To be quite angry with my friend?

[Imogencodpiece]

I feel that I might be being unreasonable but I just seem to be getting angrier the more I think about it.

I shall point out now said friend is 19 and recently single. We are all 27-30 sort of age range. I know said friend through a youth organisation of which I am the leader and she is a helper.

Usually said friend is more mature than most 19 year olds, didn't really drink and spent most of her time working, saving to travel to different places and studying for her university course. This is why I feel that we get on so well.
However since she has been single she has started to drink a lot and sleep around - basically a complete change in her personality.

A couple of weeks ago me, my friend and my DP all went out for a mutual friends birthday. Said friend is not usually out with us (as previously usually had plans with exbf) but was invited this time.
As usual the evening was full of silly jokes and making innuendos out of non-sexual things people said. All very normal for us :) so far so good.

Anyway, my DP is a lover of real ales and has been trying to find one I also like since we got together, so we are all round this table and friend asks if she could also try the beer as she has never tried ale.
DP says go ahead. Friend then (completely not realizing what she was doing I think) proceeded to hold her hair out of the way and drink from the glass still on the table.
I laughed and said, 'errr pick the glass up nutter' just making light of the silly way she chose to drink ( she was pretty drunk at the time). DP then said 'yeah pick the glass up, iv never seen anyone drink that way, iv seen people give ORAL SEX that way but not drink beer' Q good natured laughing from everyone within earshot, including me.

Then, this is what I am angry about, she immediately did exactly the same thing again. This time pointedly looking my DP in the eyes as she did it. DP tried to laugh it off but when we were on our own he asked me if I had noticed and said it made him feel uncomfortable.

The more I think about it the more pissed off I am.

Do you think I should say something? AIBU to be pissed at her?

I want to just leave it and put it down to her being young, naive and drunk and if it happens again, then have a word and tell her she is making a fool out of herself. WWYD?

God yes, Voyage I hope so too.
Poor girl having this lot as her only friendship group.

If you are so concerned for your young friends morals, you should take a long hard look at how you have been mentoring her over the last few years, and reconsider whether being the Leader of the group is appropriate and reconcilable with sexual banter and innuendo, especially targeting young people.

J

marmaladeshatkins that picture is hilarious and spot on.
Poor imogencodpiece she must be questioning both her relationship and her professional integrity right now.

That girl's not doing anything different to a huge load of people whose relationships end. People of all ages. The only thing that's different is she is young and socially inexperienced which is why she was drunkenly telling everyone the details of her dalliances.

The 'group' who are older than her should have been kinder to her, maybe distracting her or even the op taking her home if she was that shitfaced.

The 'd'p shouldn't have made the tragic oral sex reference. It sounds as though the 'group' are also quite naive.

Is the woman in the far left of Marmalade's picture photo-shopped in?

I know those people!!

The "group" sound naive and childish.
The 19-y-o sounds like she dealt with an awkward and uncomfortable situation rather well.
The OP sounds overly keen to excuse her DP's cringe-making, lecherous behavior. She also sounds very immature and unprofessional for one who works with young people.

OP, YABU and refusing to acknowledge the truth of this situation.

Oh do tell more Jen

What...this particular group??

I haven't read all the replies, but a couple of pages
Probably boring the op by saying it was dp that was way out of line. Errrr Freudian slip I think....
However what she did was also not something I'd like to see either.

Like this

Angry is as close to grump as we get....

It is completely crap, isn't it, what some women do and justify to themselves

Jen ???? Tell us more. Were you there?