To be really touched that DStD sent me an FB message saying I had neglected her 30th birthday?

[MammaTJ]

I am amazed by this event! I was her StM from age 9 to 18 and loved her totally! She messaged me informing I was lacking on the 30th birthday front! I told her I love her and she is further ahead at 30 than I was! She is my eldest DDs older sister so has that place as well as the one she h

Op. You're still nuts

So you didn't even bother to text her while on the public transport.

Yabu to feel 'touched' you've just shot yourself in the foot as far as she's concerned. She was looking for an excuse to make you out as the SM from hell and you giftwrapped one.

If I'd missed an important birthday and it was publicly pointed out to me I'd be ashamed and upset, not amazed and touched. What an odd response.

Why didn't you text her when you were spending time with your 7 and 8 year olds, or when you were at dinner? A text only takes what, a couple of minutes at most. Did I miss something - did you not acknowledge her birthday at all?

I thought, when I posted earlier, that she was complaining that your present wasn't good enough - but it seems as if didn't even acknowledge her birthday. Wow - that's bad

Tbh I think you're rotten. If she lived with you for a period of course she noticed that you couldn't be arsed to wish her happy bday.

She's normal. You op are not.

Op , you sound like you're 'away with the fairie's'

Wtf?!

This is one of the oddest threads I have seen in ages.

So basically you were busy, forgot the birthday, feel guilty, and started this thread to justify yourself/feel better for forgetting?

Maybe you should explain yourself to her, not us?

Otherwise I'm completely missing the point of this thread.

Im still confused

Stop with the !!!!!!!!!!

Its annoying and that alone means YABU.

I still don't get it.

I don't think there is any need to be so harsh on the op.

MammaTJ, some people attach importance on "milestone" birthdays. Do you usually send her a birthday card? I guess it depends on what you have always done and whether this is any different. It does kinda sound like you forgot or couldn't make an effort, and she is hurt and feeling unimportant.
Hope you mend things between you.

No, I don't normally send her a card.

I don't feel guilty that I hadn't messaged her!

There was still some of the day left to do so. I intended to do so once the little ones had settled, a long process after I have been away for a few days.

I did not think I mattered to her any more,my amazement is more due to the fact that I clearly do!

There is nothing to mend, I phoned her and told her I was going to message her a bit later and that I am proud if her. She is a great mum, has returned recently to education, after being a PITA teen who we could not keep in school no matter how hard we tried!

We are looking forward to seeing each other at my DDs wedding in June!

I just dont get why you were touched that her feelings were hurt thats all, she was an important part of her life and she thought you would remember even a text to say happy birthday hope you have a nice day, you hurt her feelings be a humble not touched that she still regards you as a major part of her life,

you were an important part of her life*

Well, that's all as clear as mud.

Happy Saturday OP.

If everything is ok now, why did you start the thread?

I'm just wondering whether English is not the OPs first language and she means a different adjective than 'touched'?

Why did you put this in AIBU?! Just thrown yourself to the wolves there Mamma

I've seen MammaTJ around a lot on these boards and she's always made perfect sense.

Ok great!