To hate stupid wedding dress codes

[Lambzig]

Can I just have a quick moan about wedding dress themes imposed on guests?

DH and I have a wedding to go to in June where just had the invitation and the women are asked to wear white (the men black tie).

I look hideous and washed out in white and never buy it. I now have to try and find a flattering white dress. My DD4's dress will be white for ten seconds. I bet the bride is wearing a red dress and thinks she is being oh so original.

It makes me feel like I am photo shoot backdrop rather than a guest.

Before you say don't go if you don't like it, it is a good college friend of DH, I have known the groom for ten years, we don't live close, but see them about four times a year and it was looking forward to it.

I hate this kinda thing, utter bollocks. How about this.

Sadly not at all young, late forties, so would look an absolute fright in anything prom dressy, nightie like, revealing.

Lumpyspaceprincess, what a lovely lovely dress.

Yes the age thing, I wonder how groom's extremely elegant late 70s mother is doing with this. She must be mortified.

What about a chinese style dress? As long as it's not too tight or short, it could look quite dressy.

Have a look for white dresses here, some really nice ones. The website won't let me narrow the search by colour: www.topwedding.co.uk/cheongsam-uk

If you don't like them why not learn karate, go to the wedding dressed in a karate outfit and whup their asses?!

£35 quid on Ebay

you could get something lovely for your hair and some colourful shoes.

Oh and YANBU.

Ipswitchwitch - I wonder if we were at the same wedding?! 3 hours of photographs which included piggy back, lots of jumping, the bride in a variety of poses with her slaves bridesmaids and friends holding her dress (but they weren't allowed in the shot!). The photos were photoshopped beyond belief with thundery skies added to some and different colours to others.

Ah yes. A karate outfit.
I liked the towelling dress idea up thread too.

It makes you wonder why Venture don't do weddings in their studios. Maybe they do?

I actually really like this dress and I don't do long dresses, I also look awful in most white and nude dresses. You really need to see them on against your skin tone.

www.missselfridge.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?beginIndex=0&viewAllFlag=&catalogId=33055&storeId=12554&productId=14306965&langId=-1&categoryId=&parent_category_rn=&searchTerm=MS18E22NNDE&resultCount=1&geoip=home

Get something flattering in white and dye it after, really easy to do!

I'm planning on dyeing my wedding dress for future use!

She hasn't revoked the demands yet then??

If it was me (strawberry shape, early forties) I'd be tempted to buy a white trouser suit as I know I'd get good use of the separates through the summer especially in a good linen or cotton.

Then I'd accessorize with gold and/or black - bodice or boobtube style top under jacket, gold sandals, long gold necklaces etc. to detract from the expanse of white.

I bet those female guests with a tendency for heavy periods are really looking forward to it! (this would've kept me awake before I had the Mirena fitted )

Thought I'd give a sensible answer but would still look for a vintage froufrou wedding dress all the same

bad mannered self entitled and obviously massively boring knobs.

Although its unreasonable to make such a demand of guests I can imagine the temptation to get carried away with stuff like ths.
Conversation with self/ DP/ mob/ bm:
"ooh, look at that (browsing through umpteenth magazine) imagine how great that would look."
"don't be ridiculous you can't expect your guests to buy a dress that's so expensive/ restricted in style/ wasteful/ potentially unflattering"
"oh, of course. Silly me. Ha ha"

What on earth happened to the second voice in their conversation?

What would happen if guests just ignored the bad mannered orders? I can guess actually, the bride would spend the day weeping in the toilets over how her friends have RUINED her special day!

I would send her an email to say, sorry but I've already bought an outfit and its not white. If everyone did this they would have to rethink their rudeness.

I am constantly flabbergasted by the entitled, obnoxious behaviour of brides these days!

But it sounds like the groom, not the bride!

Poor you. Poor bride.
Sounds like things are getting out of control for her.
Has she got a shoulder to cry on? Maybe she would like yours?

Bit pricey, but I think with the pattern and fit you could wear and wear this, OP

Marianne dress

It's not a floor-length evening dress but certainly dressed up enough for a wedding, especially with some sparkly earrings and shoes.

Not if it's white Ferrar, the tears would make it see through.....

Also the pattern cheekily contravenes the rule- a few flowers would hardly ruin the photo, would it?

! Wally!

Actually if bride and groom were paying for my accommodation as they are here I'd be more amenable to having a dresscode dictated. But then I'm very indecisive and anything that narrows down the options is a good thing for me.

Years ago, in a moment of madness, I thought about 1920s style wedding and dress code.
Told by my Dad it was naff. Also, budget low. Ended up with marquee in relatives back garden and cheapo but fun wedding and no dress code..
Might have been fun though!!

I would wear something like this if I lost a few pounds
www.next.co.uk/x5388s2#655904x53