To be really touched that DStD sent me an FB message saying I had neglected her 30th birthday?

[MammaTJ]

I am amazed by this event! I was her StM from age 9 to 18 and loved her totally! She messaged me informing I was lacking on the 30th birthday front! I told her I love her and she is further ahead at 30 than I was! She is my eldest DDs older sister so has that place as well as the one she h

I'm confused after reading through this thread.

I think we're just supposed to be happy for the OP.

Her DSD cares whether or not the OP remembers her birthday.

The OP is happy DSD cares.

OP did not forget the birthday, she just planned to message her later.

There is nothing here to comment on, give advice on, or decide whether OP is BU or NBU.

She's just letting us know.

her later.

Ignore the random "her later" although it kinda fits in with all the surrealness...

I'm really, really not getting this thread...

OK, here's my guess at decoding all the above - OP was touched that the DSD got in touch on her birthday noting that it was unusual for her NOT to have heard from the OP, so she was concerned about the OP as this was out of character? And Op is pleased that she does after all mean a lot to the DSD? so the DSD message was not "what the heck are you playing at, you forgot my birthday you stingy cah, stomp sulk" but "are you OK? its my birthday and I hoped to hear from you today"

or something?

Surely OP just means she was glad her DSD noticed after they have had a challenging relationship.

What an unbelievable load of twaddle! This thread is a pile of steaming elephant dung, but well done for attracting over 100 replies.

How rude

Goodness!

Do you find people avoid you UncleT?

OP cares that DSD missed her, I think. Bit strange though to post about it and for OP to be so dramatic about this girl "having her heart" and "knowing where she is with her."

weird!

or!

what!

!

If you love her so much why do you not bother to send her a birthday card ? It makes no sense at all .

MNetters stop it. This thread is making me laugh like a mad thing on the Tube.

I'm glad that your DSD reassured you on her birthday that she loved you, OP.

That, after all, is the reason we have birthdays, so that when people forget, we can remind them that we love them.

If your DSD phoning you to remind you of her birthday is seen as 'progress' by you, then I'm sorry that this is the extent of your relationship.

I understand you MammaTJ. You were planning to wish your DsD a happy birthday but just hadn't got round to it yet, you hadn't missed her birthday. The message from DsD was to say she was missing having you around to celebrate with her. You were touched as over the years she has rejected you. The message showed that you were important to her.

Not so difficult to understand. for you and for your dsd!

I agree. I get ya

Did she mean that you just didn't post Happy Birthday on her Facebook page even though you had sent her a card?

theeternalstudent has summed it up better than I could!

Saying she's "touched" that her DSD felt "neglected" is rather strange wording.

Not sure what you're getting at OP.

Sorry.

I get it, when the word "neglected" isn't taken too literally.

I think anyone who has looked after a challenging teenager who is not their own child looks forward to the day when they actively contact you to let you know they want you in their life when it has always seemed like you would have to wait for your rewards in heaven . Well done Mamma TJ!

"theeternalstudent has summed it up better than I could!"

Clearly she has because that certainly wasn't the impression I got from your posts.

I think we all understood what the OP meant . It just seems ridiculous to be happy someone felt neglected.