To be really touched that DStD sent me an FB message saying I had neglected her 30th birthday?

[MammaTJ]

I am amazed by this event! I was her StM from age 9 to 18 and loved her totally! She messaged me informing I was lacking on the 30th birthday front! I told her I love her and she is further ahead at 30 than I was! She is my eldest DDs older sister so has that place as well as the one she h

I think the op is touched that she cares

Step sister...

Yes mrsc I agree

My brain hurts.

I read it as op is touched because she missed DSD bday and DSD cared enough about op to be upset about it.
Which makes you unreasonable , as although you might have had an ego boost someone may be generally uoset .

Have you been on the gin/wine/vodka/all of the previous tonight?

I would if I could moomin but pregnant so I can't- reckon you're right about mammaTJ though

I'm lost.

Possibly she is looking around at the loot from her "significant" birthday and thinking it doesn't quite cut the mustard quantity-wise.

So she thinks "I know, I'll message MammaTJ and lay a guilt trip".

Sorry - I'm an old and cynical person.

I agree with MrsCakes, that is the sense I get. That Mamma felt she was unwanted as SM, so was going to get in touch post b'day.

Then when she got a ticking off for not making contact on b'day, she asked AIBU to be happy for being told off, i.e. maybe my SD finally wants my attention.

I'll move on now.

MammaTJ I've had some luffly, sensible chats on threads with you.

This one? Not so much of the sense :)

Have more

I'm reading it the same way as mrscakes that after a long gap the step daughter has finally got in touch and is no longer rejecting mammatj.

casmama I know the feeling I think wine/vodka/gin/absinthe/ ethanol is what's needed in order to understand this thread... but all the exclamation marks make me feel happy, and I'm lying in bed being kicked to high hell so I'm not going to complain

mumba but that bit does actually make sense "my eldest DD's oldest sister" presumably they share a father, so half-sisters?

It's just the rest I can't make head or tail of!

mumba you actually pointed out the one bit that DOES make sense to me

I have read it and re-read it.

I've put my step mum hat on.

I don't get it.

Incidentally snow - I'm not sure I like the term 'ex' step mother. (disclaimer: very very sensitive since splitting up from DH and own DSD)

"my eldest DD's oldest sister" presumably they share a father, so half-sisters?

well sisters are sisters really , anyway mamm i have no clue lovey what you are on about it seems lovely that you love this woman but did you forget her birthday and she is hurt ?

mammatj i meant

is no one going to say what the 't' stands for?!?!

Obviously the only confusing part of this thread ...

Twin

Totally confused?? Head hurts and had too much wine.

maybe all will become clear in the morning

I'm assuming St is together standing for step.

Ahh yes MrsCakesPremonition. Your explanation does make sense.

I really do think the DStD is simply looking for a present.

Why on earth would she ignore Mamma for ages, only to then get in touch to point out that her birthday had been missed

For clarification, I did not and have not ever forgotten her birthday! I had no signal on my phone for most of the day! I was on placement, so effectively at work, then travelling on public transport for 30 miles, then spending time with my 7 and 8 year olds, who I had not seen since Monday! We then went to their karate lesson, then out for dinner.

I feel my (ex ) DStD has often taken me for granted, she is secure in the knowledge I love her to bits!

I was amazed and touched that she noticed I had not yet wished her a happy birthday!

She was not expecting a present or being grabby in hinting for one!