To not want my dd to be called a skid

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Not a thread about a thread but a thread about a term used on lots of threads in 'step parenting'.

I've never seen step children referred to as skids in any other place, but it seems that the step parenting board uses it quite frequently.

Like skid marks? A bit off poo left behind in pants when someone doesn't wipe properly. Nice. Is this an acceptable way to refer to anyone's children?

Dsc uses less letters so would be quicker, so why use skids? Is it a reflection on how you feel about your dsc?

AIBU to find this offensive?

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I think its horrid. I think 'kids' is common and skids is just a nasty word.

And I tend to think if people find a word offensive because of their situation, well as a nice person, I don't use it.

I would also love to know how often the word 'skids' is used in a loving way

It makes me think of "on the skids" or "skid row" not very nice.

Kids is a word. SKids is short hand for Step Kids.

No one is going around calling kids Skids. No one has called the OPs daughter a skid either. Its short hand. Reading it as skids makes no difference to me as its just short hand.

Its not like they call them Skids in RL.

I call my son The 'Tude here. I call him worse in RL

But skids is not a word with great connotations is it? Honestly, if someone who is in a step relationship says it offends them - then I think its nice not to use it.

I was a step-child though so may be ever so slightly biased

I'm a stepchild myself.

Skids os just short hand. They aren't calling kids skids. I have seen it and never thought "oh they are calling them a shit stain"

Ooh a PO Fred
Or a Fred about a Fred

I see SKid all the time on step parents board it doesn't remind me of skid as in skidding in a car nor shit stains on pants

Don't forget that a lot of 'dsc' are not actually that dear to some step parents for varying reasons so will be referred to as I do, 'SS' or 'SD' and I take zero offence to SKid on a forum where acronyms are commonplace.

I would however have a strop if I heard anyone using derogatory terms needlessly in reference to a child.

Maybe I should go off and make a Fred about t'other Fred making it clear that I don't agree with using siblings as babysitters either due to the responsibility on the older child or the very real possibility that abuse could take place. Or maybe I'll just not hoik up the judgy pants and leave people be.

It would seem odd to see someone say;

"DH and DD are on the way to pick up the Skids."

If you're using the 'D' acronyms for your husband and daughter, why not for the step DC?

I do hate it when people say others are professionally offended. Basically, you're just trying to shut someone else down from finding something upsetting/offensive. It makes the person saying "PO" sound like a complete arse.

Ive noticed most of mn dont like the term kid, whenever I see it it is usually followed by a whole bunch of posters saying how much they dislike it and dc are not goats etc.

So I dont see how its ok to refer to sc or dsc as skids, its not even quicker or easier to write

This is all a bit silly!

Does anyone even read it as "skids"? Anytime I've read it, my brain automatically reads it as "ess-kids" the same way I don't read dc as "dick" or dack or duck and automatically read it as "dee-see".

I've never noticed this term her before personally but would never call my DSD that. She's my Lovely Bundle Of Cuddles. That is her name. End of.

I cant say it offends me but I do wonder why it is being used, you dont see alot of my child or the children used, its usually my dc. Why isnt my dsc or sc good enough and why dont you ever see skid used in other topics. Unless its because really sp know it might cause offence

And that's lovely usingmyredpen.

As I said before - I wonder how often Skids is used in terms of 'oooh my wonderful skids just did this . . .'

And if someone who has a child who is a step-child to someone else says they find the term horrible. Well honestly its not hard to just say dsc is it?

And yes, the whole PO thing is so tiresome.

Lukeatme-only the dozens of people who've explained how they read it and how offensive they find it. Silly you.

using. You're lovely

I'm not sure whether my dd has ever been called this. My dh her dsf wouldn't dream of it. Xp gf? I don't know. He treats her like an inconvenience and she can be quite fickle (or that could just be my impression of her). I suspect she is a mn member, but in not going to search through the bazzilion posts just to try and troll find her. That would be daft.

If I ever heard her being called this, outloud or as an abbreviation, I'd be furious. I'm wondering how many DM and df out there would be happy with their dc being referred to in this way, especially as others have said when the poster/commenter's other children are referred to as darling/dear children?

Says who Needsholiday ?

Well I see what you are saying needa, but I dont think everyone would feel that way.

Im sure exh partner doesnt always think ds is a dsc, the same way as I dont always think hes a ds