Re DH's friends wedding

[Juno77]

DH friend is getting married later in the year. DH is the best man. I am due to give birth 6 weeks prior to the wedding.

DH is going away on stag weekend (abroad) when child is 3 weeks old. I don't mind this, but it is a factor in my current annoyance.

Wedding is in a really fancy hotel, about 50 miles from where we live. We aren't planning to bring the children anyway.

We were planning to stay 2 nights in fancy hotel, as DH has plans with the groom and other friends the day/evening before. I was happily going to relax in the hotel, maybe go to the spa, go for a nice walk, just relax child free. Spend the night together, and wake up on the morning of the wedding and take my time getting ready, relaxing breakfast by myself etc.

DH friend has now told him he's booked them a room for the night before (along with a third friend). So, DH is staying the night before, and I will just have to sort myself out in the morning and make my own way to the hotel, already dressed for the wedding (as check in is too late to get ready there).

I'm pissed off. AIBU? And if so, should I be pissed with DH? Is it really his fault? Should he say no, or should we be more accommodating to the plans of the groom?

For the purposes of not drip feeding;

1. It's over £200 a night so I don't want to spend that on a room for the night before, by myself.
2. I'm not friendly with the bride at all

Steak, chips, blue cheese sauce and caramelised onions. Fed the kids early tonight as ds2 had a wee pal round. This is just for dh and me. Slurp!

Ooh Pictish - lovely!

I have no idea what DH is cooking. He's good though, I'm rarely disappointed

For some annoying reason that I must get sorted, the hot tap in our bath only runs lukewarm.

LittleBear - you seem to still be intent on having little jabs at me. Do you need a hug?

pictish that sounds divine!!!

wow what did I miss?

Lj you have to get that sorted.

I couldn't live without a bath.

We are moving house in a week and the new house has a big corner bath. I thought corner baths were a bit 80's at first, but DH was keen (he is a giant man) so we went for it and now I am quite excited.

You missed dinner talk and what your bath is like.

Sounds delicious, Pictish! And thanks to Juno and bumbley for the DYAC definition. I thought it meant something dreadful I had done (paranoid? Moi?)

Pictish - in case you didn't notice - I wasn't the only person on this thread expressing concern that the OP appeared to be giving more thought to her make up bag than her 6 week old baby. Saying something like that at the start would have reassured a lot of people.

I also wasn't the only person 'behaving badly' - plenty of insults were being thrown in my direction too. Probably more if we bothered to count! There's only one of me.

My bath is lovely and deep and double and I may have one this evening with lots of bubbles... :)

I know!!! We have only lived here since nov and there was sooooooo much to sort in the house, that we haven't got round to it all yet.

You should see the garden

At our last house, we had one of those huge, clawfooted baths. I loved that bath so much, and I still miss it.

I wish people would stop mentioning the make up bag.

I mentioned some other daily essentials, but everyone is very focused on the damn make up..

SDT my mum has one of those, I love it!! But when I was pregnant and had a bath at hers I discovered it was too high for me to get out off safely and had to shout for her to help me

Juno, I wasn't the only person thinking about your baby - plenty of other posters asked too so you may have not thought it was relevant but lots of people do. It's quite common on threads for people to ask for clarification of certain things that the OP may not have mentioned. I think it was the fact that you were so dismissive of them that portrayed you in a bad light (to many people) irl what you were putting your priorities on.

Bumbley - please just answer a simple question...do you not understand that it is none of your concern?

FFS ...like a dog with with a bone....

Juno. I would ignore if I were you.

Actually Bumbley I'm trying to save you from yourself

And blow drying a small stuffed cat.

It stood out Juno - dismissive of people asking about the baby but worrying about your make up bag. That's just the impression you gave at the start - that may not have been your intention but that did come across and I wasn't the only one who thought so.

pictish you've made me decide on steak for dinner tonight sounds good.

Die thread die
Bumbley let it go for the love of all that is holy.

So am I littlebear.

I've got a large p shaped bath which is perfect for relaxing in.

What are you having for dinner Bumbley?