To think that parents should occasionally let their pubic hair grow as nature intended to educate their children as to what adult bodies look like?

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I have been having this discussion with dp, our dc are still very young so puberty is a long way off but I was wondering how children know that pubic hair is normal if they only every see their parents with minimal/absent pubic hair?

Dp has light hair and shaves his pubic hair most of the time so he doesn't really have any visable pubic hair, obviously that is his preference and his right to choose but do parents owe it to their children to show them what an unmodified adult body looks like so it isn't such a shock to them when they thelself start growing pubic hair?

A friend of mine told me that her 10 year old recently told her her pubic hair "needed a trip" the 10 year old will very likely have her own pubic hair soon and the idea of her thinking the correct thing to do is trim or get rid of the hair compleatly really makes me feel something has gone wrong in our society (and I remember the state of my legs when I first experimented with shaving!).

Talking about body hair anyway so can anyone ease my concern that dd14 has about her really hairy arms ?
I'm not a hairy person so it seems a bit odd to her ... Any other hairy armed beasties out there ? Is this normal ?
She had hairy ears at birth , really hairy !

I shave or veet.my arms.

I don't see why pubic topiary has to be sexual. I've recently considered it for the first time. Not for any sexual reason but because im pg and decidedly claggy!

Waltons Dd had hairy ears too. She's going to have dark hairy arms too as does my dn. I think shaving or whatever is best will be happening. My xsil wouldn't let dn shave her legs which has caused the poor teenager angst. It's all new to me as I'm hairy but very blonde so it doesn't show.

Re.hairy arms, all I can suggest is "it's a genetic thing" which is true.

Once after shaving off all of my pubes my DD asked me "mum where has your beard gone"

There are many things we need to show our children or to talk to them about. This is not one of them. YABU.

I saw my mother's pubic hair once when I was little. Not going to lie, it scarred me for life haha! As soon as I was old enough, I was shaving mine off!

I have never seen my parents pubic hair

Our kids see us naked all the time and have done since birth, we both trim as it feels nicer in general, especially in warmer weather.

Never really thought about letting it grow to show them - it hasn't affected them one way or the other, eldest trims now & youngest probably won't be far behind (23 & 19 before anyone gets worried).

None of us are self-conscious and the kids aren't afraid to discuss things like that with us, which I'd class as a success personally....

None of the males are Gay, Cyclists or have Eczema so not sure how relevant that generalisation was , and we're reliably informed via some "willy watching" down the gym that it's not a particularly rare phenomenon in males

Why does everyone always get wine on a friday night before me?

I hope all of you who are into pubic topiary send it off to the merkin trust.

I've been having a regular Hollywood for years, and have a toddler DS. It has crossed my mind that when he's old enough to notice maybe I should have at least some hair there, just so he knows what women look like. I wouldn't want him to get a girlfriend and find her gross because he has never seen a hairy fanny! What with porn being a hair free zone, and realistically he'll come across some of that at some point.

We don't parade around naked exactly, but going from shower to bedroom etc, we don't make a point of covering up. We will when he's older and starts getting embarrassed, but he doesn't care yet!

I can remember bathing with my dad when a kid, and I did see my parents naked sometimes. It's not about making a point of showing them any body parts, they'll just see them sometimes won't they?

Op YANBU, it's worth considering IMO.

I've never seen anyone woman's pubic hair but my own. My DC have not seen pubic hair (they know what it is obviously).

Another one here amazed at all these people whose children have never ever seen them naked. I don't think op is suggesting we should all go and flash to teenagers, but if children have seen their parents au naturel a few times when growing up it will give them some idea of what to expect.

I'm surprised too, nenny.

DS 13, hasn't seen me naked for a few years I reckon, but the 5 and 6 yr old do regularly. - I'm quite private (I thought!) but still they see me getting dressed, undressed, come into bed, into the bath, swimming changing etc. how do people avoid these scenarios?

My dc are going to see all sorts of hair from me, i only wax and can only afford to get it done every so often so underarm hair is the norm here.

I've just shaved mine for the first time ever. Should I show ds18 just so he knows about the different variations?

NO!

I don't parade around the house naked so it would make no difference whatsoever (I only shave my bikini line a tad in any event). I'm not sure my son (now 13) has ever seen me naked because:

I sleep in pyjamas.
I close the door when getting dressed and undressed.
And have a towel round me when I go into the bathroom for a shower.

I never saw my father undressed. However, I used to sit in the bathroom and chat to my mum while she was in the bath.

It took me some time before I felt pressured enough by society to shave my legs, but I did start shaving my armpits as soon as the first hair appeared there. I didn't like hair there and still don't.

Just show them some 1970s soft porn, as much full on pubic hair as anyone could ever wish to see.

ZOMBIE THREAD

Maybe dp is odd to shave, he isn't British, he thinks it's very normal. I don't do any pubic hair maintenence which dp thinks is unusual, maybe he is hoping our children will follow his lead.

I asked DH why men shave and he says it's a known fact that men shave their pubes to make their willies look bigger.
I expect if it's too hairy down below, it gets 'lost' in the undergrowth and looks smaller
He has a point.

Anonymouse is there some pressing reason you have given the kiss of life to this ZOMBIE THREAD?

I'm always intrigued by what people are searching for online which causes an 18 month old thread to appear....

Sorry, am I reading this right?

We have to stop shaving our legs/armpits/pubic hair in case DCs think this is what they have to do, we cannot dye our hair if its the same colour as our DCs in case it makes them feel like their hair colour isn't good enough and parade around naked in front of said children to show them what a "natural" look is?

Fuck that.

How I choose to deal with my hair, my body, whatever is my own choice.
I fail to see how it would benefit anyone if I walked about with hair sprouting from every place possible, stopped colouring my hair, I think i would feel pretty pissed off tbh.

I wear makeup and heels as well. My dd is 5ft 4- am I supposed to only wear flats in case she thinks being 5ft 4 is somehow bad?

I'm no good at this mummy martyr stuff I'm afraid. I didnt leave my actual self in the delivery room 16 years ago and take a vow that I would only do things that would make my DCs feel "better" regardless of how I felt myself.

I decided that actually, I was still a person. And as such I reserve my right to pluck, wax, colour and shave

Tantrums, Love it!
(especially the Mummy Martyr bit)