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Original poster

To ask how many of you have a 'natural' lady garden?

395 replies

ineedsomeinspiration · 18/01/2014 20:04

I used to sport the landing strip up until I was about 6 months pregnant with ds who is now 2. I stopped shaving as I couldn't see what I was doing, also might sound daft but kind of wanted it to be the way nature intended to give birth.
Since then I haven't shaved, waxed, trimmed etc. I'm not massively hairy so it's not a full on 80s style bush.
DP moaned the other day as he liked it the way I used to have it. Hmm. I sort of told him tough luck it's my bits and quite frankly I cba and like not having itchy stubble. He watched our Baby come out of there fgs surely he realises it's not a fashion accessory?
AIBU to not make the effort for dp?

OP posts:
scantilymad · 19/01/2014 00:00

You don't have a hairy bum crack then oxford? You lucky thing

Tommy · 19/01/2014 00:00

never done anything to my bits - never had any complaints either Grin

WorraLiberty · 19/01/2014 00:02

Voyage, I'm a bit worried about you pooing through your pubic hair - have you considered seeing your Dr about what might be some sort of deformity?

Wow, I don't know if you meant that to sound so nasty?

Lots of people with thick pubic hair growth have hairs around their anus.

joanofarchitrave · 19/01/2014 00:02

Maybe I'm just jealous that I have never earned enough to sustain this kind of waxing habit. For a brief period while I was single I did try waxing, but given that I 'need' to have my toes, feet, legs, bikini line, stomach, nipples, throat, 'chin strap', cheeks, upper lip and eyebrows done, it is an absolutely eyewatering bill even without the eyewatering pain.

But I'm a bit shocked at 'Don't know why and we didn't make the rules!' tbh. Sounds a bit unreflective. 'Theirs not to reason why, theirs but to do or die' was quite a long time ago.

scantilymad · 19/01/2014 00:07

I did reason why. Because I like it and it looks neater and I like that. It is the fashion at the moment to remove body hair. That's what I meant (lightheartedly) by rules. But I don't think I ever said I did it without knowing why? It's not a lack of reflection on my part and I can't see any previous posters who said they removed their own hair for no reason. Empower your fellow women with a little credit for independent thought, please!

KareKare · 19/01/2014 00:11

Everything waxed off for me.

I can't fathom the idea of shaving it, mine would be all stubbly within 12 hours.

Thants · 19/01/2014 00:13

I'm 25 and all natural, I'm comfortable with body so don't want to change it. Removing hair is painful, time consuming and NOT cleaner.
Waxing is no different to self harm in my book. I'm not self harming to look what the media tells me is sexy. I'm not wasting time on that simply because I am a woman.

Only1scoop · 19/01/2014 00:13

Have waxed for years....small landing strip. Can't be sporting a 70's bush.

squoosh · 19/01/2014 00:14

You had me until I got to 'waxing is no different to self harm'.

What a very stupid thing to say.

Alisvolatpropiis · 19/01/2014 00:15

Thants

Didn't realise we were the same age!

And apparently fellow naturals Grin

scantilymad · 19/01/2014 00:16

Thants. What are your views on cutting your hair or plucking your eyebrows then?!!

joanofarchitrave · 19/01/2014 00:16

Ok i see.

Alisvolatpropiis · 19/01/2014 00:20

Um...Thants...same age and fellow naturals as we are...comparing waxing to self harming isn't really on.

I've waxed many a time. I've also self harmed, though not for a very long time. They're not at all the same.

WorraLiberty · 19/01/2014 00:32

Waxing is no different to self harm in my book

Possibly one of the strangest posts I've seen in a long while.

EBearhug · 19/01/2014 00:35
  1. Currently natural, including armpits, due to an abscess in one of them. (Of course you needed to know that.) I do shave from time to time because I quite like the way it feels, all soft and smooth. As far as I remember, it can be quite fun with someone else, as they can get really close, but as I haven't been with anyone for about a million years, I might be misremembering.

I mostly do it for me - I first did it just to see how it feels. I go swimming whether or not there's hair there or not (currently also have legs which haven't been waxed for a while) - however, I am naturally not very hairy, so I don't think it's as noticeable as some others might be. But even if it is, who cares?

Scarletohello · 19/01/2014 00:39

Tbh if I could I'd never shave anything. Legs, underarm, fanjo. Hair is natural!

And surely is there for a reason...?

BeCool · 19/01/2014 00:49

Me! I had one bikini wax years ago. That was enough. The idea of a landing strip is quite perculiar to me. I couldn't go for that at all.

I'm quite naturally tidy though in the body hair dept. For which I am thankful.

OxfordBags · 19/01/2014 00:54

I really don't have hair around my bumhole - a few wispy bits at most - so am genuinely interested to learn that others do have proper pube-y arsecracks. Still changes my opinion on hair removal and hygiene 0%.

Worra, it was a joke. Because the word pubes does usually mean 'hair around the vulva', not the bum. And you don't poo out of your vagina, do you (unless there really is something wrong going on)? Sigh.

LilBlondePessimist · 19/01/2014 01:02

Voyage, people who have pubic hair around their bum hole aren't deformed and don't need a trip to their gp. Hth.

LilBlondePessimist · 19/01/2014 01:03

Apologies voyage, that post wasn't to you, it was to oxford, re your post.

Thants · 19/01/2014 01:05

I too have self harmed so I don't say it lightly. I just think this sort of self harm is so normalised by society that we don't think of it as such. Women are simply expected to do anything including go through pain in the pursuit of beauty. I have waxed as a teenager and look back on why I felt so insecure about my body that I had to hurt myself.

legoplayingmumsunite · 19/01/2014 01:09

I'm 43 and when I married DH a million years ago it was completely normal to have pubes. So obviously I have never shaved or waxed and he has never expected me to. My DSis is 10 years younger and I know she doesn't follow these fashions either. I'm sure in another 10 years a shaved fanny will look as old fashioned as a rose tattoo on the shoulderblade does now.

isn't feminism being able to choose for oneself?

No, feminism is about equality between the sexes. Last time I checked it was equally OK for a man to be clean shaven or hairy on whichever part of his body he wanted to be. Since there are regularly 'should I wax before labour?' threads on MN, I don't think I'm unreasonable to assume that there is quite a lot of pressure on younger women to be hair free these days.

CheesyBadger · 19/01/2014 01:10

I trim a little as my pubes are fairly straight, so it gets on my nerves, but it isn't for cosmetic reasons.

TaraLott · 19/01/2014 01:18

It isn't cleaner, it started as a porn thing and made it's woman hating way into mainstream lives via the internet and lads mags.
Now young girls are conditioned into thinking it's cleaner and tidier and boys won't like it unshaved.
And boys often don't sadly.
They somehow have learned to think it's unpleasant too.

nirishma · 19/01/2014 01:22

I'm 26 and can't be bothered after giving birth I figure my husband has seen worse down there. Hell he still wants to have sex with it after seeing it being stitched up -tmi maybe? Sorry. I did used to shave it all the time from my early 20s . In fact, I booked a Brazilian prior to our wedding day as a surprise for him but I chickened out at the last minute and whipped out my trusty razor.

I really don't miss the itchy stubble at all

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