Just found out I'm pregnant

[Suchabadtime]

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Basically my last period was the 2/2 - 6/2 I had sex with a guy on the 8/2 however we used a condom. We slept together on the 12th 2/3 times without a comdom which was a MASSIVE mistake. I got back together with my ex on the 16th and we had sex numberous times thought the week and every time after usually 1-3 a day a couple of days a week I was on micronor and took it the same time everyday. The only days I missed out on were 20th & 22nd I was also put on antibiotics around the same time

I've just found out I'm pregnant My phone says I'm 5 days late but that is wrong sometimes by up to 2/3 days to early.

My average length is 26 days and my letaul phase As I worked out was 12 days (according to my phone so could be wrong)

Am I right in thinking it will be my ex/current partners.

I know I was stupid I never saw myself in this situation!

Well I've just spoken to the other guy. It turns out he can't have kids so I know who's it is now if he's telling the truth

I have decided I'm going to keep it, were over whether he knows it or not

" It turns out he can't have kids"

lol, that's convenient. If you believe that, OP.

What a fucking ass hole, keep the baby and terminate the relationship.

Do NOT let this man make you get an abortion. Also, DO NOT let the other guy convince you he's infertile. Do what you WANT to, and forget what anyone else says.

That's what I said

Oh Such please don't believe the "I can't have kids line". He is saying that so that you don't chase him up in 8 months time through the CSA.

Didn't he use a condom the first time? I wonder why...

That's what I thought

Face it. Neither of these men have got your or the baby's best interests at heart. They will lie and manipulate their way out of this.

You are going to have to do this alone. There is still time for you to make a decision that is right for you. Do not go to the appt that was made for you.

Head up, shoulders back and walk away from both of the cretins. You can do it.

such it sounds like your world is moving at a million miles an hour at the moment.

You're 21 with a 2 year old who presumably isn't your ex/ current boyfriend's.

You were engaged then you weren't

You were having sex with at least one other man after you split with your ex but then got back with him in the space of a few days.

You're pregnant again.

It sounds like you just need to stop for a while and work out what you truly want, not what you've got or who you are currently with, but what you really aspire to.

Hopefully then you can make the right decisions.

Bear it is.

I was only having sex with one other man, no more.

I never knew as a child what I aspires to be but always knew I wanted children. I never have believed in abortion and I'm only considering it now because of my ex.

He's gone that thought has gone. Chin up head held high this is what has been dealt and this is now what I'm dealing with

He's been okay, flitted between wanting to be friends with benefits and in a relationship when he gets drunk he calls me stupid, and an idiot, swears at me etc

If you think that is ok then you perception of being treated well is very skewed.

Have the baby and go after your DP via CSA, that way if he denies paternity (good chance, and not unreasonable under the circs) they can order a DNA test that will be done under clinical conditions. Based on the result you can then move forward, chasing whichever man is the father of maintenance. The fact is that if you have sex, especially unprotected, you run the risk that you or the other person will end up pregnant. Both of these "men" knew this but chose to ignore it and think that they can "opt out" if it turns out that they have fathered a child.

Wrong.

Whatever the rights or wrongs of your situation, the father of your baby knew that pregnancy was a risk of having sex and needs to be forced to step up to his responsibilities if he wont embrace them.

sorry such I didn't mean to make it sound like you were sleeping around! it just seems you are like a pinball in a machine! pinging from one situation to another.

Please tell the men in your life to fuck off and take some time to work out what you really want.

Please excuse the exclamation marks- they should be commas, bloody ipad.

Get rid of your "D"P now he's shown his true colours - you can deal with parentage etc later.

He is now an ex!

I'm still communicating with the other guy he's adamant he can't have kids said he got beaten up broken bones hospital etc and doctor told him he couldn't. Asked him to prove it as it'll be on record and he said he'll try and get a copy of it.

As you know, the absolute only way to know is to get a paternity test. He can say and prove what he wants but couples are told everyday they can't conceive and some do go on to conceive naturally. You can't just take his word for it.

If you are talking about testicular damage then yes, that can mean no children but doesnt always.

It may be that the doctor said "you may not be able to have children in the future but we cant say for certain at the moment" and he heard "You can have condomless sex forever as you are now infertile"

Unless there was serious damage, I find it hard to believe a doctor would say that without further investigation down the line.

The only ways a man can KNOW he is infertile is he had a vasectomy and had the all-clear, he has no testes or he has had a sperm analysis for failure to conceive and has no sperm in his semen.

Everything else is bollocks.

There's no point in speculating who the father is. Biologically it could be either man and neither of them want the child.

The OP needs to decide what she wants. Having the child or having an abortion.

In the long term the father can be identified and made to support the child but right now the OP needs to decide what she wants.

Don't have an abortion ou don't want for the sake of a relationship with a fuckwit. It's not worth it, and the relationship is doomed, on account of him being a fuckwit.

It may be that the doctor said "you may not be able to have children in the future but we cant say for certain at the moment" and he heard "You can have condomless sex forever as you are now infertile"

This and what MrsDeVere said. Doctors are cautious and warn you about all the possibilities they see, because that's their job. I have a friend who had an STI and was told "it has left some scarring, and this may cause difficulties in conceiving later on". Because she did get pregnant a few months later, she started claiming the doctor was either wrong about the scarring being there at all, or deliberately lying in order to scare her.

Could you get cvs sampling done early to determine paternity?

I once saw a letter to a problem page from a woman who was convinced her son's ex-girlfriend was lying about him being the father. She wanted advice on what to do, how to keep her son from supporting this child, and so on. Her reason for all this? She was convinced her son was infertile, because he'd had mumps as a teenager. She'd never bothered to take him to the doctor, and the man hadn't had his sperm count checked. She'd just taken it as Fact that mumps post-puberty always causes male infertility.

Back in the real world, infertility is a risk of mumps, not a certainty.

Don't think I'd believe that old story 'I can't have kids'. I don't think it's possible to say for certain who is the father. The only way is a paternity test.

He said he's going to get the documentation from the GP and forward it to me.

He's saying he knows it's not his and he doesn't have to prove anything.

I've asked him to send it otherwise he'll have to do a DNA test once the baby is born.