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Just found out I'm pregnant

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Suchabadtime · 05/03/2014 00:55

I've come here for the traffic

Basically my last period was the 2/2 - 6/2 I had sex with a guy on the 8/2 however we used a condom. We slept together on the 12th 2/3 times without a comdom which was a MASSIVE mistake. I got back together with my ex on the 16th and we had sex numberous times thought the week and every time after usually 1-3 a day a couple of days a week I was on micronor and took it the same time everyday. The only days I missed out on were 20th & 22nd I was also put on antibiotics around the same time

I've just found out I'm pregnant My phone says I'm 5 days late but that is wrong sometimes by up to 2/3 days to early.

My average length is 26 days and my letaul phase As I worked out was 12 days (according to my phone so could be wrong)

Am I right in thinking it will be my ex/current partners.

I know I was stupid I never saw myself in this situation!

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bedraggledmumoftwo · 05/03/2014 09:58

Having tested like mad when ttc, iirc getting a bfp at 10 dpo is just about possible, eg if you ovulated on the 20th having missed pill on 20th and tested faint positive on the 2nd. But purely looking at the timing i would not say it was necessarily down to the missed pill or antibiotics, as pill isn't 100%. That's not to say its not your current partner, just that i would assume you ovulated a bit earlier to get a faint positive on Sunday. What kind of test did you use?

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Suchabadtime · 05/03/2014 10:06

Used a first response test the like was barley there at around 6pm I hadn't been to the toilets loads either

The next day I did one that just says it

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formerbabe · 05/03/2014 10:08

Sorry it could be either of them...sperm can live for 7 days...

meditrina · 05/03/2014 10:11

I don't think a dating scan will help here.

You had unprotected intercourse with two men, with the second being within typical sperm life of the first.

You will need a DNA test.

bedraggledmumoftwo · 05/03/2014 10:20

Again, purely in my experience, although you can find stats of bfps on the net, i would assume a faint pos not with first morning pee would probably have been less faint first thing, so i would still assume the missed pills are a red herring. Does your partner know the other sex was unprotected? Although it is obviously a nightmare, you cant rule out the other guy unless and until you can do a dna test, so i would be prepared for the worst case scenario

fingers crossed for you though

aufaniae · 05/03/2014 10:28

meditrina did that meant sound so judgemental? And FWIW the OP was taking contraception, the pill, with both men.

grobagsforever · 05/03/2014 10:38

How can you have a 26 day cycle on the pill? Pill cycles are 28 days, always!

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Suchabadtime · 05/03/2014 10:45

That's just my average cycle length according to my phone

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meditrina · 05/03/2014 10:46

Sorry; not meant to be read like that, and obviously no-one knows in advance that you are going to have a contraceptive failure. Perhaps I should have added an "otherwise"?

But the outcome's the same - the first set of sperm would still be alive when the second set arrived, and when there is an overlap there is no way to sort it out other than by DNA test.

eurochick · 05/03/2014 10:50

It could be either. Only a DNA test can be conclusive.

A dating scan is not that accurate. Mine was 3 days out. I know exactly when conception occurredd as it happened in a lab (IVF). But the dating scan, conception didn't happen until the day the 3 day embryo was back inside me!

PrimalLass · 05/03/2014 11:00

I ovulate late. IMO it will be your ex's baby as day 10 is a bit early.

winterhat · 05/03/2014 11:14

Sorry it could be either of them...sperm can live for 7 days...

Yes, it could be either.

aufaniae · 05/03/2014 11:56

Sorry meditrina I misunderstood Blush

HelloBoys · 05/03/2014 12:05

I'm sort of Shock that you didn't realise you could get pregnant whilst on BCP and on antibiotics? I always knew that when I was on BCP.

You do need DNA test though and good luck. it sounds a shitty situation to be in.

whippetwoman · 05/03/2014 12:15

It's much more likely to be your DP than the other guy but not 100% certain unfortunately. Try not to feel too bad and worry too much (easier said than done), I know someone this happened to, it happens a lot more than people think. Hugs to you. I wish I could offer you some more helpful advice or make you feel better.

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Suchabadtime · 05/03/2014 12:51

I just feel so fricken stupid :(

I've looked and tried my best to work out when we had sex etc and this is all I can remember so far.

My cycle length was 28 days from Jan - Feb
my period was the 2/2 - 6/2
I had sex with the other guy on the 8/2 however we used a condom. On the 12/2 we didn't however I had taken my pill every day and hadn't missed any. I got back with my ex on the 16/2 we had sex 1/2 that day we then had sex on the 17/2, 20/2, 21/2, 23/2, 28/2 and maybe some days in between the 23-28th all these days were at least once or twice.

I missed my pill on the 20th and the 22nd and the 24th(?) I started my antibiotics on the 25th.

I had sex a lot more with my DP over various days and the first guy seems a little bit to early to have conceive with him, with the fact I took my pills and didn't miss any.

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SolomanDaisy · 05/03/2014 13:01

It is more likely to be your ex's, but not guaranteed. As everyone has said, you will need a DNA test to tell. If a dating scan suggests you conceived a week or more later than you had unprotected sex with the other man, then the chances are it is your ex's, but it is still not completely certain.

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 05/03/2014 13:07

It sounds from your dates that it's more likely to be your ex's but you'll have to take a DNA test to be sure, there's no other way.

Dating scans aren't an accurate way of telling. I've had my dates changed on every scan I've had so far

Do they both know?

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Suchabadtime · 05/03/2014 13:11

No.

I stopped talking to the other guy when I got back together with my ex so I have no contact details for him and he's in the navy.

My ex is just taking it as his.

I think because of the pill, sex etc it's bound to be his but I just feel like a dick

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DinoSnores · 05/03/2014 13:15

Antibiotics (except for a couple of ones for TB or meningitis) don't cause the pill to fail unless you have diarrhoea or vomiting. The pill has failed because you missed it twice.

www.nhs.uk/Conditions/contraception-guide/Pages/antibiotics-contraception.aspx

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Suchabadtime · 05/03/2014 13:24

clarithromycin was the one I was taking with Micronor

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DinoSnores · 05/03/2014 13:40

So it wasn't the antibiotics.

TillyTellTale · 05/03/2014 14:18

www.drugs.com/article/birthcontrolpill-missed.html

Have I got this right?

You have been on the pill for months.
On the 8th of February, you slept with someone, and used a condom, thus doubling up on contraception.
On the 12th of February, you slept with this other guy again without a condom, and relied on the pill.
On the 20th, 22nd, and 24th, you missed a pill. Not to be nasty, but did you start following the seven-day condom rule after you missed that pill, or not?

So, by the time you missed the pill it was 7/8 days since the other guy. Did you take the missed pill for the 20th, along with that day's pill on the 21st? If you did, ovulation "should" have been suppressed, which might mean you didn't ovulate until missing the pill on the 22nd. And then the semen from the 12 would have been dead.

TillyTellTale · 05/03/2014 14:19

*From the 12th

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Suchabadtime · 05/03/2014 14:25

I didn't use a condom with my partner no.

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