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To ask for your numbers...

102 replies

MeepMeepVrooom · 02/03/2014 20:04

Thread inspired by another. I was quite shocked by some of the pretty judgemental posts regarding someone's sexual partner number...

What's your number?
Would you admit it if asked?
Are you ashamed of your sexually history?

I can't say I kept a tally but I would say between 35-40 and I would admit it depending on company and alcohol consumption.

For example I wouldn't admit it to my folks but probably would during a daft game of truth or dare down the pub with mate.

100% unashamed.

Share if you dare ladies Wink

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Judyandherdreamofhorses · 02/03/2014 20:05

4, including DH.

2 were not with my consent.

pussycatdoll · 02/03/2014 20:06

7 , not ashamed at all but wouldn't want my dad to know iyswim

gertiegusset · 02/03/2014 20:06

Well 'admit' implies shame or guilt, I have neither.
However, I have no wish to share.

Casmama · 02/03/2014 20:07

None of your business
No I wouldn't- and admit implies a level of shame.
Not ashamed but don't feel it is anyone's business but mine.

Casmama · 02/03/2014 20:08

X-posts gertie

loveulotslikejellytots · 02/03/2014 20:08

1 - my DH.

Yes I'd admit it. And no not ashamed.

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MeepMeepVrooom · 02/03/2014 20:09

That's fine obviously sharing isn't mandatory Grin

And no admit is just confessing it to be true. As in would you admit the true number or would you make up a little white lie or just refuse. No shame implied in the word admit.

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StillaChocoholic · 02/03/2014 20:09

4 including husband. I would admit it but not to my mum because she thinks husband is my first and only. Nothing to do with the little white lie I told her.

ThreeBeeOneGee · 02/03/2014 20:09

It's in single figures.

CSIJanner · 02/03/2014 20:09

Dear God! It's like an online Ann Summers party with games - only without the obligatory dick straws and sex cheques as prizes.

BillyBanter · 02/03/2014 20:10

Do you have a link to the thread you're talking about? Sounds interesting.

Casmama · 02/03/2014 20:11

Ironic that you use "confessing"to explain admit whilst saying no shame implied Grin

DramaAlpaca · 02/03/2014 20:11

That's the sort of information I would never share, either in RL or on here. To me it's a completely private thing. DH knows, but that's it.

angryangryyoungwoman · 02/03/2014 20:13

I haven't kept count, I never believed it was important...

BillyBanter · 02/03/2014 20:13

Funnily enough this subject came up at a night out I was at the other night with some old friends. not sure I was wise to 'fess up' to such a high number.

anin85 · 02/03/2014 20:14

about 20 odd. my close friends know & their numbers are all similar..... i would never tell my DP! i just dont feel it needs to be discussed in my r/ship, friends discuss it with their DP its just it has never been raised with us. it was before we met, its my past but it feels like a different life and im a different person. i also dont know or care what his number is either! i dont want to know about his previous sexual partners. if he asked me outright though.... i think id lie!

annaban · 02/03/2014 20:14

Its on active at the mo link

Birdsgottafly · 02/03/2014 20:15

I contributed a lot to the other thread, sharing my story.

I thought that I was set for life, then I lost my DH to Cancer.

I read the thread in chat, were once again people are giving their numbers and saying that there won't be an increase because they are married to the live of their life.

I had lots of partners after my DH's death and now my six year relationship has ended plan on having more.

I would say probably 50+, but in reality it could be 100+, none I regret, or am ashamed of.

I don't mix with small minded people, who think that one aspect of a persons life sums them up, though.

DarlingGrace · 02/03/2014 20:15

arrrrgh ...... yet again .... why is it an issue? why would you want to discuss your sex life with anyone out side of the relationship you are in? It is so undignified. Is more better? Or worse ? is it a shock thing? because if it truely didnt matter - you wouldnt ask

MammaTJ · 02/03/2014 20:16

Quite a few, but I am 46!

I actually started my sex life in the midst of the first wave of AIDS ads so all except those who have made me pregnant have been safe sex, which matters more than the number IMO!

No shame here!

WitchWay · 02/03/2014 20:17

About 10 "all the way"
About another 10 not "all the way" but included oral sex
A handful of others I've had a snog & a grope with.

Most of these over 20 years ago.

I've lost count exactly Blush

drnoitall · 02/03/2014 20:19

0 (none)
All 5 dc were immaculate conceptions !

Really???? People are interested in this shit.
I only opened the thread out of curiousity, the title gives nothing away.

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MeepMeepVrooom · 02/03/2014 20:19

Darling

It is meant to be a bit of a laugh. I personally don't think it's a big deal whether it's 1 or 1000. Neither is better or worse, everyone is different.

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MammaTJ · 02/03/2014 20:19

Birds, I think if we bumped into each other in RL we would be friends! I like the sound of you!

LoonvanBoon · 02/03/2014 20:19

Billy Grin

I'm not going to share numbers either, though it's the kind of thing I used to be happy to do. Not sure what's changed - perhaps I've just become more private as I get older. Certainly not ashamed though.