to feel terrible. DD will be going to Nursery

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at 6 months old. DH isn't happy I know, but we have made unchangeable lifestyle choices and have financial responsibilities which basically mean that I will have to go to work.

I feel fucking shit. It will be 18.5 hours a week and is an exceptionally good nursery so no worries there.

It's no wonder that op hasn't been back... She must be wondering what the hell happened to her thread

Thanks sleepyfergus and rufus - and OP, it's a shame your thread got so massively derailed but I'm glad there were some posts that were helpful for you

Ooh! Op did come back! (Missed that) Good!

AuntieStella
I agree with you! but equally, I am not going to sit back and say nothing when a poster starts throwing out wild theories about a controlling situation, with zero evidence.
Surely posts need to be challenged, when they are patently about agenda not the OP?

I tend to go for the 'ignore' option when things go off topic, especially when the tone is peculiar or hostile.

Still, the empty room took a hell of a beating.

Joinyourplayfellows you have serious issues

Wow. 18.5hrs is nothing to worry about. I had to return to world full time when dd1 was 9 mths. She was fine.

I have the opp prob to you OP I now work 4 d after DD2 and would rather I work full time !!

Thanks for the supportive comments and the sane ones!! We are now looking at the possibility of me staying at home for a little bit longer. We need only a few thousand to stay off until September/October. I was quite excited about the project I was going to be managing when I got back but there are other factors to consider. I might do the odd bit of consultancy work to keep ticking over. I do want to give dd a little bit of nursery time. I think it will do her good. DH is supportive ether was but like JRmumma (i think thats who commented) said it will effect DH. We are both loving having me at home and having spent my entire adult life being quite driven with work, Its actually lovely to have time to cook, clean, cuddle dd and just enjoy simple things for a while.

period i just thought id add that we went to visit a nursery today (have you done this yet?) in preparation for my return to work, although this is not for 6 months. It was a very positive experience in terms of becoming more comfortable with the idea of DS going there in the future. The staff were lovely and the children all looked happy and cared for.

Def not your income that will go on childcare costs, OP. Don't think of it like that.

It's not you working that creates the childcare requirement, it's you both working while having a child that creates the paid childcare requirements.

It's irrelevant which you you has been working for more of the time since your dc was born, as soon as it's both of you need paid childcare which costs money, but it doesn't matter who set off to work first or last.

Childcare costs should come out of joint finances.