To hate stupid wedding dress codes

[Lambzig]

Can I just have a quick moan about wedding dress themes imposed on guests?

DH and I have a wedding to go to in June where just had the invitation and the women are asked to wear white (the men black tie).

I look hideous and washed out in white and never buy it. I now have to try and find a flattering white dress. My DD4's dress will be white for ten seconds. I bet the bride is wearing a red dress and thinks she is being oh so original.

It makes me feel like I am photo shoot backdrop rather than a guest.

Before you say don't go if you don't like it, it is a good college friend of DH, I have known the groom for ten years, we don't live close, but see them about four times a year and it was looking forward to it.

That is lovely Nothing.

I would love a shift dress, if only my vast comedy bosom didn't make them look like a insulation jacket on a hot water tank.

Update. Had email from groom this morning saying their apologies - they hadn't realised people would find it so difficult. The revised dress code is black tie for men, long or short evening dress for women and that they hope that is ok with everyone, but obviously people can wear what they choose and will of course be very very welcome.

I feel a bit sorry for them and think they hadn't thought it through. Clearly they have had worse than my very gentle query from people. I hope the bride is ok, might ask if they want to meet up for lunch soon.

Well that's an enormous relief, but yes, does sound like they copped a bit of a backlash!

Good idea to see if they want to meet up for lunch, they might be feeling a touch beleaguered. :)

Yay!

That's a relief. . I am glad their guests told them that the dress code wasn't working for them, it's much better than if everyone had just felt aggrieved but didn't tell the happy couple. A little communication goes a long way

Glad to hear they have realised that this wasn't working for their guests.
They really mustn't have thought about it at all, or even sought any second opinions, before sending the invitations. Asking all female guests to wear white definitely wasn't a good idea.

Because I'm horrid I would buy a rainbow coloured dress and say I'm white light refracted (give me a silly request ill honour of my way to respond in a silly way!!) but otherwise just wear what you want and wear a huge white flower corsage or something x

MOTU - did you not read the update?

you have to go with this.You can choose a dress in white combination.It will look good.

Phew! And goes to show that sometimes people need telling if they are being ridiculous, rather than everyone huffing and puffing but not actually saying so (not aimed at you, OP, a general observation)

God weddings theses days....what a pain.

Hooray, they seem to have retreated with good grace.

"they hadn't realised people would find it so difficult."

Really?

I find that hard to believe!

My DIL insisted that the 'mums' wore a certain colour. With much effort I found a reasonably pleasant outfit. Checked before I paid that this was still the colour. On the day of the wedding her mother wore a completely different colour ( white ). X