To hate stupid wedding dress codes

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Can I just have a quick moan about wedding dress themes imposed on guests?

DH and I have a wedding to go to in June where just had the invitation and the women are asked to wear white (the men black tie).

I look hideous and washed out in white and never buy it. I now have to try and find a flattering white dress. My DD4's dress will be white for ten seconds. I bet the bride is wearing a red dress and thinks she is being oh so original.

It makes me feel like I am photo shoot backdrop rather than a guest.

Before you say don't go if you don't like it, it is a good college friend of DH, I have known the groom for ten years, we don't live close, but see them about four times a year and it was looking forward to it.

Bet they requested cash, too, as a 'gift'. Sorry, but I wouldn't go.

Not my idea of fun.....if you do go could you buy a white dress and dye it afterwards?

What about wearing a dinner jacket instead? If it fitted well with a open shirt or camisole underneath it would look really good.

That's an easy one to solve. I wouldn't go for the dress posted above.

If you think you look terrible in white, that's because you don't like it against you face. So buy a white outfit and team it with a coloured jacket/cardi so that you have a colour against your face. This can then be removed as a when needed so isn't permanent

Why don't you go in black tie?! Did you see Angelina Jolie at the Baftas? Google for pics but she looked smokin hot and I think it would be a brilliant alternative.

Get a patterned dress that has a white background. There are some nice floral dresses around at the moment.

I was invited to a friend's wedding that had a black and white theme dress code. I ignored it completely and wore purple!

I was just going to post what Whatisaweekend said. I look awful in white and I don't do dresses (unless I'm wearing leggings underneath). I'd go in a tuxedo, it would be way more comfortable than a white dress too!

I think it would be fine if it was something like "the bride is wearing red, no red please". To restrict guests to only one colour just isn't nice at all.

They are being unreasonable, not you.

Get a white maxi sundress instead, it's long, it's white, they can't really complain and at least you can wear it again over summer/dye it, whereas long white formal evening gowns don't exactly have a lot of other uses.
Here's a nice one, £25.
www.isme.com/south-crinkle-strappy-maxi-dress/1380382828.prd

Urgh, that's hideous and rude.

On a practical note, could you hire a dress?

White evening dresses? What the actual fuck?

What size are you, OP? One of us can lend you a wedding dress .

Look on eBay for something reasonably cheap (for you and for your DD, since her dress is unlikely to stay white).

Or just turn down the invitation (unless one of the happy couple has previously saved your life in a fire or something, this is probably the option I'd go for).

If you don't want to buy something, Girl Meets Dress have fab clothes to hire www.girlmeetsdress.com then at least you won't have a dress you'll never wear again

Ooft, I too look like a ghost in white. I would have no problem with scenarios like wyldchyld or uselessidiot (bet you are not) mention, I think it is particularly the fact it is white.

Who owns a white dress? I would really grudge having to buy a dress I would probably never wear again, and lets face it, would spill red wine down it in the first ten minutes. But I am not sure I would be brave enough to rebel and wear a colour? I would contact others who are going and see what they are doing. If white, get looking on ebay and charity shops for something.

I think it is a bit cheeky telling guests what to wear. Say you forgot or that your dress didn't arrive in time or that you spilt a cup of coffee on it.

It's white, and you can wear it in the evening...

I'd be strongly tempted to wear another colour - maybe opting for a pale one so it wouldn't stand out too blatantly. Also I'd have a go at inciting a few more rebels.

SIL insisted on autumn colours, which wasn't too bad as it allowed for a wide range - ISTR deciding that I'd interpret that as including a plum colour. But her fianc tried to insist that the best man and ushers all hire their morning suits and waistcoasts from one particular organisation based in Manchester - we lived near the South coast at the time. DH, I'm glad to say, told him there was no way he was going flogging up there and he'd have to put up with whatever the local Moss Bros could produce.

Try ebay? Here's a nice one with a good 'buy it now' price www.ebay.co.uk/itm/like/160953980673?hlpht=true&ops=true&viphx=1&lpid=95&device=c&adtype=pla&crdt=0&ff3=1&ff11=ICEP3.0.0&ff12=67&ff13=80&ff14=95 (sorry don't know how to do clever links)

But it is irritating!

Wear black tie yourself and if anyone says anything hit them with your copy of The Female Eunuch.

Google YSL Tux. Pair with smart cigarette pants and sharp shirt or a strappy top, plus killer heels for total fabulousness.

Yanbu

Yes this is v annoying

(You're not going to Kim & kanye's wedding are you? )

Oh and DEFINITELY wear a tux! I have a fab velvet one I wear all the time to black tie stuff & I always get lots of compliments on it.

YANBU

However, be happy that you've not been invited to a medieval themed wedding - fortunately we were on holiday so didn't need to think of any excuses

Borrow something from a friend?

I think you need to wear white or ivory though, if it's stated in the dress code. It would be too obnoxious not to.