mothering sunday cards, even the card factory has one. I know this as i refuse to give in the the hideous tweeness of "Mothers' Day"

Some people on this thread seem very ungrateful. You've only got yourselves to blame if you end up with a big fat NOTHING come Mother's Day

If th choice was this waste of a tenner or nothing, I'll take nothing every time if it's all the same to you

I agree about all of the froufrou tat...for Mother's Day Id like a lovely cuddle with the kids before heading off for a day OUT, by myself or with some girlfriends to do what I want to do!!!! (Exhausted mummy of two under 2s )

I was looking in Tesco at the display dreading my dc going in there thinking this would be what I would want. I don't even want anything material at all, the same as for Christmas and my birthday all I want is for a peaceful nice day and a cup of filter coffee and a slice of toast with lashings of butter and the nice jam.

I remember years ago, my Mum phoning me and starting off a big drama over the fact that she didn't have her car to open the moment she woke and demanding I bring it around at ten pm at night as she didn't want to wait. That is one example of why I am nc with the Woman, she gets no cards anymore, I am told she recycles the old card year after year to hide her blushes. I remember her going batshit at my sibling who lived in America and would not send her something on the correct day, she chucked the gift in the bin as it wasn't the right day. I truly think some of it is a showing off thing to her house visitors.

@my name is ken. Scribbler is not a great card shop. It sells badges with SUCK MY DICK on them at the till. Assistant says different people have different senses of humour.

*card

YANBU.

It's not to do with being grateful, grasping etc. This is about the sexist shite that retailers market as being what mothers want. And unthinking ill trained OHs and unsophisticated DCs fall for it - "Oh this must be what she wants as it is it the special aisle". If it was the whole DVD rack, fine, but no - it's the special pink, saccharine, twee selection. Same with music.

Eugh yanbu, my mum would have preferred some JD and a Slipknot CD.

I did see a card that said "from the cat". DP refused to humour me

If you need Hallmark cards to tell your mother you love her then I think that says more than any card. Same goes for February 14th.

If you need to send a card to keep up with the masses make your own?

Yanbu. I'm hoping DH doesn't go to any effort so I won't have to reciprocate come Father's Day and be faced with an aisle full of top gear, golf and drinking games... This is really an extension of the gender stereotyping that we see in the range of kids toys / clothes and it's frankly ridiculous.

I don't think all the pink stuff is there because we're supposed to like it. It's there because that's what we are supposed to want our mothers to like - it's playing into the idea that people want their mothers to be the kind of person who dresses in pink, smells like flowers, and watches fluffy films.

It's been like this for years. I remember as a teenager laughing at the 'for Mothers Day' suggestions in adverts, particularly the ubiquitous anti ageing cream one which I thought was downright insulting, as my mother would have hated them. As an adult I laugh just as much at the stuff they push. No, I do not think that Saving Mr Banks, a Disney whitewash of how they made the book into a film that the author in reality hated, would be 'the perfect gift.'

It's not about being ungrateful or hating what you're given, it's about hating the commercial shit and the 'suggestions' of major retailers. I would prefer a bunch of daffodils (bought not picked ) to the stuff that's For Mothers Day.

I once got one for my mum that said

Go on, admit it, I'm your favourite, aren't I.

Most mums love all that cute stuff in sainsburys and sainsburys have to go with the majority. If you want something different try eBay, amazon or many of the other film and game memorabilia websites out there it's not difficult. My dh has managed to buy me tonnes of game memorabilia and he has also got me a cute card and a fluffy teddy because I am quite traditional too.
I love Mother's Day, my kids enjoy it too. My dh has big plans. It's lovely to be appreciated.

'Most mums love that cute stuff in Sainsbury's'

I want to see data on that. It is bought because it's in a handy section, labelled and targeted as suitable gifts.

I'm starting my own selection.

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This will be my first Mother's Day and while it will mean a lot to me (struggle to get here...), pink shite will not be featuring, I hope!

I don't think most mums love the cute shit in Sainsburys - I don't think "most mums" love anything in particular (except maybe gin) because they're all ndividuals. But shops clearly make money off stuff like that dire pillow that truffle linked earlier or they wouldn't do this year after year. What should they stock on that aisle instead that would appeal to enough people - it can't just be an aisle full of gin?!

The card I got my own DM last year said "Mum and 'The Plot' had been strangers for many a year" on it. It's still up in her study, she loved it .

Can't remember what the card DD DH bought but I do remember it had DD's handprint in it! She was 10 months so that was quite sweet. I got a bunch of flowers too which is always nice.

Most mums don't like that rubbish. The supermarkets sell that shit to lazy men who are feeling guilty or who are pressured by children who are, let's face it, often magpies.

In general, ime, the 'seasonal' aisle in supermarkets should be avoided unless you're looking for 50p rolls of Christmas paper in January.

If you do have a mother who likes pink.

And reduced tins of crackers (to go with cheese).

In fairness Havant I wouldn't say no to the multi coloured ones! They'd be nice for outside in the summer! But that's just me.

As DH is in a different country to me and the the DDs at the minute, and they are 22 and 6 months, I think this year I'll probably get the same level of cuddles and tantrums as every other day and not a lot else!