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Re DH's friends wedding

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Juno77 · 26/01/2014 17:42

DH friend is getting married later in the year. DH is the best man. I am due to give birth 6 weeks prior to the wedding.

DH is going away on stag weekend (abroad) when child is 3 weeks old. I don't mind this, but it is a factor in my current annoyance.

Wedding is in a really fancy hotel, about 50 miles from where we live. We aren't planning to bring the children anyway.

We were planning to stay 2 nights in fancy hotel, as DH has plans with the groom and other friends the day/evening before. I was happily going to relax in the hotel, maybe go to the spa, go for a nice walk, just relax child free. Spend the night together, and wake up on the morning of the wedding and take my time getting ready, relaxing breakfast by myself etc.

DH friend has now told him he's booked them a room for the night before (along with a third friend). So, DH is staying the night before, and I will just have to sort myself out in the morning and make my own way to the hotel, already dressed for the wedding (as check in is too late to get ready there).

I'm pissed off. AIBU? And if so, should I be pissed with DH? Is it really his fault? Should he say no, or should we be more accommodating to the plans of the groom?

For the purposes of not drip feeding;

  1. It's over £200 a night so I don't want to spend that on a room for the night before, by myself.
  2. I'm not friendly with the bride at all
OP posts:
Chunderella · 28/01/2014 19:53

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HaroldLloyd · 28/01/2014 19:54

It's like arguing with a cobby toddler!

BrandNewIggi · 28/01/2014 19:55

Your comment to me makes no sense Candycoated, or perhaps you have just misunderstood what I said.

JimmyChooChoo · 28/01/2014 19:57

I suppose it's a compliment but you're all quite amusing really Grin

cory · 28/01/2014 19:57

the mice ate up my wedding,
they slobbered on it too,
so now the baby's fully attached
and covered in rodent goo

(sorry Blush)

Lj8893 · 28/01/2014 19:57

jimmy what is your problem?? Seriously, you are acting like a child!!

HaroldLloyd · 28/01/2014 19:57

I bet MNHQ are pleased they unlocked this bad boy.

JimmyChooChoo · 28/01/2014 19:59

The queen off eff offs calls me a child

One couldn't make it up!!

FootieOnTheTelly · 28/01/2014 20:01

...do you remember those arguments you had with your siblings when you were a kid? and neither one of you could bare not to have the last word so the argument went on and on and on and on.. .. and on and on......and on...

candycoatedwaterdrops · 28/01/2014 20:12

This is the thread that never ends....it just goes on and on, my friends....!

Lj8893 · 28/01/2014 20:19

Jesus. I said it once!!!!!! I'm hardly the queen of the phrase!

LessMissAbs · 28/01/2014 20:39

Whats going on now? Has bumbley managed to leave the house without her baby yet (albeit left in the same hands of her DH/parents/sibling/whatever) or does she get all her shopping online?

HaroldLloyd · 28/01/2014 20:48

The queen of eff off.

We will be resorting to you smell like poo in a bit.

Pooka · 28/01/2014 21:19

Whats going on now? Has bumbley managed to leave the house without her baby yet (albeit left in the same hands of her DH/parents/sibling/whatever) or does she get all her shopping online?

And people are calling jimmychoochoo childish!

Grow up.

HaroldLloyd · 28/01/2014 21:39

This thread has gone so so so wrong. Grin

Lj8893 · 28/01/2014 21:40

Its just bizarre!!

Commander6 · 28/01/2014 22:07

Oh dear. I left this thread ages ago because it got remarkably silly.

Any chance that people can kiss and make up?

before mumsnet send some people some warnings?

stayanotherday · 28/01/2014 22:21

I've seen this thread after working two shifts. Vile, absolutely vile.

BrandNewIggi · 28/01/2014 22:23

Lessmissabs, as far as I can see Bumbley has not posted since Monday night - to keep on like that is just hounding her.

Kubrickian · 28/01/2014 22:38

to keep on like that is just hounding her.

Oh right, kind of like what Bumbley did to the OP then ....

Lj8893 · 28/01/2014 22:46

I have a feeling some people have had warnings from mnhq already, over the last couple of days.

Now, everyone on here at the moment seems fairly mature and in agreement with one another, shall we let the thread die?

JupiterGentlefly · 28/01/2014 22:52

I didn't do my ironing because of this thread. Fwiw I would have happily buggered off for two days when my first was 6 weeks old.

BrandNewIggi · 28/01/2014 22:53

Because of course, two wrongs make a right? I get enough of this crap at work with teenagers, thank you.

LessMissAbs · 28/01/2014 22:54

Apols BrandNewIggy I haven't read all of the thread, its moved too fast for me. I was just a bit "astonished" at some of the stuff written, and my tendency towards that sort of stuff is to ridicule by sarcasm.

Mellowandfruitful · 28/01/2014 23:01

There has been more harsh criticism of Bumbley now than there were original posts from Bumbley criticising the OP. Basically loads of people have decided they like the idea of getting to have a go at someone for being' intolerant' (oh the irony!) because they can be nasty while apparently taking the moral high ground and 'not judging'. And so the intolerant anti-intolerance bandwagon has rolled on and on...