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To not want my cats now the baby's here?

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elliebe13 · 13/02/2014 11:37

2 years ago I really wanted a baby but my husband thought it was too soon so got me a cat instead. She's the gentlest, sweetest cat there is. A year later my friend found a box of abandoned kittens and we took one in. I put all my effort into her and lavished love on her but she's just a grumpy, horrible cat who steals my other cat's food, fights with her and leaves white hair everywhere. She doesn't even like to be stroked. Sometimes she just poops next to the litterbox.

I became really freakish about cleanliness during pregnancy and they're banned from our bedroom and the baby's room. They're both treated for fleas but I still find them on my baby's face occasionally.

I thought my hatred for them would disappear when the baby came but I just really resent them, no matter how much I clean there's hair and dander everywhere, we don't have much space or money really and it's hard to find a decent rented flat for pets.

The second cat needs to go as I am miserable and dreading when the baby starts crawling. I had guests over last night and my friend's coat was just covered with this white hair.

I am going out of my mind. I thought I was an animal lover but I guess I'm not :(

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Lizzylou · 13/02/2014 15:58

Oh and I am typing this snuggled up to our rescue cat who is beyond gorgeous, we all adore her,
But she is not my baby, fgs.

HaroldLloyd · 13/02/2014 15:58

Rehome, not remove btw. remove sounds a bit, final.

HaroldLloyd · 13/02/2014 16:00

My cat is sitting next to me, as soon as the DC are up from their naps he will go out in the rain and sit under a bush, looking really sad.

Cravey · 13/02/2014 16:09

Exactly hop a long. That is what I said. Not what you dreamt up and then write down. Strange !!!!!! I too cannot abide arseholes. Especially ones who don't like it when others don't agree with them. Hugs and kisses. Op re home the cat. And don't get another pet. Even if you really really want one !!!

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 13/02/2014 16:11

You called her a spoilt brat and suggested she would want to re-home her child. Everything else you wrote was so horrible it got deleted.

Can I suggest that you throw your keyboard out of the window, and don't get another one. Even if you really really want one.

Cravey · 13/02/2014 16:11

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SlightlyDampWellies · 13/02/2014 16:14

The OP is struggling and came on MN to express her thoughts and seek advice.

So short her.

Cravey sorry, I have never said this before on MN, but have a Biscuit

SlightlyDampWellies · 13/02/2014 16:14

that was 'so shoot her'.

Original poster
elliebe13 · 13/02/2014 16:16

Hi all,

I knew it would be controversial to post this. I weighed the pros and cons of getting a negative flurry of replies in the hopes that I'd get a few decent ones which I did. Thanks everyone. And thanks for the PMs I had off some lovely people.

Landlord is fine with cats, just had to pay extra bond. And I do let them out through the back door. I think what some of you have said about cat no.2 being feral is true, I never considered it before. I will look into rehoming her and get a covered litter box for cat number 2.

Thanks

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elliebe13 · 13/02/2014 16:17

Cat no. 1 I meant. As for the fleas I do treat them every 4 weeks and I've done the house before it's just chemicals around my son I do not like.

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2tiredtocare · 13/02/2014 16:19

Cravey it seems like you need some help, anger management maybe?

ShatzePage · 13/02/2014 16:21

Reported your vile posts cravey.

Cravey · 13/02/2014 16:29

No I don't need anger management. I would like to suggest hop along has help with her addiction to changing what people have written. I would rather not throw my keyboard away. Just because you don't like what I have written. Thanks for the reporting I'm sure it makes you all feel in control and powerful. So happy to help you all.

CaptainGrinch · 13/02/2014 16:29

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Cravey · 13/02/2014 16:30

Oh and op. When you have got rid of the one cat try and treat the other more often for fleas. It seems to be a problem if they are crawling over your baby.

Cravey · 13/02/2014 16:30

Awww grinch. Wanna meet for coffee ? You seem to be desperate for a meet up. It must be the smooth talking that does it.

2tiredtocare · 13/02/2014 16:31

If only it was so easy to get rid of every irrational little pests...

2tiredtocare · 13/02/2014 16:32

That was meant to say irritating but irrational seems like an apt autocorrect

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 13/02/2014 16:32

She said she treats it every four weeks and that she has treated her flat. What was that about not being able to read a post properly?

Is there even the tiniest chance that you are so passionate about this because cats are the only creatures that want to be around you when you act like this?

Minnieisthedevilmouse · 13/02/2014 16:33

Op, I've felt as you have. Cried buckets about it. Rehomed our girl and she's living a happy life. Ours is also vastly improved. The relief is massive.

Stop dithering. Just behave like an adult and get on with it.

Cravey · 13/02/2014 16:36

If she treats it and does the home also then she is not doing it correctly. Fleas crawling over a child's face, as she stated is quite frankly disgusting. I bloody hate cats. They are odd creatures. Don't much like idiots either. Hang on I will just ask my husband and sons if they are ok to be around me. Seems to me they are. So I did indeed read the post correctly. Not question. Do try and make it an intelligent one this time please.

Sparklingbrook · 13/02/2014 16:38

ellieb that sounds like the best way to start. Good luck-I hope it all works out for the cats and the humans. x

2tiredtocare · 13/02/2014 16:39

Ignore it and it'll go away

Sparklingbrook · 13/02/2014 16:40

I bloody hate cats.

That explains so much Cravey.

Lizzylou · 13/02/2014 16:40

For the love of all that is holy!
Offering others out in a bird row?! Spouting bile left right and centre?!

This is a new mother with an issue which is upsetting her, let's just stop being dicks and be a bit constructive, eh? That's to those who aren't btw.

Op, rehoming your second cat will help immeasurably. am sure. You need to sort the flea thing, you know that and you have had lots of advice about that. It'll all be fine.