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Just found out I'm pregnant

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Suchabadtime · 05/03/2014 00:55

I've come here for the traffic

Basically my last period was the 2/2 - 6/2 I had sex with a guy on the 8/2 however we used a condom. We slept together on the 12th 2/3 times without a comdom which was a MASSIVE mistake. I got back together with my ex on the 16th and we had sex numberous times thought the week and every time after usually 1-3 a day a couple of days a week I was on micronor and took it the same time everyday. The only days I missed out on were 20th & 22nd I was also put on antibiotics around the same time

I've just found out I'm pregnant My phone says I'm 5 days late but that is wrong sometimes by up to 2/3 days to early.

My average length is 26 days and my letaul phase As I worked out was 12 days (according to my phone so could be wrong)

Am I right in thinking it will be my ex/current partners.

I know I was stupid I never saw myself in this situation!

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allisgood1 · 06/03/2014 21:52

Err...surely you're going to make him do a DNA test anyway??

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SuchABadTime · 06/03/2014 21:53

Errrr yes.

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olidusUrsus · 06/03/2014 22:15

If you're going to (rightly) insist on a paternity test post-birth anyway, what's the point with faffing around with "proof" from the doctors re: his infertility?

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SuchABadTime · 06/03/2014 22:30

It's something he wants to do.

He says it 100% confirms that he can't have kids. Whether they did test to confirm it I don't know but I'll guess ill find out

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Finola1step · 06/03/2014 22:36

If all this from man 1's GP looks accurate then it tells you one thing. If you do continue with the pregnancy and go for DNA, test man 2 first.

AgaPanthers · 06/03/2014 22:39

Meh, the proof smells of BS from here

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SuchABadTime · 06/03/2014 22:41

Finola that's what I plan to do.

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Sharaluck · 06/03/2014 23:11

I'm glad you have made the ex/current guy an ex. Keep it that way, he sounds like an immature abuser. Please don't get back with him again!

Congratulations and good luck with the pregnancy :) I hope things calm down for you soon. You have 8 month to plan for the baby, I am sure you will get there Flowers Flowers

ThatVikRinA22 · 06/03/2014 23:29

i would put both men out of your head for now and get some counselling sorted out so you can decide on the most pressing issue - the baby and what you want to do about the pregnancy.

then worry about paternity and going it alone.

InsanityandBeyond · 07/03/2014 00:02

I hope you are considering your current child in all this? Is the father of that child around to help out when you have the next DC? Hopefully this DC has not been witness to your ex/current/ex-partner verbally abusing you while drunk? Where has this child been while you have been having sex with these two different men?

Really trying not to judge

aufaniae · 07/03/2014 02:10

Insanity yes that was an epic fail.

"Where has this child been while you have been having sex with these two different men?"

You make it sound like she was having one night stands with random men, rather than being in two relationships, one after the other. Why would you fo that?

What's your problem exactly?
Do you think parents should be celebate?

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SuchABadTime · 07/03/2014 07:09

Of course I've considered him!

No he's not around and never has been his choice.

My DC has never seen anyone drink alcohol let alone be drunk.

My DC was spending the night with his aunty when I slept with guy 1. He was in bed in his own room before my ex even came over the next time.

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aufaniae · 07/03/2014 07:14

Suchabadtime please don't feel you need to justify yourself to such judgemental and rude people, for daring to have boyfriend while you are a mother. Of course it wouldn't be

Wuxiapian · 07/03/2014 07:15

It's impossible to say - could be either's baby.

Good luck!

aufaniae · 07/03/2014 07:18

Oops posted too soon!

It wouldn't be ok to bring loads of random men into the house, but you have nowhere suggested that's what was going on and insanity is being rude beyond belief to suggest that it was IMO, not exactly kind or supportive. She obviously has a chip on her shoulder about something and should be ignored IMO.

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SuchABadTime · 07/03/2014 07:28

Auf thank you

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ilovechips · 07/03/2014 07:29

He cannot "book you in". A termination is not like getting a filling. At most it will be an initial consultation for a chat only, and they will see this for what it is a mile off, no one will force you into anything. As for the other guy and his "can't have kids" routine, he sounds just as bad. My advice is to forget both of these guys and plan for your future without either, whether that's with a new baby or not. Wishing you all the best OP xx

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 07/03/2014 07:35

The baby not being his is not proof he can't have kids at all. He's just fobbing you off with excuses, but I think you know that.

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SuchABadTime · 07/03/2014 07:52

He booked me in for a talk, scan and chat. The next one is taking the pills.

The other guy has openly talked about it what he says he went through said he went through the physical, blood test and sperm analysis and said he'd get me the documents ASAP. He knows I don't believe him.

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 07/03/2014 07:53

The upside of the recent developments is that you know where you stand. If you have this baby, you will be a single parent. I wouldn't bank on any support (practical, emotional or financial) from either man. It will be difficult for you, but that doesn't make it impossible. At least you have recent experience of what to expect from a baby.

If you keep the baby, you'll need a DNA test. By all means start with 2, as he seems most likely candidate. A child is entitled to know who their parents are.

Good luck!

TriggersBroom · 07/03/2014 08:09

I thought you weren't able to get in contact with the first bloke.

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SuchABadTime · 07/03/2014 09:27

Triggers.

I went to my phone company and got a copy my phone bill I called him once on the 14th and it was the only one my phone didn't recognise

However I've Just been for an internal ultra scan and they've said it's too early to see anything I'm likely no more than 4 weeks but I have to come back in a couple of weeks

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olidusUrsus · 07/03/2014 09:51

You're

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SuchABadTime · 07/03/2014 09:59

She said it's unlikely I'm more that 4 weeks pregnant as she would of more than likely seen something 5 weeks +

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OpalQuartz · 07/03/2014 10:01

It's good that your partner was wrong about you having no family as you have the aunt who looks after your son. Hopefully she can support you a bit when you have the baby. I was horrified when you said your partner had booked you in for an abortion as I thought that surely in this day and age a clinic would only let the mother book an abortion. Glad to hear it was only for a chat and scan and it sounds like you will go ahead with having the baby anyway so can just cancel the appointment.