To be depressed at what I would apparently like for Mother's Day

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Shopping in Sainsburys I came across the Mother's Day gift display. Because I have squeezed some kids out of my chuff I now desire nothing more than something pointless and pastel, preferably decorated with pictures of cupcakes. Or an emetic film, a Love Songs CD, or chocolates in the shape of a shoe. How depressing to see a whole aisle of this shit and think that this is what marketing types have identified as What Women Want. I suppose come Father's Day the same aisle will be full of amusing golf mugs and ties with cars on. It's just so fucking dull.

Supermarkets do what makes a profit. People buy it. They do not use pink chocolates from last year, they have gone out of date. They put the chocolates in pink boxes because they sell

It sells because its the same old shit they have been telling men they are meant to stear the kids towards for years, it's only been chosen in the very loosest seance of the word.

It's brain washing by supermarket

It's not about being ungrateful for what you have been given, I don't mind if the DCs forget entirely and anything they buy or make will be treasured. The objection is to retailers who think that what every woman wants is twee and girly things. To be honest I also object to it being used so relentlessly as a marketing opportunity.

I also struggle to find a card suitable for my mum who like me detests twee and sentimental things and I don't have the excuse of being a child and not knowing this.

I would be delighted with a bunch of daffs, I just don't want them in a cup or teapot

We always had this problem for mil .. Trying to get a card that doesn't say I love you and you are the best is tricky ( she isn't ) . Luckily she doesn't talk to us now so problem solved !

I'd kill for the day off cooking, tidying up, picking up crap off the floor, ironing a weeks worth of uniform, playing referee and nagging about homework. I'd also like a cup of tea in bed (withoug being ill) and some bloody peace and quiet. And chocolate. And an electric drill please.

We had a look at the Mother's day stuff on offer whilst we were doing the weekly shop. I did just about manage to pick out a card which I thought wasn't too sappy and gushing. However 99% of the cards were pink, floral and over-size. Unfortunately, DSis and I both live quite far from our DM so together we coordinate a delivery of lovely flowers from Waitrose for her. She likes flowers in the house, so as far as I know they are appreciated.

I can remember when we were at junior school they used to have a mother's day sale at breaktime during the week before. There would be tables in the hall covered with tat like candles, smellies, wooden spoons carved with "mum" etc. DM told me and DSis not to bother buying any of it, as it was all junk!

I really don't want dh or dcs to buy me that tat. Its just a waste of money. I'd be happy with just having breakfast made, a take away dinner (or dh cooking!) so I didn't have to cook and a nice walk out somewhere with my family.
Or I just like driving down to my mums with the kids and having lunch with her but she lives 1.5hrs away so that's not always possible.

I hinted to dc1 that out of all things to buy in the supermarket, I like books best. Luckily, I enjoy reading all sorts of books and would happily read most of the ones found in the supermarket from horror to chick-lit.
I also like toiletries so I'm quite easy to buy for.

DisgracetotheY - are you suggesting I am ungrateful? If so, that is not very nice.

HairyPorter makes a very good point. People get rightfully annoyed if toys are split by gender, and the only stuff available for girls is pink and sparkly - why should we put up with it for adults?

the best thing I ever got was an afternoon on the sofa with my book WAY back in the days when this was an impossibility

H didnt make it a big deal either - that was even better

the next week we get the poignant ones from thos Mners who lost their mums

really sad

I want a lie in (which I get most Sundays anyway) and cards made by my children at school/Guides/Beavers. I don't want pink tat, I don't want flowers, I don't want to go out for a roast dinner.

LordPalmerston Thank you for the reminder. I'll draft something now.

My first Mothers Day and not sure I'll get my Star Wars box set, time watch it and family size bags of Jelly tots and a big Milkybar.

Saying that - flowers would be nice.

Dear mum,

Congratulations, I turned out amazing!

Love Van Gogh

Accompanied by a spa day.

Balls to pastels, cupcakes and overpriced chocolate boxes!

Gawd, has it been a year already since the last lot of pathetic whingy posts about what I didnt get for mothers day, how I cant have a lie in and a hand made card is just not good enough

time flies eh

I either make a card (shite probably, but no pink, glitter and at least it's my shite, not Tesco/Asda/Sainsbo) or a plain card with own greeting. I avoid the Mothering Sunday displays like I dont walk down the pet aisle coz I dont have a cat/dog!

I receive all sorts of cards over the years, some pink, some purple, all fine thought that counts, lucky to get anything I guess!

Have you read the thread, bebows?

And thanks, whoever pointed out that this is the same issue as Boys/Girls toys and Pink Stinks. It doesn't stop being an issue once you reach 18.

it is exactly the same issue, you're right.

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it is exactly the same issue, you're right.

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it is exactly the same issue, you're right.

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Brilliant post OP. YANBU!!

My DH gives my girls cash and they choose something from asda for me. It will be pink glittery shittery because thats what my little girls like themselves and will choose for me. Will I be annoyed..... Of course not. Do I really care about supermarket product choice..... Of course not. If I was I would just tell them not to bother but that would upset them. I will be working anyway