To think that parents should occasionally let their pubic hair grow as nature intended to educate their children as to what adult bodies look like?

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I have been having this discussion with dp, our dc are still very young so puberty is a long way off but I was wondering how children know that pubic hair is normal if they only every see their parents with minimal/absent pubic hair?

Dp has light hair and shaves his pubic hair most of the time so he doesn't really have any visable pubic hair, obviously that is his preference and his right to choose but do parents owe it to their children to show them what an unmodified adult body looks like so it isn't such a shock to them when they thelself start growing pubic hair?

A friend of mine told me that her 10 year old recently told her her pubic hair "needed a trip" the 10 year old will very likely have her own pubic hair soon and the idea of her thinking the correct thing to do is trim or get rid of the hair compleatly really makes me feel something has gone wrong in our society (and I remember the state of my legs when I first experimented with shaving!).

Don't mind me, just wandering through...

Of course men shave their natural pubic hair - every day, from their face.

If you want to see a man in his full glory, how his body is supposed to look, he should sport a beard, and if this is what you mean about your DH, I heartily agree with this idea.

Can we have a pube topic please? Then all the pube obsessives can rehash this poubyl

Can we have a pube topic please? Then all the pube obsessives can rehash this poubyl

Gah.

You get the idea.

thatbloodywoman

I just can't get in a huff,
When discussing the muff,
Be it hairy, or naked, or dyed.
Nobody sees
Till it reaches your knees-
By then it should be treated with pride.

^^

Fantastic. What I wanted to say, in rhyming couplets.

Well said Trog.
I hope the OP is never blessed with a moustache, mono brow or 6ft long random chin hairs. Just think of the moral dilemma that would arise from that!

Thank you Southern.

Seems the subject stirred the muse.

Op, see thats what I dont understand, you say you cannot do things like eat a whole bar of chocolate or watch crap tv in case your dcs want to do it as well.
But you are the parent. I have an Iphone. My 10 year old ds wants an Iphone-he has a £9.99 phone from Argos. Should I have one of those as well?
I just dont get that way of thinking

Wow. Not much else to think about op?

I think the op is getting a hard time for what I think is quite an interesting topic to discuss tbh.

At this point I will declare myself a devotee of the full on growler

Btw 'full on growler' is a quote from somethjng I read on mn way back, so I am ashamed to say that I've stolen it, but it always makes me chuckle.

I think much of the luxuriant bush look is to do with lack of time/money, along with any 'feminist statement'.

1. whether i have pubic hair or not isnt up for a public vote. It's mine. On my body.

2. i dont show my kids my pubes.

A beard is as bit different though as your DCs will see plenty of men with beards, whether or not their dad has one. But they may never see any naked adults if they don't see their own parents.

A beard is still natural though and is shaved to follow fashion. Does the OP expect or require her dh to not shave?
And like I said, what if the OP develops a moustache or mono brow? Still quite natural but totally bowing to public perceptions to do anything about it. Because it's on show doesn't make it any different. Surely because pubes aren't generally on display makes them less of an issue?

Don't you "real women" ever get bored of this one?

I've permed mine.

looks great!

I haven't seen mine since 1996!

I'm with you, Tantrums - when the dses were little, there were plenty of things I did that they weren't allowed to do. I had no problem with telling them that some things were off limits to them until they were grown up, but I was allowed to do them.

MrsBennetsEldest - my dses are 16, 18 and 20, and I can just picture the look of absolute horror on their faces, if I decided to discuss pubic topiary with them.

Don't you "real women" ever get bored of this one?

Nope. Why, what does your blow up doll talk about?

Mines not lack of time or money - just saw the point. Quite happy down there. I don't want any discomfort just to fit with some mistaken idea of hygeine of attractiveness.

I don't see the point of plastic surgery to look younger either so choose not to do that.

I'm curious as to how young women grew up to think it was expected (as some posters on here obviously have done, or got the message its something you do not to be dirty or unclean or ungroomed.).

I've not been one for girly magazibes - is it all in there? I never really got that social message until mn!!

I think it's good for a girl to grow up not thinking it's expected, necessaey, needed to look groomed but no idea how you change that cultural message if that's the one currently being given out.

Didnt see the point even.

Monobrow just not connected to sex in the same way as pubic hair. Men and women might both try to do something about one. Far more women than men remove pubic hair. It is clearly a feminist issue, not the biggest one I'll grant you, but certainly an issue.

I grew up seeing my mum naked a lot, she shaved her legs, pits and trimmed down there! I was still capable of making up my own mind as to what bits I felt needed maintenance, and in fact changed her mind about it too!

Buy copy of the Joy of Sex.
Leave it half hidden in a bookshelf somewhere.

You can guarantee your dc will furtively read it and be introduced to every kind of body hair they're likely to encounter before they hit 50.

Job done.

I`m a real woman. I have a huge upper and lower beard.

And a bottom beard.