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Original poster

to think my sister was a bit insensitive Re Holiday

182 replies

NachoAddict · 09/02/2014 18:53

Dp was made redundant towards the end of last year. We had booked a holiday prior to this but not paid the full balance. Dp is still out of work, the balance needs paying next week so we have decided we will have to cancel it. We will loose the 800 non refundable deposit.

My sister rang me after hearing about it and asked if they can pay the outstanding balance and have the holiday.

So am I being UR to think she is being a bit insensitive cheeky or is she being wise since we will be losing the money anyway?

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phantomnamechanger · 09/02/2014 19:03

the only way this is fair is if she offers to pay half of the deposit, that way its win-win - you benefit & so does she

if she is not intending this she really has a nerve!

susiedaisy · 09/02/2014 19:04

I can see why she thinks it a good idea. She gets a cheaper holiday. Your going to lose the deposit anyway. But blimey that is crass and insensitive. She should at least offer to pay half your deposit back to you. So she's still paying £400 less for a holiday and you are £400 better off.

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NachoAddict · 09/02/2014 19:04

I wasn't sure if I was just being mean spirited since I am loosing that money anyway.

I will suggest she gives us half of the deposit, that will pay for a nice week away camping for us and she still gets a 400 discount off two weeks all inclusive sunshine break.

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FrontForward · 09/02/2014 19:05

Actually if this was my sister and she seemed kind, sensitive and careful about bringing it up I'd be fine with it. If she landed like a vulture with no comment on my loss or concern for me I'd still let her have it but be desperately upset by her

expatinscotland · 09/02/2014 19:06

Tell her she can have it for £400, cash, before you give it. BT check if there is not redundancy protection in place.

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NachoAddict · 09/02/2014 19:06

Rachy it is booked with first choice. I wasn't aware of this policy but I will ring them tomorrow and see what they say! Thanks!!

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manicinsomniac · 09/02/2014 19:07

I will suggest she gives us half of the deposit, that will pay for a nice week away camping for us and she still gets a 400 discount off two weeks all inclusive sunshine break.

Sad I'm so sorry. If this was my sister I'd lend or give her the balance rather than take advantage like that.

Parkend · 09/02/2014 19:08

So you lose £800 either way. Nothing in it for you, it's a real cheek to ask.

FunkyBoldRibena · 09/02/2014 19:08

Tell her yes if she gives you the full amount.

EnglishGirlApproximately · 09/02/2014 19:09

Please check if you havev redundancy protection before you do it. Also, is there any way you can pay the fee to transfer the holiday to next year? I know its an expense but if its at all affordable its better than losing 800.

PotteringAlong · 09/02/2014 19:09

looks like you could be in luck!

kiwidreamer · 09/02/2014 19:09

Its bloody mean and insensitive, yes I can see why it 'makes sense' to her but its still mean!!!!!

I'd be tempted to put the balance on the credit card but I'm irresponsible like that Grin

nkf · 09/02/2014 19:10

I'd suggest splitting the deposit. Win win all round.

rachyconks · 09/02/2014 19:11

Nacho - first choice def have it. Are you booked online or in store? Have a read through this www.firstchoice.co.uk/redundancy-protection-scheme.html

I have done it many times for customers and it's really straightforward.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 09/02/2014 19:11

She is trying her luck. She shouldn't profit from your bad fortune.

rookiemater · 09/02/2014 19:11

Extremely mean of her not to have offered you some cash in the first place. If she isn't prepared to give you 400 then personally I'd rather lose the deposit than let such a greedy vulture enjoy your holiday on the cheap.

LaVitaBellissima · 09/02/2014 19:11

Rachy is right www.firstchoice.co.uk/redundancy-protection-scheme.html

Tell your sister to get stuffed!

WelshMaenad · 09/02/2014 19:11

Oh, I really hope you can get your money back. Redundancy sucks. Good luck lovely x

Piscivorus · 09/02/2014 19:11

I'd tell her that you really could do with that £800 and ask her if she plans to pay that to you. If she says yes or makes you a reasonable offer that's great. If not I'd just say that you wouldn't want there to be any resentment between you and, if she was to profit from your difficulties, there probably would be so, no, she can't have the holiday.

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NachoAddict · 09/02/2014 19:11

Just googled the redundancy policy and unfortunately we don't qualify. Dp only worked with the company for a year and you need to have worked their for two. Also you have to let them know within 7 days of being made redundant. He has been out of work a couple of months now. We were hoping he would get a new job fairly quickly in which case we would have been able to carry on regardless.

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SoulJacker · 09/02/2014 19:11

I'd prefer a cheeky relative to benefit from my misfortune rather than a tour operator personally.

Marylou2 · 09/02/2014 19:11

This happened to us a few years ago.The holiday/redundancy thing, not the cheeky sister bit.Thomas Cook let us defer the holiday for 1 year and by then DH had a job.Maybe you could do this? The very best of luck to you and your DP.

Purplepoodle · 09/02/2014 19:12

I can see how it would sting, her suggesting it when you are having a hard time. All emotion aside it is a very practical solution. Your going to lose the money anyway so why not let you sister have it. Wouldn't hurt to ask her for £400 though so you could still go on holiday - she was cheeky enough to ask you.

Bogeyface · 09/02/2014 19:13

Cheeky cow!

You are going to lose £800 but somehow she manages to turn that into her doing you a favour?! Wow!

I hope you get your money back via the redundancy protection :)

expatinscotland · 09/02/2014 19:14

I would have loaned you the money or given it to you. She's a cheeky bitch. Tell her £400 or she funds her own holiday.