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AIBU?

to think my sister was a bit insensitive Re Holiday

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NachoAddict · 09/02/2014 18:53

Dp was made redundant towards the end of last year. We had booked a holiday prior to this but not paid the full balance. Dp is still out of work, the balance needs paying next week so we have decided we will have to cancel it. We will loose the 800 non refundable deposit.

My sister rang me after hearing about it and asked if they can pay the outstanding balance and have the holiday.

So am I being UR to think she is being a bit insensitive cheeky or is she being wise since we will be losing the money anyway?

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expatinscotland · 09/02/2014 21:00

Cheeky chancers get away with it only because people enable them.

Hissy · 09/02/2014 21:46

If I had it, i'd PAY that £800 to see your dsis's face when she realises that she's not going to top up her tan at your family's expense.

Floggingmolly · 09/02/2014 21:49

What a horrible thing to ask! The fact that it's "logical" in an abstract sense doesn't make it any more pleasant. Why can't she lend you the balance if she has it going spare?

Ifcatshadthumbs · 09/02/2014 21:50

A few years ago we were booked to go to Disneyland but I fell ill a week before we were due to go, I was able to change the date of the holiday to the following month (cost me slightly more but only because that month was more expensive anyway)

Hope you can change the date OP and if you do please let us know how you break the news to you sister!

Inertia · 09/02/2014 22:42

Hells bells, your sister is pretty mercenary!

I would definitely look into other options before writing off the deposit you've paid- whether that's deferring the booked holiday or transferring the booking to pay for a smaller-scale holiday this year.

deakymom · 09/02/2014 22:52

its probably only me who would say this but if i were close to my sister i would ask her if she wanted it (but im not close to my sister so i would facebook or ebay it!!)

WaffilyVersatile · 09/02/2014 22:59

I have 2 sisters and if either of them stood to lose so much and I had the money I would loan them the balance rather than profit from their bad fortune or at the very very least offer them the money to cover as much of the deposit as I could afford. I just do not understand how your sister could have thought that she was being reasonable here.

I really hope you can get this resolved in your favour.

QOD · 09/02/2014 23:03

Fingers x'd

YesIcan · 09/02/2014 23:11

Marking spot - good luck. Cheeky sister.

hoppinghare · 09/02/2014 23:12

Would you seriously rather the holiday company kept the money than your sister benefit from it? It's lost to you. Would it not be good if someone else (especially a family member) still got something from it.
I don't understand why people are calling your sister names. You are the one who is coming off badly here.

WelshMaenad · 09/02/2014 23:21

Bollocks, hopping .

No decent human would allow their out-of- work family to basically subsidise a cheap holiday for them. If the sister was offering even half of the deposit back as a "hey, at least you can salvage something if you really can't go" gesture, that would be something. My family would lend us the money so we could still go. But to look at that situation and seize the opportunity to try to get a cheap break for herself rather than help her sister out even a tiny bit?

Rude. Rude and skanky. Rude, skanky and really really insensitive!

Chippednailvarnish · 09/02/2014 23:25

Exactly Welsh, who would consider benefiting from their family's misfortune without offering them something toward what they had lost.

Mellowandfruitful · 09/02/2014 23:26

I disagree hopping - I think the least her sister could do is offer her some of the deposit so both of them get some advantage out of the situation they wouldn't otherwise have. I would feel really bad to ring up my sibling and effectively ask them if I could have their expensive holiday without even offering anything in return. The sister is the one looking bad.

OP, fingers crossed for tomorrow! FWIW, I was on a holiday years ago where something went badly wrong and First Choice were brilliant (I don't work for them, was just massively impressed with how they handled it) so hope they can help you out.

expatinscotland · 09/02/2014 23:27

Wouldn't it be good if, as a sister, you offered to help out the poor OP's family so her kids can have a break during this hard time rather than seeking to profit from your sister's misfortune? That comes across as mean-spirited, cheeky and bitchy.

LondonHotelHelp · 09/02/2014 23:28

Hope you get to change holidays

AGoodPirate · 09/02/2014 23:31

I would probably give it to my sister, but not if they'd change it for me! Good luck!!

hoppinghare · 09/02/2014 23:37

If it were me and I wasn't going and the holiday company were getting to keep my £800 I'd be ringing my sisters asking them if they could afford to pay the rest and go. I would be much happier about the loss of the money if they could go. I'd rather a friend or a friend of a friend took it if a relation didn't than the holiday company kept it and resold the holiday.
It makes no sense to refuse your sister. It seems spiteful.

Bornin1984 · 10/02/2014 02:47

Hare either way she's
Loosing 800 quid to her tight arsed
Sister who hasn't offered her some
Of the money back!

JapaneseMargaret · 10/02/2014 03:05

Hopefully you can sort this, but in the unlikely event that you can't, do not enable your cheeky sister.

If she wants the holiday, then she pays the full deposit, just as you had to do.

I don't understand why anyone would expect any differently.

DarlingGrace · 10/02/2014 05:17

The £800 is dead money - might as well let a family member make use of it.

ILiveInAPineappleCoveredInSnow · 10/02/2014 05:23

Good luck, I hope you can get your holiday changed!

RudolphLovesoftplay · 10/02/2014 05:45

I really hope you can get this sorted, and I agree with others that your sister is being a vulture swooping on your misfortune!!

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BabysNewName · 10/02/2014 05:57

Fingers crossed for you op :)

JupiterGentlefly · 10/02/2014 05:57

Marking place excitedly to see where you go. Hope your partner finds work soon!

JapaneseMargaret · 10/02/2014 06:28

How is it dead money?

It's not dead money for the family in a tight spot who had to fork it out.

Why should Family B get a holiday heavily subsidised by Family A? Family A was expected to pay for the whole holiday, why shouldn't Family B?

Sure, it doesn't't make sense for the booking to now go to waste, but why should Family A, who's struggling financially, be £800 down?

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