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To be really touched that DStD sent me an FB message saying I had neglected her 30th birthday?

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MammaTJ · 31/01/2014 21:22

I am amazed by this event! I was her StM from age 9 to 18 and loved her totally! She messaged me informing I was lacking on the 30th birthday front! I told her I love her and she is further ahead at 30 than I was! She is my eldest DDs older sister so has that place as well as the one she h

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PedlarsSpanner · 31/01/2014 21:25

?

pressed send too soon?

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MammaTJ · 31/01/2014 21:26

Has in my heart! She knows I love her and am here for her!

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Blueandwhitelover · 31/01/2014 21:27

I don't understand, have you not seen her since she was 18?

SirChenjin · 31/01/2014 21:28

30th birthday?? What, is that a very special birthday to some people then? Confused

birdsnotbees · 31/01/2014 21:29

Eh? You mean you forgot her 30th? Ouch.

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MammaTJ · 31/01/2014 21:30

I have seen her and her DP and her DC but her DM had passed away!

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MammaTJ · 31/01/2014 21:32

birdsnotbees
Not a chance, I was waiting till quieter moments!

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SnowAway · 31/01/2014 21:32

I don't know that you should be touched so much as mortified tbh?!

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MammaTJ · 31/01/2014 21:34

blue, that would never happen.

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AnnabelleLee · 31/01/2014 21:35

30? Isn't it time she grew up a bit?

themessyapron · 31/01/2014 21:36

Touched? Do you mean embarrassed?

birdsnotbees · 31/01/2014 21:36

So you mean you thought about her birthday but didn't actually do anything about it... which to me would seem awfully like you forgot it.

PedlarsSpanner · 31/01/2014 21:38

I would be upset if someone who professed to love me so much neglected to mark a landmark birthday. I don't think it's a childish thing for her to be upset.

Unless there was a gift/card sent by OP and the message from the DSD is dissing the value/thought involved?

Patchouli · 31/01/2014 21:39

When was her birthday and what had you planned?

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MammaTJ · 31/01/2014 21:39

AnnabelleLee, no not at all, she is looking for love from the parents she had left!

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PublicEnemyNumeroUno · 31/01/2014 21:40

You are touched that she messaged you to say you neglected her birthday?

I don't get it Confused

Are you touched that she thought of you and missed you, is that what you mean?

CinnabarRed · 31/01/2014 21:40

I really don't understand...

birdsnotbees · 31/01/2014 21:40

Ach, you're making no sense whatsoever. And using too many exclamation marks. I'm off.

SuperScrimper · 31/01/2014 21:41

I have read this about 10 times and he still doesn't make sense!

Hassled · 31/01/2014 21:41

I don't really understand - I get that you're touched that she cares that you forgot, but why did you forget?

AwfulMaureen · 31/01/2014 21:41

Why are you touched?

PedlarsSpanner · 31/01/2014 21:41

MammaTJ we are really having trouble understanding what the problem is Confused

themessyapron · 31/01/2014 21:41

Are you drunk? You're making no sense

TeaMakesItAllPossible · 31/01/2014 21:43

I think Mamma means that her DSD has got in touch to say her 30th is missing MTJ there!

I think that's lovely. Being a SM is hard and it's nice she remembers you and your role 12 years on

TeaMakesItAllPossible · 31/01/2014 21:43

I think Mamma means that her DSD has got in touch to say her 30th is missing MTJ there!

I think that's lovely. Being a SM is hard and it's nice she remembers you and your role 12 years on