To be put off by this?

[DomesticDisgrace]

Please tell me I'm being unreasonable! I met this really really lovely guy today and I was hoping he'd ask me out because we hit it off instantly! When I came home he did and I was absolutely delighted, we decided on the cinema and he texted saying "I'll book the tickets, can you look after the grub?"
I can't help but be really put off by him now, I'm disgusted with myself
I haven't been on a date in about six years as I was with my ex and he wasn't working for the majority of our relationship so I'm super scared of ending up with a stinge (this guy is working by the way)

Am I being horrible? It's really put me off him!

Tell him there's a great chip shop on the way to your house and he'll offer to carry you home.

He should definitely see you home, OP. I think he sounds sweet, and maybe just a bit young so far. Don't write him off.

Yes he should see you home!

Tempt him say you have a lovely stew boiling or something

squoosh I'm chuckling away here at your replies!

Never even thought to get the bus because I'd usually walk it's only 3 stops (but through a rough area in Dublin) but I'll get the bus to save any extra awkwardness!

Arf. Love this thread. Caitlin you sound like my perfect cinema partner. I am nonplussed by the idea that I can't enjoy a film without a bucket of popcorn.

I would take some of these OP.

AskBasil

What's a few skangers on the bus in the name of absolute equality?

Dublin you say? If it turns out you fancy taking him home, forget the lingerie, leave a trail of spice burgers leading to your bed chamber.

Put you on the phone to his dad, and you haven't even been out properly once?? OK, that's bloody weird. How old did you say he was??

And no perfume, just rub some Tayto behind your ears and between your boobs.

I told her to bring Tayto into the cinema but people like squoosh shot me down. Tayto is readily available here in Scotland. Mmmm, Tayto.

I'm thinking he just talks about food so much because he's a little shy and just scrambling for something to say whereas I'm usually busy with DD and off out somewhere so I'd have plenty to say in that sense.
Wanting to put me onto his dad and girlfriend though, I found peculiar but it was done in a jokey way but he definitely meant it because when I said EH NO THANKS he was laughing saying ok not if it makes you uncomfortable

He's quite a bit more educated than me in terms of college etc but socially not so much. A very strange part of me finds it a little endearing though!

That's true expat, but as I won't be there I'm happy to allow this Prince of Grub munch away to his heart's content!

Ok, disclaimer, I know almost nothing about dating. Having said that, he does seem to be a bit... smothering? intense? Does he know about the bad timing for you?

(Second disclaimer: I'm just out of a crap relationship with a smooth talker. Very charming, so I overlooked slight weirdnesses. Hope your guy doesn't turn out to be one of those.)

I must be really weird... I think the text is perfectly okay. First meetup went well, you both wanted to meet up again, he suggested splitting costs, which to my mind establishes a nice, mutual footing, no pressure one way or the other (no, the word "grub" does not bother me in the slightest). Roughly carving things up (this time I get the tickets, you get the snacks, maybe next time...) to me indicates a fairly equitable arrangement. Penny pinching is when someone totes up exactly what's been spent and splits it equally and expects to settle up (yes, I had an ex like that... reader, I did not marry him). I'm more freaked out by the idea of a guy who insists on paying - makes me wonder what he thinks he's "buying" (and for the record, equally freaked by a guy who's freeloading).

You do know you cannot leave us hanging, Domestic! We must know what happens on this date :o.

Oh of course I'll update! We're meeting at half six tomorrow so stand by!

Never tell him about this thread if you end up marrying him!

Um....

Er.....

No, never mind.

(Enjoy your date OP. He sounds nice).

Actually, the suggestion about getting the food is not at all wierd to me. To me it says that he liked you, he already felt comfortable with you, and he is treating you in a matey fashion, which tbh is no bad thing.

He was just telling me that the book he got me is the book thief and he wrote inside it "To domestic from dateman" but he said "I was going to write xox but I thought that might be too serious"
He also said it's his nieces second birthday in June and if we're still "together" me and my daughter should come.

He's such a nice guy though!!

Dateman sounds extremely like my DP except for the tightwaddery (if that's what it ends up being...). He's a foodie, talks about food in lists with lots of sluuurp, nom nom nom noises. I like a man with a good appetite. He bought me a book on our first date and wrote in it. Dateman doesnt sound the least bit weird, from where Im standing. Full of Irish charm.

Yeah, get him to walk you home if its on his way.

Its sounding hopeful there, kidda, we need the low-down tomorrow!

Oh Daisy I'm thrilled to hear that!! I really hope the tightwaddery was just a blunder, crossed wires, mixed messages, anything other than him being mean!

It's not really on his way to walk me home at all but I'll get the bus I'll be home in ten minutes.
He has also asked me if I'd like to play badminton with him one Sunday which I'd love! All going well!

i reckon he threw it in there to see your reaction. if you went all prima donna-ish and were clearly expecting him to pay for everything for the rest of eternity he had a preview.

Hope it's going well!!