to think it's not ok for a female colleague to texting my husband?

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My dh works in a large company and is the assistant manager of a small team (10ish people), and he has been signed off sick all week as he has tonsillitis.

One of the women on the team sent him a photo of a box of doughnuts saying- look what you're missing out on.

And then saying how much she misses him in work and that it's so quiet without him and he needs to hurry back etc.

Aibu to not like this?

It's fine friendly banter but ' I miss you , hurry back' is a bit

I didn't say I read it - it's just been implied from some of the posts, that's all!!!

zeezeek You're wrong.

It is quite ridiculous to assume that all men and all women who work together are jumping each other.

^This wasn't implied in any post, by anyone.

Woah, I just made a comment. Why are you so angry with me? I expressed an opinion, that's all. If you don't agree, fine, but don't you dare tell me what I think is implied or not.

zeezeek really it's not worth it.

I'm not angry zeezeek.

Saying that posters on the thread are implying (in your opinion) that ALL men and ALL women who work together are fucking each other is ridiculous.

How would anyone ever get any work done?

Don't be so persnickety. You know no one implied anything of the sort.

Would it be ok if it was a male colleague texting him? If yes, then aren't you being just a teany bit sexist? Women are at work to work, not to "steal husbands"!

How would you feel if a male colleague texted you and your husband was posting on the internet saying he didn't like it?

If a male colleague texted me in this way I would think it was a tad inappropriate and keep him at arms length. My dh going on a discussion board (lol) to seek guidance would not bother me at all. How can the latter be an issue?

Sorry cant remember who asked me.Not in those exact words but I say its been well boring and there is no one good to talk to.Is that kind of the same?We just have same sense of humour and are around same age so get on well.I dont think theres anything wrong with me texting him,its nothing he or i need to hide?

Blueshoes it depends what kind of relationship you have with a person,if youve been working together years then you know its just friendly.

My DH had a text from a colleague of his this morning. It started off, "Hello darling....(boring work stuff)..cheers, (her nickname).xxx". He replied, "Alright gorgeous...(response to boring work stuff)...see you later, (his name). xxx"

I know her well, she has a bf, and is definitely not on the prowl. DH is far too old for her to think of in that way, I am 100% certain.

I had a call three days ago from a study buddy. He started the conversation with, "Hey love, can you help me with...." and finished with "See you next week darling". Similarly neither of us are interested in each other in that way.

Some people are just overly friendly in their language, and I do appreciate that it can make other people uncomfortable. Definitely it is a gut instinct as to whether there is something wrong.

OP, I think you said you've discussed with your DH and he's put your mind at rest over this now? Hope you're feeling better about the incident.

A bloke who used to work with me texts me quite often - He is nosey and wants to know whats going on at work now he has left.
He puts x x x at the end of every text,. He sends 'hugs' ( YUK) - he doesn't fancy me nor I him.
As for my DP minding about it - absolutely not. He doesn't read my texts - I don't read his texts.
I don't tell him about every text I get - and he doesn't tell me about every text he gets.

I can never understand why married couples think they have a right to know everything about each other. You either trust each other or you don't - and if you don't then get the hell out of the relationship.

My DP would think I was crazy if I objected to anyone texting him - and even if he got a flirty text - He would not expect me to be jealous of it or vice versa.